to ask why this woman keeps telling my fiance she is in love with him

[kellze]

She and my fiance had a very brief relationship a few years ago and only slept together once. He is in Australia atm visiting friends and family before birth of our first child and has met up with this woman as a group with mutual friends. She ended up telling him how she still loves him and wants to be with him and would do anything for him etc.

He told her there was no chance and she had missed that boat and that he was very happy with me etc.

I believe there would never be a chance of anything happening between them and trust him totally but I want to know why the hell she thinks it is ok to tell him this stuff.

Do I ask her?

Well, the question I would ask this woman in her Facebook 24 hours of honesty is "Have you been shagging my fiance while he is in Oz"

She's not going to your wedding! NO NO NO

If she turns up turf her dirty arse out what a nerve!!! Am on your behalf and my reasonable post from before has been ruined

My son will not have nationality but can apply for it. I have visa in place so there are no issues there as he is automatically included on my visa.

I don't find DP unduly immature tbh. He is starting Uni because he feels left behind and with family and responsibilities he sees it as having to happen now.

I was made redundant this week. So he won't be living off me. We have a job lined up for him on his return. I'm not quite so stupid as to let anyone take advantage of me financially. The children come first and I always make sure they are ok. It is a real bugger to have to look for work when you are pregnant though.

at turf her dirty arse out.

Make up a false name and ask her some searching questions on her 24 hour of telling the truth.

I didn't mean to imply that you are stupid, it is just that from what you have posted here, it all sounds a bit dodgy/unstable etc.

We can only go on what is actually here though and you obviously have a much much bigger picture. This chick just sounds like more of a symptom than a problem in her own right.

I hadn't thought of that. Any other questions I should ask her?

Sorry Morloth, I didn't think you had implied that, and part of the reason we are staying here for so long is to be sure and to work out any issues we may have. You are right though, I do think there are other issues to deal with but She in herself is a big one for me.

Um, what's he been doing out there for all this time (none of my business and of course not relevant to your OP), surely it doesn't take that long to defer a uni place?

He has been bumming around with his mates a bit and his parents a lot. He wouldn't have heard about his uni place until january. It works a bit backwards over there

a 25 year old bumming around with his mates while his fiance is pregnant and working on the other side of the planet. Nice.

I am pretty sure he could have deferred his place from here. We are not quite that backwards.

Which university is it?

Not backwards as in DUHHHH. But he's from Queensland. He could have and should have but he didn't. It caused a few arguments. But I'm over that now.

Oh well Queensland, as a Sydney girl I will give you backwards.

I know I said this upthread but it all just sounds so incredibly dodgy Kellze, these are not the actions of a man ready to settle down, have a baby and get married.

He sounds like he is playing silly buggers.

I really hope not, but I am def going into it with open eyes and making sure it is the right thing before we emigrate

You seem awfully keen on keeping him sweet and appeasing him though kellze - not wanting to stop him seeing this "friend" in case of confrontation, agreeing to him going away for moths while you're pregnant even though you really didn't want him to...

Are you really going into this with "open eyes"? Sounds as though you're keeping them quite firmly squeezed shut to me.

I'm sorry Kellze, that sounds awfully harsh. I really do hope all works out for you, but on the basis of what you've said here, it sounds as though the two of you have got a fair few issues that really out to be addressed before the baby arrives and you move you and your children to the other side of the world to get hitched to a guy who has spent the last four months "bumming around".

Maybe your question should be

'Do you understand that there's no way you're coming to our wedding now that you have tried it on with my fiance- my baby's dad? How inappropriate. Let's not be false about this, you've crossed the line.'

Then when she tries to respond, etc, just delete her and make sure he blocks her.

Originally I thought no, don't lower yourself, he's dealt with it, etc. But there's no way she should be going to your wedding. That would be such a big turd on your beautiful day.

not to mention make sure it is the right thing before you MARRY this guy. If you do emigrate, you might not ever get your baby out of australia should you split up, and you would be truly stuck.

Once again, I know you didn't ask for relationship advice. But if it were me and I still wanted to give it a go with him, I would insist on living in the UK (unmarried) for at the very least 2-3 years, possibly longer.

After all she IS inviting people to ask her things. Maybe she too is unhappy about the status quo. But it is not like she can actually email you and say "you know what, your fiance is a twotiming shag head" because you would never believe her.

I reckon she's trying to work out whether you know.

Do you know what occured to me...why on earth is this man telling his pregnant and very far away DP that some bint in australia is practically throwing herself at him??? I'd be questioning his motives not hers.