To think that it's just freaking WEIRD to express gratitude to a father for being at his dc's birth?

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A mum I know said she got her partner a gift and card to say thank you for being at their child's birth. Is it just me that thinks this is really odd? She said she is grateful that he wanted to be there, because many men don't bother . They are together by the way, he is not an ex.

Isn't it a sad world when men are expected to be useless dickheads and they get cards and gifts for being normal? Wouldn't any father want to be around when his child make their arrival, to want to be one of the first to see them, even if it's just to sit outside the ward (if they're squeamish or something). Whatever next, a father getting thank you tokens for attending school shows or parents consultations? For spending time doing family activities?

AIBU?

" whats the point just have it here"

Hilarious

Did you just have it there?

My dh didn't want to be at the birth, and I didn't want him there either - I had my friend ( a mum of four) and my mum and it was great. As it turned out, it was just as well, as ds was prem and dh was away at sea and didn't know ds had been born until 3 days after the event.

I don't see what the fuss is about - if you are happy that your dh doesn't want to be there, is it anyone else's business?

neenz I had her while being rushed from the bathroom (which is where I was when my husband said it) to labour room, I was shoved through the door and just about got to the bed before she popped out while the midwife was running around pulling the emergency cord..

Its really hard walking/running with a baby sticking out between your legs I learned that on that day.

ahh memories

My friend's DH delivered their dd2 in the back of a cab and he didnt get a card or a present .

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