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AIBU to not give the child a biscuit

292 replies

Lifeinagoldfishbowl · 10/12/2009 14:07

Went to Tesco's this morning to do the grocery shop before hopping on the bus home.

Got a bit peckish so opened a new packet of chocolate bourbons and started reading my book before I noticed a 3-4 year old kicking off shouting he wanted a biscuit.

Cue the mum of said child turning to the child and saying "Would you like a biscuit?", child obviously says yes and the mum turned to me.

I carried on reading my book and the mum attracted my attention and asked for a bisucit for the still tantruming child.

I refused to give the child a biscuit - cue the child tantruming until he got off the bus 10 minutes later and lots of looks from the mum.

So should I have given the child a biscuit - I wouldn't have expected anyone to give dc (2.2) a biscuit and would have soon told him to stop tantruming and causing a nuisance on the bus.

OP posts:
CupOChristmasCheerfulYank · 10/12/2009 17:59

Right-o, cat. Will stuff some nylons in my bra and be right over.

MostHighlyFavouredLady · 10/12/2009 17:59

What is it with MN and biscuits?!?!??

SCargot · 10/12/2009 18:00

i rarely eat a biscuit as i can only eat home cooked( am thesame with instant coffee)

i was born for more than this

However..
i am a crisp merchant

TisTheSeasonToBeHully · 10/12/2009 18:04

I'd give the child to the biscuit

justaboutisfatandtired · 10/12/2009 18:09

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CupOChristmasCheerfulYank · 10/12/2009 18:11

You would, hully. And who is watching Mr. Rochester whilst you galavant over different threads, hmmm?

Mincepiedermama · 10/12/2009 18:13

YANBU.

You would have sent out a terrible message had you given the screaming child a biscuit ie that if you kick off on a bus then it's incumbent upon perfect strangers to give up their food for you.

As the mum I would actually be annoyed if a stranger had given my child a biscuit as a reward for a tantrum.

I've said it once and I'll say it again. YANBU.

TisTheSeasonToBeHully · 10/12/2009 18:21

It was only a v v brief galavant, honest, Cheerful. And he's had his sedatives.

HEIFERmerrychristmas · 10/12/2009 18:24

Parp at "i can only eat home cooked" (biscuits)

Poncetastic

SCargot · 10/12/2009 18:25

oh i do love a parp
yes i am a ponce in that respeck

SCargot · 10/12/2009 18:26

oh god i am offending alll today so in for a penny
tired to email you jsutabout but all me autoprompt email addresses are gorn post virus

ping me baby

EdgarAleNPie · 10/12/2009 18:31

hven't read thread - you are so not unreasonable.

i can't believe anyone would think otherwise.

now to enjoy the journey, having picked my destination.....19 pages!

poinsettydawg · 10/12/2009 18:43

As bourbons cost about 29p for 60, I'd have offered a biscuit.

For the price of a tuppence bourbon, everyone would have been happy.

poinsettydawg · 10/12/2009 18:44

lol @ yank saying 'oh I have a cold and cannot spred my germs'. Is grinch your middle name?

EdgarAleNPie · 10/12/2009 18:45

i think there is a difference between taking the piss out of SN, and taking the piss out of people who remote diagnose SN in any and all situations.

I think Scargot was definitely taking the piss out of the latter.

EdgarAleNPie · 10/12/2009 18:47

oh and, giving treats to other people children?

Are you lot Paedos??

AnnieLobeseder · 10/12/2009 18:50

I would probably have given her one but with very poor grace and much tutting and muttering about how I find it better not to reward children for bad behaviour.

YANBU, however. Cheeky mare!

Vallhala · 10/12/2009 19:00

YANBU AT ALL.

My 12 year old daughter and I are in agreement for once. We both think that the mother was incredibly rude and are quite shocked at her request to a complete stranger.

DD says she would have told the woman to "Please get some manners and buy your own biscuits whilst you're at it!".

Nice one DD!

totalmadness · 10/12/2009 19:02

wonders if dh will go down to the shop to buy bourbons

totalmadness · 10/12/2009 19:04

and no you lot cant have any

CybilLiberty · 10/12/2009 19:05

I'm going to cahnge my name to 'tuppence bourbon'

mum2all · 10/12/2009 20:13

Cant believe the cheek of that mum! It's not really about whether you should/would have given the child a biscuit or not. It's the fact that she just assumed becuase she gave into the tantrum and he wanted one that you would automatically hand it over. Like mentioned before if he'd had a strop because he wanted your glass of wine - would she have expected you to just hand that over??

YANBU at all!!!

Tortington · 10/12/2009 20:21

bourbons are shit.

that said - i want to know how the conversation went

" can my kid have a biscuit?"

"no"

it must have been more than that?

girlsyearapart · 10/12/2009 20:36

Why would you want a random bus stranger to give your child a biscuit anyway??

Sorry OP I'm sure you're very clean but have you seen some people on the bus??

cory · 10/12/2009 20:37

Feed the-e bus
Tuppence a bourb'n
Tuppence, tuppence, tuppence a bourb'n