To be pissed off at the fuss brother in law and life are making for their kid's 1st birthday?

[Jude68]

Their 1st dc and our 2nd dc's were born only two month's apart. When DD2 had her 1st birthday at the end of August my partner didn't want to take a precious day's leave from work for her birthday as he said "she's only 1, she won't care anyway." All we did was get her a cake, sing happy birthday and helped her open her presents in the evening when the grandparents (one set anyway) were there. They live with us anyway so it's not like they had to make the effort to come over.
DP's brother saw him at work and said should he give DP her present or bring it over the following Sunday when they were coming over for lunch anyway...nothing to do with celebrating DC's birthday.
Now for their DC's upcoming big day they are planning a big family outing to a farm (shit choice) and have published a list, like a wedding list where people can choose what to get their daughter from.
Now it's up to them I suppose how they choose to celebrate but it's making me feel pissed off with DP, guilty with myself and sad for DC2 that we didn't make a fuss.
Am I being pathetic? What did you do for 1st birthdays? I know the baby doesn't care but it's showing everyone else how much you love them isn't it?

Slimey - see post from 17:40

I'm obviously a complete loon. What other reason do I have for being pissed off and being catty about anyone? Right? And I don't think they're moving to Bath because of me. Wouldn't flatter myself..jeezzzzz

awwww, don't, slimey

I hate it when people get slagged off by the pack and then it all goes horribly quiet

[fretful emoticon]

Yay! she back...

(worried you were lying sobbing into your keyboard in front of blank screen )

Ohhhhh. I see. It was a laugh.

Damn me and my useless sense of humour.

Jude, you should start up another thread tonight seeing as we will mostly all be on the wine and up for a good wind up.

Actually I am not in the mood for nastiness atm. Seriously cruel things like some of Jude's comments plus wine will have me weeping and slashing the old wrists I think.

I'm only doing it shiney cos she seemed to be getting a proper kicking- as far as I could see- for saying her SIL was a dough faced wretch and that her baby was a pud.

Now she wasn't doing it in RL, and as far as I know, none of us are her SIL, but people seemed to be a bit outraged by this.

I'd forgotten about the swearing thread till someone mentioned it, but I did remember her getting a thumping elsewhere, and that was it. (I "backed her" then because I was- and am- a great big bastard swearer. For fuckssake )

precious - some of the responses were horrible maybe but there was plenty of time for jude to stop but she kept on being more and more vile. And expecting sympathy.

erm you did the normal thing

they are being OTT

you dont need to make a huge fuss to show that you love your LO, they know anyway!

Look, I'm not going to make excuses but I'm SORRY. I don't know what I'm so angry at...everyone, the world, my situation, my life, fuck knows! Maybe I am barking mad..let's hope I am and can be "sorted" out. I think this is not the best place to hang about.

Most bizarre.

Jude - this may sound sarcastic but I truly mean it. Step away from MN and deal with some of your issues. I actually find it sad that life has made you so bitter that a) you mean what you say or b) you would troll to this extent.

Not often that a thread exudes such bitterness that I swing from initial outrage to pity.

i am totally not into the mn herd piling in but in some cases when everyone disagrees and reckons your mitherings are mental as eggs.maybe..it is because you are talking a bag of shite

aww, jude you did a meeeeean fing...

you took your pics off your profile

Yeah, but...she's doing it to a bunch of strangers. She's not doing it in RL. Who hasn't said or thought nasty things about family?

...also if people are rounding on another person (and it seemed to be more to do with another thread than this particular one) I would think there are two natural reactions- 1. to switch off, and cry, or 2. to stay on, and get defensive. She's just done the second one. It don't make her mad, or evil, IMO.

Orm - sorry, I was being sarcastic. I too think this was/is a very nasty thread, even if it was in jest.

OP, I think if you give out a kicking, you have to prepared to take it back.

loving the name btw shiney

I think sometimes boredom, fustration at lack of interaction with adults during the day can drive people (me) to type stupid, OTT and cruel comments purely and utterly for their "shock" value...not big, not clever and certainly not appropriate for a mother of 3. I'm a bit ashamed now.

possibly, shiney ...

But I remember some of jude's posts from last time- SAHM, two small kids, partner doing long hours- which, let's say, kinda resonated this end!