Potential fraud?

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I am prepared to be flamed so go ahead but WWYD in my situation?

In brief - DH and I split up last year. 6 months ago, I lost my job due to depression and have since started getting better, have been living on benefits since then with DH paying maintenance for our 3 DCs. I have been desperately trying to get another job but my sickness record at my last job has gone against me. Last month, I was given notice to quit my rented house because the landlord wants to sell - runs out end of Jan.

Over the last few months DH and I have been giving our relationship another go and fell into bed last month (definitely not planned) and I have just found out I'm pregnant which was not supposed to happen . We have discussed it at length and want to get back together (we split up because we have been through a lot of shit over the last few years and blamed each other and basically were hating each other all the time). Time apart has helped sort that out and he has been round almost everyday to see the kids so they have not been that badly affected.

Now I had been to the council (before I found out about the pregnancy) and told them that I am about to be made homeless and they basically said that I would have to find another private rent or they would put me in a B&B.

Now bad as this sounds, I want to try for a council house (even if it means a B&B for a few months as the rents are so high in this area (1000 for a passable 3 bed and now I will need a 4 bed which will be about 1200) so do not intend to get back with DH 'officially' until this happens. DH works but only brings in about 1800 a month and we will never be able to live on his wage in private rented especially as I won't be able to work with a baby and I can't stand the insecurity of having to move all the time (we have moved 3 times in the last 3 years). I am also bankrupt and will not be able to private rent unless I have a guarantor which I don't! Part of the reason for the problems with DH and I were financial as we lost everything (including our own home) when his business went under a few years back. He will also have to go bankrupt soon as his debts have been hanging around and with another child to pay for, he will not be able to pay them.

DH has his own flat and is not actually living with me so AIBU and a total scumbag to try and get a council house as a single parent??

Yeah, I'm going to let it go now- it is pointless trying to persuade some of the posters here that just because two people are having sex they are AUTOMATICALLY providing financial support for one another.

They all want to live in a society where women are effectively prostitutes and are deemed worthy of financial support from a man because they are sleeping with him.

Sorry that should be "NOT AUTOMATICALLY".

< opens marantha's gob and shoves mince pie in >

Marantha- you are not solidgoldbrass in disguise are you?

You know, I think I'll get my DH to kip down in a someone's caravan in the new year and say I am separated, then claim benefits.

Who's to know (he'll be popping round for cocoa and giving me maintenance)?

Agree with violethill.

Maranatha you strike me as a very angry person I really think you need to find some inner peace man

Maranatha - your comments about what happens on Mumsnet stays on Mumsnet has had me chuckling to myself for hours. Not had interenet access for long eh ?

OP - you've had a crap time IRL but you can't expect to take the piss and have people pat you on the back for it. What exactly does your husband have to say about all of this, as if he's aware of your plans, he's as guilty of fraud as you are ?

Yor comments about only having £1800 a month plus all the extras are staggering.
If you are genuine,step away from MN and think about what you are planning to do and what you will potentially put your children through.
If, after all that, you still don't give a shit, then it's you who has to live with the consequences.

Sassybeast Obviously- like any internet site- this site is viewable for any with an internet connection to see.

I have had the internet now for about 10 years.
I meant that it was not good to encourage a "I'll grass you up" culture on a site like this as it tends to stem debate and makes people timid about the questions they ask.

Let's face it, people ask questions here that they can't ask in real life and that's a good thing- I for one do not think it's in anyone's interest to stem that debate, do you?

hobnobs... And you AREN'T a little miffed that in a supposedly post-feminist society a woman is still seen as an attachment of a man and that he is expected to provide for her financially because she is sleeping with him/ in a relationship? That doesn't pee you off just a teeny bit?

sb6... I have to say that although doing that would be morally dubious- can't argue with that, couples do this all the time and it ISN'T illegal.

maranatha Trust me it doesn't keep me awake at night. I have to say that parents (note parents of either sex) should provide for their children financially and not expect the state in anything but exceptional circumstances to bail them out. Beyond that I think this thread needs to follow Santa back to the North Pole and we all need a post xmas chillax.