For hating this teen phrase?

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Didn't put it in the subject header incase it offended anyone!

But basically DS has gotten into the habit of saying "spaz" a lot. For instance when DS2 couldn't get the PC working and then realised it wasn't plugged in DS1 said "you spaz!" etc.

I told him off and asked him not to say it but I think they're saying it that often at school it comes out too naturally.

When DS's friend was here the other night, DS was messing around and his friend said "come on, don't be a spaz"

Another variation is spaz attack. For instance "oh mum it was so funny in history today, everyone was messing around and Mr Smith ended up just having a total spaz attack!"

And now I've just seen on facebook he and some other teens on my friend list have joined a group called "Having a dream about falling over and then having a total spaz attack in my bed"

Am I over-reacting? should I still try and stop him even though it seems they're all saying it?

well shiney I hope if the op considers it "normal" she won't be bothered when her son gets thumped(as happened to the last lad who used it in ref to dd, not by ds may I add but by another lad)

coldtits, thats the same as me, I say 'gay' in the same way you do, means nothing to do with gay people, my sister recently came out as bi and brought her girlfriend round I almost said something was 'gay' about 3 times.

The fact I had to stop myself made me realise maybe its not a term I should use!

But its just one of those words thats always been said round here but not in referece to homosexual people just meaning thats 'crap/lame'

muffin I am surprised by what you said to your friend. It is something I have come across on here before and although I can understand where it's coming from it seems extreme.

Do you really believe that if your friend had a disabled child she would be unable to love it? I'm not surprised it knocked the "smirk off her face".

I don't want a fight here and i know I may get one but that comment seems to come from a general anger which has then been focussed on your friend.

People use words like this without thinking, yes, surely better to point it out and let them draw their own conclusions ie they are being offensive than outright tell them that you understand that they literaly meant what they said and they actively hate the people the word refers to.

If it's normal doesn't mean it is right. When I was at school, it was normal to bully weak children by knocking them down and rubbing their faces in snow. There are schools where racial bullying is perfectly normal. Doesn't mean I'd let my children get away with it.

The problem with the word 'normal' is that the meaning then shifts from "what is commonly done in this environment" to a sense of "can't do anything to stop it", "can't expect my children to be different from their peers". Oh yes I can!

As far as I am concerned, "normal" is totally irrelevant. What matters is what is right and kind.

i wonder if any one would say it was "normal" if it was a racist word!!!
these threads make me fume.

I am sure we could dig up plenty of schools where paki bashing is perfectly normal. Also places where it is perfectly normal for teenage boys to talk of women as slags and sluts and fat bitches. So that's all right then?

dont like that word at all !!

Op didn't say she thought it was a normal thing to say. She told her DS off.

i haven't seen anyone on this thread say that this is an acceptable word for people to use.

retard, moron or spaz use any of those words on mn and i will pull you up about it they are disgusting (as it wankstain shudder) but its not offensive

that is the first 3 ARE offensive IYSWIM

why is moron offensive?

here is disused medical term.

I guess that rules out imbecile, idiot and stupid too, looking at that page.

Moron is a disused medical term, but it was rung above idiot, technically. So if you are saying that moron is deeply offensive I do hope you are shocked and appalled when someone says idiot?
But I'm guessing not, which is what really irritates me about these discussions.

I'm not being difficult, I'm interested to know this to get things straight in my head.

What word is acceptable if I want to say that someone has done something "idiotic" (for the sake of this exapmle) like driving through a red light. Or if I forget to take spare knickers to DDs nursery, what do I use to chastise myself? At the moment I would say "I have been an idiot" or "I have done something really stupid".

Are we saying that all negative words are bad - as most will have their roots in something offensive, as that is the nature of negative words.

But why? And to who? I don't find moron any more offensive than idiot, and I doubt I'm alone. Why is someone elses opinion of an arbitrary word more important?

What about sick?Another medical term used a lot and could be referring to me as I am sick usually at least 3 times a month!with an ongoing medical condition