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AIBU to not give the child a biscuit

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Lifeinagoldfishbowl · 10/12/2009 14:07

Went to Tesco's this morning to do the grocery shop before hopping on the bus home.

Got a bit peckish so opened a new packet of chocolate bourbons and started reading my book before I noticed a 3-4 year old kicking off shouting he wanted a biscuit.

Cue the mum of said child turning to the child and saying "Would you like a biscuit?", child obviously says yes and the mum turned to me.

I carried on reading my book and the mum attracted my attention and asked for a bisucit for the still tantruming child.

I refused to give the child a biscuit - cue the child tantruming until he got off the bus 10 minutes later and lots of looks from the mum.

So should I have given the child a biscuit - I wouldn't have expected anyone to give dc (2.2) a biscuit and would have soon told him to stop tantruming and causing a nuisance on the bus.

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CatIsSleepy · 10/12/2009 16:11

I think if the mum was desperate for the tantrum to stop and there was no other way of stopping it i would have parted with a biccy

now, go forth and do not eat bourbons in public again

justaboutisfatandtired · 10/12/2009 16:11

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CatIsSleepy · 10/12/2009 16:13

hully, I am offended that you haven't read the thread

SkipToMyLou · 10/12/2009 16:13

Well DS has allergies, and I didn't find GetOrf's post offensive, for the record.

Just in case anyone was wondering!

LetThereBeRock · 10/12/2009 16:13

I don't think it is mean. I think it's a valid point. Should the OP be expected to share with the entire bus if they all request a biscuit?

Besides I wouldn't care to reward a tantrum and I find it incredibly odd to think that anyone could think it acceptable to ask a stranger to share their food.
If I want to do so then I will, but I think it's very odd to ask someone, or expect them to hand over their snacks.

TisTheSeasonToBeHully · 10/12/2009 16:13

I am too offended to concentrate. I am going back to my empty hall.

LetThereBeRock · 10/12/2009 16:14

There's nothing wrong with Bourbons. Though they're improved considerably by dunking.

justaboutisfatandtired · 10/12/2009 16:16

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catinthehat2 · 10/12/2009 16:16

TDWP, please try not to take it so badly.
SCargot may not always have her head in the right place, but (especially lately), I think her heart is 99.99999% correctly sited. After all, she has admitted she would dish out a biscuit when most right thinking people would have dished out a clip round the ear.
I really don't think it's a dig either, only an aside on 'thread trumping' as others have pointed out.

CatIsSleepy · 10/12/2009 16:16

actually, i quite like a bourbon too

VirginMaryWearsPrimark · 10/12/2009 16:19

Oh if anyone wonders I have nothing against scargot.

Just earlier I was advising her on good fiction. She has helped me in the past with x H trouble.

But that was a cheap shot from her. An offensive one. that is all.

catinthehat2 · 10/12/2009 16:19

Would that be a single or a double Cat?

slightlycrumpled · 10/12/2009 16:20

bourbons dunked in hot chocolate are my pregnancy craving. No wonder my backside is growing at the same rate as my stomach!

I would have given a biscuit, but I am a wimp! Well done you though on being stronger than that.

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catinthehat2 · 10/12/2009 16:22

TDWP - single or double for you? Or cup of tea?

CatIsSleepy · 10/12/2009 16:22

better have the whole bottle

Rubyrubyruby · 10/12/2009 16:22

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BaronessBarbaraKingstanding · 10/12/2009 16:23

It was one friggin biscuit!!1

the entire bus did not want one so that is not the issue.

It may be a 'bit' odd but hardly the crime of the century. So hand the biscit over and think 'hmm a bit odd' and forget about it.

It's up to the mother how she deals with her kids tantrm not you, you will never see the kid again, you need not worry about the negative reinforcemeent it's not your problem.

I'd much raher be pleasant and share, even in odd circumstance then sit there stuffing my own face and congratualting myself on my moral high ground of resfuig the odd women and her angry child ONE biscuit.

I think I'd have let that victory pass on this occasion and just tried to be nice.

Rosesinautumn · 10/12/2009 16:23

Bah Humbug!.....sorry, I just felt it needed to be said.

GetOrfMoiLand · 10/12/2009 16:23

TDWP - I did wonder because I have seen you two being cordial in the past.

Cordial? Why am I speaking like a Agatha Christie character?

Anyway (don;t know whether you have posted on this thread or other) I don;t think people were ganging up either, don;t think that was a fair thing to say tbh. I aint a bully.

catinthehat2 · 10/12/2009 16:25

OK, I'm making a pot of tea, who would like one?

Cat, you can have a swig of my hip flask in a minute.

I've only got instant coffee for the non-tea drinkers.

Rubyrubyruby · 10/12/2009 16:25

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GetOrfMoiLand · 10/12/2009 16:28

I want a double jack daniels straight up.

RockBird · 10/12/2009 16:28

I have offered snacks to eyeballing children. Not brats though; a couple of times I have been in a lift and dd has been eating something. Child in buggy beside has looked at me and I have asked the mother if they would like one. These are small small children though, not tantruming ones. I'm nice I am.

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