AIBU to not give the child a biscuit

[Lifeinagoldfishbowl]

Went to Tesco's this morning to do the grocery shop before hopping on the bus home.

Got a bit peckish so opened a new packet of chocolate bourbons and started reading my book before I noticed a 3-4 year old kicking off shouting he wanted a biscuit.

Cue the mum of said child turning to the child and saying "Would you like a biscuit?", child obviously says yes and the mum turned to me.

I carried on reading my book and the mum attracted my attention and asked for a bisucit for the still tantruming child.

I refused to give the child a biscuit - cue the child tantruming until he got off the bus 10 minutes later and lots of looks from the mum.

So should I have given the child a biscuit - I wouldn't have expected anyone to give dc (2.2) a biscuit and would have soon told him to stop tantruming and causing a nuisance on the bus.

YANBU

wouldn't you prefer tea though GetOrf?

And it's up to me what I do with my biscuits if I bought them.

I don't tend to eat on buses but I have offered a biscuit/sweet to children before if it was fine with the parent and if I saw them glancing longingly at it.

However in the circumstances I certainly wouldn't want the mother to continue with the idea that she's entitled to expect that complete strangers should share their snacks/belongings etc.

I don't care if that makes me a meanie. I think the OP was right.

Rockbird - that is fine to do, I do that too.

It is when the mother expects it. That is what I find offensive.

The kid was being a brat. Fine. All kids are at some point. But or the mother to ask him and then ask OP. Rude!

I am clenching my lungs here trying not to say "more tea Vicar?" to Justabout.

HAVE A GUZZLE OUT OF MY HIPFLASK WHY DON'T YOU, EVERYONE ELSE IS.

x-post with Lettherebe

This is ridiculous! YADNBU!

I would have said, "Oh, sorry, I've got a cold and it's probably not a good idea now that I've touched them," because I'm a baby, but inside I'd be thinking, "how dare you ask me for some of my food for your screaming child you idiot woman!"

It's not to say that I wouldn't offer a cookie to a well-behaved child, of course I would. (And so I have in the past) but for the mother to just assume she can have one is very odd I think.

Which tabloid newspaper was it that accused us of being biscuit obsessed?

Yank. I am passing the hipflask round the survivors at the moment. You may wish to contribute nylons and American cigarettes to the locals who haven't seen that kind of thing for a few years. Don't you know there's been a War on?

YANBU if she was common.
YABU if she was wearing a Boden coat.

Would she accept a Bourbon if she was wearing a Boden coat though?

I think I'd have offered the mother a biscuit for the child when he started staring at them because that just seems a nice thing to do.

I think it was impolite of you not to do so, but it was more impolite of her to actually ask.

Yep, a kid looking at the bikkies and possibly even asking nicely - no worries have a bikky. Throw a tantrum? Not a fucking chance.

I honestly don't know what I would do if DS threw a tantrum over someone else's food. I suspect the reason he doesn't is because he also doesn't know what I would do.

I don't believe it is right to give into children having tantrums so YANBU.

I don't see how someone who eats Bourbon Creams on the bus gets off judging other people about manners.

< sniff >

lol
they are naff
after years of home baking and buying posh bics i have discovered my kids lOVE "Bon bon" as they call bourbons and custrad creams

teh plebs

ooh I fancy a bourbon now

Nope, I wouldnt have given the child a biscuit either.
I think the mum had a bloomin cheek myself, I would have told her to get a grip and start saying no to her child.