AIBU to wonder why anyone would want to live like this?

[LetThereBeRock]

I know this could be a controversial topic, most likely will be,and each to their own, none of my business etc but I really can't understand it.

A friend is getting married soon.She's a real bibliophile,as is her soon to be dh, and has asked for several books on her wedding list.

However some of the books she has asked for are rather odd,The Surrendered Wife for example, The Politically Incorrect Wife,Liberated Through Submission and similarly titled books.

I've Googled them and the lifestyle they advocate certainly isn't one that I agree with or would care for.

An example from The Surrendered Wife ' surrendered wife always says yes and is always available for sex."'

I thought at first that the wedding list was a bit of a joke, but I've spoken to her since,albeit briefly, and apparently it's not.

So AIBU to wonder why anyone would want to live a submissive life, and AIBU to think that's it rather odd to request such things on one's wedding list?

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Having spoken to DH, he thinks there is a bit of feminism in me, in that I expect equality from him and anyone else that i meet BUT I don't call myself a feminist because I want to do the house things and the main child caring and I want my man to be manly and do all the physical stuff. I also agree with submission, but from both sides in different ways. I think sex should be freely available (from both sides) etc etc etc

What is it your feminists DO exactly?

What does that make me?

I agree you cant judge it one what happened at my school. What I am saying is it also mentioned schooling. I saw NO evidence of that.

I just don't 'get it'. I am intruiged though.

Heh, I wont jump on you. I like to know what he thinks though, for the same reason you like to know what anybody thinks. No good only listening to yourself. What knowledge and insight will you gain like that?

OK submission on both sides...

e.g DH likes to get his own way in a few areas and gave in to me who wanted the opposite and vise versa. No submission as such, just comprimise. Part of a normal relationship.

TBH I dont care to give myself a title. I do what I think right in the situation at hand and try to be fair.

Argh I am so fed up of this arguement - I am sitting here exhausted and I cant see or think straight.

I am sure I will see you ladies on another feminism debate on here soon (there have been LOADS recently haven't there) but I have to leave this one for my own sanity (I always say that and come back later )

I may have a look at those links tomorrow. Night dittany, good discussing with you. (I do love the little hat)