AIBU to not give the child a biscuit

[Lifeinagoldfishbowl]

Went to Tesco's this morning to do the grocery shop before hopping on the bus home.

Got a bit peckish so opened a new packet of chocolate bourbons and started reading my book before I noticed a 3-4 year old kicking off shouting he wanted a biscuit.

Cue the mum of said child turning to the child and saying "Would you like a biscuit?", child obviously says yes and the mum turned to me.

I carried on reading my book and the mum attracted my attention and asked for a bisucit for the still tantruming child.

I refused to give the child a biscuit - cue the child tantruming until he got off the bus 10 minutes later and lots of looks from the mum.

So should I have given the child a biscuit - I wouldn't have expected anyone to give dc (2.2) a biscuit and would have soon told him to stop tantruming and causing a nuisance on the bus.

Bit late ..but I would have given the child a biscuit [soft touch, easy life emoticon]

Throw the biscuit off the bus, into the road and send the kid to get it.

I think stranger danger education goes too far.

I teach my children not to take food from strangers....

so i i wouldnt have given it to a child i didnt know either

I would have given the child a biscuit. I would then happily think of how many tantrums the little darling is going to subject his mother to until she decides to do some parenting. Its a win/win situation.

I secretly admire people who ask for things when they want them. Even if they do come over a as bit rude. I am a bit too polite myself which is probably why I ended up with nasty burns after my hot rocks massage the other day as I didn't want to tell the woman she had set the thermostat wrong .

Why should anyone feed strangers children? The Mother was seriously odd to actually presume it's ok to offer your child OTHER PEOPLES food

I would have been and at someone offering their child MY biscuits (cheeky mare), but don't think I'd have had the balls to refuse when the woman asked me for one. YANBU though.

Goldfish - I heart your non-biscuit-giving, well done. Can't bear it when parents give in to tantrums all the time.

If it were me and my DS (same age) I'd have said they were the lady's biscuits, not ours, and that if he started behaving well he could have one at home. What a rude cow that woman was to ask you - I'd never ask (and actually would never take food from strangers for my child - however intellectual you looked reading on the bus! ).

I can't believe this is actually up for discussion! Of course you don't demand some of a stranger's food, whether it's for a child or not.

I am shocked that people would refuse treats from a nice person on the bus if they offered them to your well behaved child.

Why shocked, nappyaddict? It's no big deal. I remember my mother doing it all the time when I was a girl - of course at the time I scowled inside, but it's hardly going to tear a child's world apart, is it?

late comer to thread.

I too am amazed at the woman's cheek but think I might try this myself tomorrow night.

senario: Out for meal/disco.

I spy someone sipping a bottle of Rose cue temper tantrum.
My friend to me "would you like a glass of wine?"
Me: "Yesssssssss!!!!!"
My friend to complete srtanger: "Give her a glass of wine to stop the tantrum"

Hey presto result.

I just don't get why anyone would all the time. I could understand if people sometimes said no because they'd already eaten a lot of junky stuff that day, but not to have a blanket rule of never accepting things when offered them.

YANBU

lol at muminthemiddle

I don't have a problem with sharing my food but I would have been really peed off that the woman asked her child first.

However, peed off or not I would have passed it over. Karma and all that!

So IMO YABU. A bit.

How could you say no?
Mean, vinegar-faced meanie.

I seriously doubt the tantrumming child was traumatised by the lack of biscuit. Why is this such a big deal?

Besides, delay of gratification is a crucial part of a child's emotional development.