To be pissed off at the fuss brother in law and life are making for their kid's 1st birthday?

[Jude68]

Their 1st dc and our 2nd dc's were born only two month's apart. When DD2 had her 1st birthday at the end of August my partner didn't want to take a precious day's leave from work for her birthday as he said "she's only 1, she won't care anyway." All we did was get her a cake, sing happy birthday and helped her open her presents in the evening when the grandparents (one set anyway) were there. They live with us anyway so it's not like they had to make the effort to come over.
DP's brother saw him at work and said should he give DP her present or bring it over the following Sunday when they were coming over for lunch anyway...nothing to do with celebrating DC's birthday.
Now for their DC's upcoming big day they are planning a big family outing to a farm (shit choice) and have published a list, like a wedding list where people can choose what to get their daughter from.
Now it's up to them I suppose how they choose to celebrate but it's making me feel pissed off with DP, guilty with myself and sad for DC2 that we didn't make a fuss.
Am I being pathetic? What did you do for 1st birthdays? I know the baby doesn't care but it's showing everyone else how much you love them isn't it?

yup, hard work

Wow - I actually had some sympathy for you yesterday Jude but this has got messy and mean.

I am not sure if your posts changed because you felt attacked by other posters but its all been taken to a new level.

Your feelings towards you neice are trult horrible. How could you say that about a child?

Whether she is amazingly pretty or not (all babies are gorgeous to me) means absolutely nothing and I hope your children do not pick up on your shallow attitude.

Whatever you think of your sister and bil, please hold it back and do not ever talk about it infrnt of your kids. Let them make their own judgements, having cousins is really special and especially that close in age.

Dont ruin it for the children to be able to form life long friendships because of your own bitterness and jealousy.

They maybe over the top with cleanliness and birthday lists etc but there is nothing worse then jealousy.

Let it go and accept them for who they are. You will be a better person for it.

Oh and I haven't been on here all afternoon because I've been busy having a real life with real people. Remember those?

Ok so you clearly despise her.

Why, why did you want her to coo over your dd2 and give her a cuddle?

FFS

I used to say bitchy things about the way my SIL looked because she was horrible to me.

Then I grew up.

You should try it Jude.

There's the definite taste of sour grapes in your posts Jude.

And you made your BIL cry??! Or did I not read that right?

So they're making a fuss about their kids first bday. Let them waste their money. It's their privilege.

geeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeez

this is total car-crash mn

I'm exhausted reading it! please stop

Good lord.

And the prize for the most venomous bile on MN this week goes to Jude.

Some things are meant to stay as thoughts. If you are discussing the sex lives of your in-laws / looks of their child with anyone else, you have serious boundary issues.

Nope. I wanted BIL, DD2's blood uncle to show some interest. SIL was only mentioned as they come as a package. A rather unattractive one but there you go.
BIL made a drunken pass at me one drunken night before DD2 was born so I imagine that rather than laughing at us, he's more than a little bit envious that he got lumbered with the boring Vinegar Flavoured One!

isn't that a good way to use mn though? to express the nasty things we all think- but to a bunch of strangers, totally separate from RL, where it can't do any harm?

Yeah, I must have serious boundary issues...not going to let it get in the way of a good bitching session with DP and my other SIL though!

snort at how ludicrous this all is.

Your family sounds weird. And I do include you in that. Your profile pic is funnily up close and personal.

Jude, I recognise you from RL btw.

Well said. Believe it or not me, DP, SIL and I can all sit down at family get togethers and get on ok. Doesn't mean I like them but I do make an effort for the sake of family harmony. This is my outlet. Sorry folks. Perhaps I should try somewhere else to vent my poisoinous outpourings..somewhere people are a little less delicate and outraged.

who are you bangandthedoirtisgone? Go on...I'm curious

Do you know the SIL Bang?

You remind me of someone I used to know.

And not in a good way.

You seem to be overly preoccupied with people's looks and judge them for their material things. Sounds very shallow and insecure. So what if your SIL isn't drop dead gorgeous? Why does it bother you so much?

You sound like a complete loon tbh.

you carry on here Jude- if you can stand being pelted with virtual rocks...

reminds me of the time me, xp and our pfb met my ex's brothers' new baby (also born two months apart). We spent two hours going on about how pretty their roaring red faced spud was, then when we got in the car to leave, both said at the same time "euuurgh! our baby's better than their baby"

"Perhaps I should try somewhere else to vent my poisoinous outpourings..somewhere people are a little less delicate and outraged."

Yes, maybe you should. I'm not delicate or outraged, I just don't like people who judge someone purely on looks. Especially when that person is just a baby. I feel for your SIL having married into such a family.
You clearly think you are something special because BIL made a drunken pass at you.
Or maybe he just has a thing for mingers!!

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jude - how about a namechange to 'Sweetness&Light'. Such a sunny disposition that you have.

How about I fess up that I'm having a laugh Everyone's expense and I don't even have any kids? None that I'm aware of anyway. God you lot are so pathetic. I'd hate to come here as a REAL mum looking for any support. You are all so up your own aRSES.