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AIBU to not give the child a biscuit

292 replies

Lifeinagoldfishbowl · 10/12/2009 14:07

Went to Tesco's this morning to do the grocery shop before hopping on the bus home.

Got a bit peckish so opened a new packet of chocolate bourbons and started reading my book before I noticed a 3-4 year old kicking off shouting he wanted a biscuit.

Cue the mum of said child turning to the child and saying "Would you like a biscuit?", child obviously says yes and the mum turned to me.

I carried on reading my book and the mum attracted my attention and asked for a bisucit for the still tantruming child.

I refused to give the child a biscuit - cue the child tantruming until he got off the bus 10 minutes later and lots of looks from the mum.

So should I have given the child a biscuit - I wouldn't have expected anyone to give dc (2.2) a biscuit and would have soon told him to stop tantruming and causing a nuisance on the bus.

OP posts:
GetOrfMoiLand · 10/12/2009 14:35

By traceybath Thu 10-Dec-09 14:30:06
I'd have given the biscuit to child but I would so have judged

Oh Tracey that is so in the spirit of mumsnet

InMyLittleHead · 10/12/2009 14:35

Bourbons are excellent.

YANBU, that woman is an idiot. She is going to make her life difficult if she gives in to every little thing her kid tantrums for.
NEVER GIVE IN just because of a strop. Think Thatcher and Galtieri.

fillybuster · 10/12/2009 14:35

YANBU,totally. Am so with you on this one

GetOrfMoiLand · 10/12/2009 14:37

Absoultey PMSL Thatcher and Galtieri

GetOrfMoiLand · 10/12/2009 14:37

Oh this has got to go on discussion of the day.

LaurieFairyonthetreeeatscake · 10/12/2009 14:38

I would not have given a biscuit

as I could have been SUED by the mother for not ensuring the food was safe and contaminant free

and I wouldn't have left myself open to litigation

Blu · 10/12/2009 14:41

I hope it wasn't a Nestle bourbon, OP.

Fibilou · 10/12/2009 14:42

What a ridiculous sense of entitlement !

No chance would anyone's tantrumming brat get a biscuit off me. I never tantrummed when I was little - because it would have got me absolutely nowhere and likely to get a smack. Giving in to tantrums does nobody any favours

muggglewump · 10/12/2009 14:43

I'd have offered the child a biscuit, and then snatched it away just as he was about to grasp it

darcymum · 10/12/2009 14:47

I wish I had you courage, I would have just meekly said of course you can have a biscuit, would anyone else on the bus like one?

You get my vote for mum of the day.

SexySantasWearPrimark · 10/12/2009 14:50

I would have given the biscuit.

Never underestimate the small child and public transport equation.

Sccargot the learning difficulties post was a very very cheap shot

FabIsVeryFestive · 10/12/2009 14:50

I probably would have been too to refuse.

at it taking until 2.34 for the emoticon to appear.

PurpleEglu · 10/12/2009 14:50

YANBU at all. Can't believe anyone could say you were. THey were your biscuits not hers fgs.

Original poster
Lifeinagoldfishbowl · 10/12/2009 14:53

No not nestle Blu

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SexySantasWearPrimark · 10/12/2009 14:55

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pagwatch · 10/12/2009 14:56

SexySanta

do you really think it was? My Ds2 has severe SN and i thought it was funny.

Every thread with an AIBU about behaviour in public includes a poster suggesting they may have LDs or SNs ( I have posted that myself) but it is entertaining how often and inappropriately it gets posted with a sort of... 'flourish'

GoldenSnitch · 10/12/2009 14:56

I would like to think that there is no way I would have handed over a biscuit - not after the Mother offered her brat one without asking me first! - by IRL, I would probably have done it.

I am a wimp

The I would have posted on here about it

IMoveTheStarsForNoOne · 10/12/2009 14:57
Biscuit
Blondeshavemorefun · 10/12/2009 14:59

wonder how long the child screamed for a biscuit once off the bus?

mumblechum · 10/12/2009 14:59

I knew this one would end in tears. Shame, it was v funny for a while.

SexySantasWearPrimark · 10/12/2009 15:00

That post wasn't done with a flourish though.

And I crtainly don't laugh when it's a mner that disrupts threads haphazardly as a habit.

Not funny - not clever- stick to giving awful style tips won't you.

deaddei · 10/12/2009 15:00

What Pagwatch said.

SexySantasWearPrimark · 10/12/2009 15:01

p.s don't call me sexy santa - I aint.

hohohonotlongtogo · 10/12/2009 15:02

Another wimp here im afraid i'd probably give the child a biscuit to avoid all the looks ect from the mum but if it was my own dc then no i would not reward a tantrum with a biscuit! and how bloody rude of the woman to offer her child your biscuits oh well, this woman is going to have a demanding squinnying brat who gets whatever they want regardless, then she'll regret it

GetOrfMoiLand · 10/12/2009 15:02

Don't think it is offensive - if it is I have been offensive with my boundary issues post, and so has pagwatch with her gluten intolerances. Don't think it is all about MN old timers (taht old chestnut) riding roughshod over people's feelings at all.

Think the whole joke stems from a thread ages ago where someone said we should have an acronym as a disclaimer 'exceoting anyone with special needs' which is emophatically not being offensive.