in thinking that there should be a "what not to do" Book for MIL's?

[Kitkatqueen]

Ok, so there have been quite a few MIL aibu's lately including the 1st Haircut another memorable one for me was the MIL who gave her grandchild his 1st food while his mum had popped to the shops. Oh!! and the MIL who wanted to "suckle" her grandchild so that she could bond with them.....

Upset was caused, trust was lost, so what is the "line"? what shouldn't MIL's do?

I'm hoping that one day I will be a MIL 4 times over and I would hate to think that I had caused so much upset. So...
What have your MIL's done that they shouldn't iyvho?

Things I would like to say to my MIL:

When you are invited to the hospital only a few hours after your DIL has given birth, your first comment about the baby should not be 'I don't know who he looks like.' Indeed never say it! Everyone else thinks he looks just like his Dad so I can only assume you are insinuating something nasty.

Don't offer to take your DIL's 10 day old first baby off her hands for the day so that she can get on top of the house work. Do I need to list the reasons why? If so, they might include:

• We are still bonding with our newborn during my husband's precious paternity leave.
• I am breastfeeding on demand
• I am still bleeding heavily and have no intention of scrubbing the floors.

I love my husband so much for suggesting that she might like to help us with the cleaning so that we can spend time with the baby. She didn't accept the offer!