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To want to say what I really feel hear goes?anyone else care to share

286 replies

mummybegood · 01/02/2010 21:04

Fil & Mil no I dont want you phoning me everyday and checking up on the kids telling me what best for my children and no I dont want you to just tell me your coming over now without asking its not convient.
I really need to grow a backbone and say how I feel to people but in a nice way instead of being walked over like I do aibu.

OP posts:
SixtyFootDoll · 01/02/2010 21:54

NO I dont want to set up a direct debit for a bloody dog charity, there's just been a bloody earthquake for fucks sake!

chaostrulyreigns · 01/02/2010 21:54

Dear DD3's friend's mom.

I do not care what ORT book your PFB is on. I know she is advanced (you've told me often enough), but my DD3 will have better teeth!

Ha

theladyevenstar · 01/02/2010 21:55

TSC YVW shhh don't let ppl know i am nice lol

Mmmcoffee · 01/02/2010 21:57

Dear friend, I am NOT your personal problem-solver. Next time you have a desperate life-or-death crisis, like your electric goes out, or your computer crashes because you clicked a stupid link and got a virus, or your daughter feels a bit sick at school, ring your bloody husband who fucked off to America for a year. Ring your dad who lives half an hour away from you. DO NOT ring me and cry and say life is so hard for you and ask me to drive forty fucking miles to your house to fix things up.

I DD who needs me AT HOME WHEN SHE GETS IN FROM SCHOOL.

MadameDefarge · 01/02/2010 21:57

Darling Cousin with Marvellous Partner and PFB...please stop telling me how unreasonable I am to have no faith in our LEA...your baby is one year old, so what would you know? Mine is nine. Yes, I might be a bit jaundiced about the educational provision in our borough, but you my dear still have rose tinted specs firmly welded on.

It does not make me hysterical. Grhh.

Antdamm · 01/02/2010 21:58

Dear SIL (again) please stop dressing like a 16year old - you are 25 and a mother of two - it doesnt suit you, its actually quite embarassing.

DP - (again) the next time we have a 'family' discussion and you answer no - I would like an explanation as to why this is your answer - its not much to ask for

BicycleBelle · 01/02/2010 22:01

Dear DM, I do not phone you because every time I speak to you you moan at me, criticise me, and undermine me. I do not bring the kids to see you because you appear to dislike them as much as you do me, and I will not have you being as nasty to them as you are to me. My working full time is not about neglecting the kids and failing to be a good wife, its about paying the bloody mortgage. So, either f* off and leave us alone or learn to behave better. How come most mums love their kids / grandkids and its beyond you?
Wish I could say it in RL!

theladyevenstar · 01/02/2010 22:02

Dear DS1's biological Grandmother, i do not care if you have been having a hard time since your second husband died, he is the person who yelled at DS1 and told him neither of you wanted anything to do with him....now deal with it! He is not that little boy of 5 who phoned you because he had just lost his grandad he is now an 11yr old and knows what arseholes your family are.

Dear DS2's biological grandmother, realise one thing you are missing out on a grandson all because 6 yrs ago your son left his partner of 22yrs. how is that any different to what you did???

DS2 is not missing out because he has no idea who you are you stupid bint

theladyevenstar · 01/02/2010 22:03

bicyclebelle, i would love to say the things i have said here in RL as well lol

DuelingFanjo · 01/02/2010 22:06

We have been trying for two years actually, but because of my age one miscarriage is about all we've been able to manage and no, I am not really that interested in seeing pictures of our scan your positive pregnancy test, your scan and your bump on facebook.

LilyLovesSid · 01/02/2010 23:22

DP - while in many ways you are the perfect partner, your occasional complete thoughtlessness sometimes makes me want to scream. And no, I have not forgotten about that time when you mortified me in front of all my friends when I was 7 months pregnant with DD2, nor will I, so if on the odd occasion it gets brought up do not tell me to forget about it. Oh, and while you're there, 8 years and 2 kids - still not enough to get off your arse and ask me to marry you huh?

DBIL - I know you have depression, and I'm sorry you are so low at the moment. I also know I'm not a qualified counsellor. I'm sorry I do not have all the answers. I have advised you to talk to your GP and get some help, but that's all I can do. Please, I have no problem in talking to you, but I can't solve your problems for you.

MIL - no, I'm not going to stop breastfeeding because you are uncomfortable with it. And, if you offer to look after the kids, please could you make sure you actually do the basic things they need, like put them down for a nap (just because DD1 is running around doesn't mean she doesn't need a break) and feeding them proper food (crisps and biscuits are not a substitute for lunch when DD1 won't eat her sandwich, and a bottle of EBM is not in any way gross, so bloody well give it to DD2 when she's hungry).

Wow. This is cathartic!

theladyevenstar · 01/02/2010 23:26

This should become a regular thing!!!

SolidGoldBrass · 01/02/2010 23:30

Dear DS dad
Stop using the fucking roasting tin to cook DS' fish fingers in. Use the fucking baking tray like I told you to.

Strawbezza · 01/02/2010 23:31

'Sorry, you seem to have mistaken me for someone who gives a fuck'

Comewhinewithme · 01/02/2010 23:32

Dear woman at school
Please take better care of your daughter and send her to school in something that fits.
Also please stop letting her walk home alone she is six FFS you are sat on your ass at home while your little girl crosses roads to get back to you.
I know your life is shit and you have stuff to deal with but it is breaking my heart everytime I see her.
thanks.

coldtits · 01/02/2010 23:35

You know who you are

I love you more than I can possibly admit to you, and if I'm sometimes a bit flippant and offish it's because it's that or borderline obsessive.

I give a facade of being totally trusting and easy going, whereas in fact, if I can't get hold of you on the phone when i think I should be able to, I almost fall to bits and can't sleep that night, or at all until I speak to you - but you'll never know this because it's weird.

I'm actually struggling with the distance part of our relationship, because I miss you really badly in the week. However, the distance part is a good thing, as it's stopped love developing into full on stalking.

Hopefully you'll never find out how strange I am inside - but knowing you, you'd think it was funny instead of disturbing because you tend to be awesome like that.

And I actually like the smell of your armpits, stop covering them in Lynx. It makes me sneeze.

junkcollector · 01/02/2010 23:41

Dear Dad, You are turning into a horrible bitter, racist, lazy old man and I fear for your future. You are in the situation you are in because YOU put yourself there. Make friends with your sister so you can go to your niece's wedding. DO NOT drink too much. DO NOT offend everyone. STOP flaking on every arrangement. START living!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Tortington · 01/02/2010 23:43

Allan. fuck right off.

blinks · 01/02/2010 23:45

well, youasked for it.

mother-

i will never forgive you and even though i love you, i never want to see you again as long as i live. i go to sleep hating you.

father-

it's all about you, you fucker. you're a creepy perv and you made my adolescence hell. if you come anywhere near my children i'll kill you.

TimothyTigerTuppennyTail · 01/02/2010 23:47

Dear Everyone,

I hate my husband, stop trying to pretend I don't. He is a prick. Yes he does have a few good points, but believe me they do not compensate for the bad. You only see the 'public face'. So just accept it please.

Thank you.

blinks · 01/02/2010 23:48

oooh this is goooood.

FIL-

having threesomes infront of your child is fucking child abuse and i hope you rot in hell.

MIL-

you're not worthy of your son's love.

JeMeSouviens · 01/02/2010 23:50

Dear Acquantince that has just had a baby girl, you are not a "new mom", you are also the mother of a 3yo little boy, don't forget about him, now you have the girl that you always wanted

momofnearly2 · 01/02/2010 23:51

Friend - If you insist on weaning your baby at 12 weeks old then please stop complaining when he isn't sleeping at night because he's got such tummy ache he is curling himself up in a ball. If you wish to stop his tummy ache's then stop forcing solids down his throat.

(I know it's a mothers decision when to wean her child but seriously you can tell this child is in distress everytime his mom goes near him with a spoon)

Mom - I'm pregnant

BicycleBelle · 01/02/2010 23:52

Blimey !! . Suddenly, having critical parents doesn't seem quite so bad!

blinks · 01/02/2010 23:56

my job is done then BB