...to think that a man who "doesn't drive" is not remotely sexy

[AnyFucker]

I saw this on another thread (doesn't matter which) and didn't want to hijack it with my silly ramblings

but, I can't imagine being with a man who "doesn't drive" (disabilities notwithstanding)

just someone too lazy to learn, who would let their OH chauffeur them around

there is something very appealing (sexy) about a man who drives well

mind you, I have a thing about a well-shaped wrist on a man , and driving in short sleeves shows that off to perfection

am I showing my age here ?

Incontinentiabotox

AF said "disabilities aside". I have epilepsy and have never been able to drive but surely you are being slightly oversensititve?

Tonight I shall mostly be agreeing with heQet.

OP - this is a problem that can be fixed. My DH couldn't drive so I taught him and bought him a car (with his money )

Madoldcrone - my dh drives

Read the OP incontinentia fully, your DH's disability/health reasons were not being 'sneered at'. OP was stating her preference.

i was brought up in a family full of petrol heads so it really is no surprise that OH is also a petrol head and many of our dates when we started going out involved petrol heady things. i would find it very strange to date someone who didnt drive but i would write them off because of it.

To incontinentia - the OP said:

"..disabilities notwithstanding..just someone too lazy to learn, who would let their OH chauffeur them around"

I thought that meant men who choose not to learn to drive, not men who cannot drive because of a medical condition.

because my dh doesn't tend to wear a T-shirt with

"I'm narcoleptic, not lazy and effeminate!"

emblazoned across it

aren't their enough mindless assumptions going on without people recreationally inventing more things to sneer at?

it's a stupid, shallow crap post ffs

I disagree. There is actually someting very attractive about a man who deliberately eschews the traditional and bog-standard - and I'm not being defensive as I don't actually properly know any men who don't drive.

No back seat driving from a non-driving spouse, or advice on how to get from A to B or money spent on car magazines...
Mr Darcy couldn't drive, didn't do him any harm.

sorry, that should say wouldn't write them off because of it.

But people don't NEED to drive.

We get all the kids to school, playgroup, friends houses, we shop, we visit people, we go for days out... all without driving.

So you really think we should spend a few thousand on a car, hundreds on driving lessonss, MOTs, tax and running costs for DH to not be a 'wuss'or be sexy ??

Ibet if you stood all the blokes who drove to work/school/shops next to all the blokes that walked/cycle then you would see whos sexier!!!

there, not their

yes, I read it - the silly little "excluding sn of course" doesn't usually work on threads about stupid ignorant assumptions - it ain't working on this one either

grow up!

YABU, but I am also U because I agree with you. It doesn't make sense and it's not fair, but men who drive well have an extra string of hotness to their bow, as it were.

Men who drive badly, otoh: no.

I don't drive myself, so am even more U in thinking this (but DP does drive, and is good at it)

dh doesn't drive(can but isn't allowed due to health reasons) he cycles and phoar he is hot cos of it...mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

Snort at sedan chair!

What if he rides a meaty motorbike rather than a mondeo?

And Riven, blokes who cycle are uber hot, for sure!

(My DH drives. Sensibly.)

Oh but may I just add, I don't think they need to be really into it or even to do it frequently. They just need to be able to do it

So all that nonsense about a woman liking a man with intelligence, a sexy smile or a way with flowers is all hot air? It's a petrolhead that the majority crave?
Am I finally a member of the discerning minority?

All this talk about male drivers just make me think of the Top Gear lot. Surely the 3 most unsexy men on TV

I don't drive. Have a bit of a phobia (also don't fly). It is a right pain in the ass but I am very honest about it to anyone who will listen and you would be amazed how many people (men and women) admit to me that they have similar fears. Mind you they always wait till I unburden myself. I think it is far more common than you think. One woman used to try and tell me to sort myself out and used to make me feel shite. A couple of years down the line and a few glasses of wine and she admits that she is terrified of driving too.

I have been in two car crashes and my mother was in a terrible car crash and couldn't walk for a year. I don't find driving sexy at all. DP can drive.

My Politics lecturer was so very sexy. I remember feeling very put out when I learned that everyone fancied him.

Anyway, he didn't drive.

Agree with Dorothea, DH isn't a petrol head and he cycles to work, I'm glad he can do it though.

You know what I think is sexy? A man who does what he thinks best, not one who does things because a man is 'supposed' to. To thine own self be true and all that . That takes confidence and confidence is the sexist quality there is.