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AIBU to not give the child a biscuit

292 replies

Lifeinagoldfishbowl · 10/12/2009 14:07

Went to Tesco's this morning to do the grocery shop before hopping on the bus home.

Got a bit peckish so opened a new packet of chocolate bourbons and started reading my book before I noticed a 3-4 year old kicking off shouting he wanted a biscuit.

Cue the mum of said child turning to the child and saying "Would you like a biscuit?", child obviously says yes and the mum turned to me.

I carried on reading my book and the mum attracted my attention and asked for a bisucit for the still tantruming child.

I refused to give the child a biscuit - cue the child tantruming until he got off the bus 10 minutes later and lots of looks from the mum.

So should I have given the child a biscuit - I wouldn't have expected anyone to give dc (2.2) a biscuit and would have soon told him to stop tantruming and causing a nuisance on the bus.

OP posts:
VirginMaryWearsPrimark · 10/12/2009 15:33

MNHQ failed to respond to my complaint about cod.
Maybe she's on the payroll.

LetThereBeRock · 10/12/2009 15:34

I think it's extremely rude to ask, and even more so to expect as the woman on the bus did,that a stranger will share their food with you and your child. It's very odd.

Jujubean77 · 10/12/2009 15:35

weird situation but I would have said "will you calm down if I give you this?" and given it - you were a bu

SCargot · 10/12/2009 15:36

oh oyu are meanies
give the kid a biscuit!

IMoveTheStarsForNoOne · 10/12/2009 15:38

I think YABU, sorry, but you're a meany!

mumblechum · 10/12/2009 15:38

I would have given him one if he promised to shut the fuck up and let me read imn peace

SCargot · 10/12/2009 15:39

i think the mum sounded a leetle barking to expect it - hey maybe she was.
gimmebiccy

SantaWears2shoes · 10/12/2009 15:40

at the atention seeker taking the piss out of sn

mumblechum · 10/12/2009 15:41

She wasn't, Santa, she was taking the piss out of all the MN threads where someone's behaviour is inevitably explained by someone as the perp. having SN (eg the other day when someone was being insulted in the street about her weight, eventually a poster suggested he might have Tourettes).

SantaWears2shoes · 10/12/2009 15:43

didn't see that thread, imo still no excuse

VirginMaryWearsPrimark · 10/12/2009 15:43

SantaWears2shoes

finally a voice of reason. And oh - three reported posts but no word yet from mnhq.

Because yes it's funny we are all in on that joke.

GetOrfMoiLand · 10/12/2009 15:45

What the FUCK is going on?

Nobody was taking the piss out of anyone except themselves.

Who is santawears2shoes, is it the virgin mary? (there's a sentence I never thought I'd type)

GetOrfMoiLand · 10/12/2009 15:46

sorry x posts I thought you were both the same person

mumblechum · 10/12/2009 15:47

at GetOrf

ChickensHaveNoTinsel · 10/12/2009 15:49
VirginMaryWearsPrimark · 10/12/2009 15:51

Sory but things like 'sensory issues with a bourbon biscuit'

Yes that's a joke to some but as a mother of an ASD child who has various sensory issues I find that offensive.

And I believe the post was made knowing how sensitive such things are to many mumsnetters.

But because cod is some kind of fucking enigma she gets away with it and you all stand around applauding her wit.

Fuck the fuck off.

Spectroscopy · 10/12/2009 15:52

YANBU - what a cheek the woman had. However, I definately would have given him a biscuit.

GetOrfMoiLand · 10/12/2009 15:56

Nobody's applauding anyone. I made the point earlier that I equally made a crack about SN but you are reserving all your vitriol for Scargot.

I am very sorry that your DC has SN and I personally wouldn't want to offend, but I don't think the posts are as offensive as you are making out.

deaddei · 10/12/2009 15:56

You must find a hell of a lot of life offensive Virgin/Santa whoever.

pagwatch · 10/12/2009 15:58

I have a child with ASD and sensory issues and i found it funny.
I saw the abusive twat /could he have tourettes thread and that type of post makes me - which I think it why I saw the SN thing as ironic.

But I looked at the post on its own and had no notion who posted it.
If I thought it was a dig rather than irony I may feel differently I suppose...

Shodan · 10/12/2009 16:00

@ SN/intolerance/allergy debate.

To OP.

Tsk. Next time you buy biscuits and open them on the bus you should offer them to EVERYONE first, then lick the crumbs out of the packet yourself.

justaboutisfatandtired · 10/12/2009 16:07

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BaronessBarbaraKingstanding · 10/12/2009 16:08

What a pious miserly lot you are.

She wouldn't be the first or last mother in the world to just wnat to make a tantrmn go away whilst in public-even if none of you lot would ever make such a fundemetal mistake of parenting.

But to refuse to give a kid a biscuit, regardless of what you tought of their mother is pretty shitty to me.

Unless it was your ladt peice of food stuff on the planet and your own children were starving, then maybe. But the 'why shuld i share my snacks with strangers type comments' are truly mean spiritde in the extreme.

GetOrfMoiLand · 10/12/2009 16:08

Watch it that post will be deleted because you mocking the overweight.

TisTheSeasonToBeHully · 10/12/2009 16:10

I am very offended about everything and I haven't even read the thread.