that going on a night out 4 days after giving birth is a bit OTT?

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Wearing mini skirt and thigh boots and baby over an hour away at granny's overnight?

Would you?

I went out to a club when my DS was 15 days old, I DID get judged by a woman who asked me when I had DS and she went into a shocked "oh you have left him". I didn feel the need to to explain my self, if anyone is willing to judge then they are not worthy of a second thought from me

As it was I had brilliant babysitters, the SCBU nurses who shooed me off out and told me to go and have a good time as I knew it would be a long time before I could go out again

I was still in hospital, in my nightie, when my DCs were 4 days old. I think it's amazing anyone could feel like walking about much, never mind going out clubbing at that stage. I didn't leave my babies with anyone till they were about 5 months old! I admire Granny though - I think I'd find that a bit nerve-wracking.

spookymadmummy!

I don't really have any opinions about whether she should go out or not, I think it's her business but I really don't understand how she had had the energy to go out 4 days after giving birth. I could barely walk, was bleeding loads and looked like I hadn't slept for about a month.

It's not whether is is right or wrong that puzzles me. I'm sure the baby was beautifully cared for and all its needs met. I'm sure the mum is very loving and responsible.

The question is why would anyone want go out 4 days after having a new baby

Clubbing is great, men are great, drink and drugs are great but nothing can beat a newborn baby for a natural high.

Having a new baby is the best that life has to offer. There is no better feeling.
Why waste a single minute of it. It is gone all too soon.

A posh maternity hospital (private) in Dublin used to mind babies while parents went out to dinner the night before discharge. I was in awe of my friend who had used this service, since I looked every time I sat down for weeks!

why not want to go out?motherhood isn't watching/straining for every precious moment in case you miss something

this notion of mum means you sacrifice previous life and subsume to maternal angel who would never go out 4 day post birth,is frightening

I think I'm jealous!

4 days after having ds1 I had only just had the catheter taken out. Ugh.

And with the others, I was a dribbling wreck with cracked nipples, gushing blood, the jelliest of bellies and swollen feet. Not a great sight, and I felt it.

My youngest is 2 1/2 now and I still haven't been away from her for a night. I don't have anyone to leave her with.

My mum certainly would not have taken any of my children for more than 10 minutes at 4 days old as she would have felt the responsibility too great. Unfortunately the excuses have kept on coming, and dh is useless (as well as working on another continent most of the time) so tbh, good on her. If she is able, willing and has good child care, then use it.

God no! I am up and about pretty quick after giving birth (due to other kids, not superpowers) but bloody hell would you want to?

When I go out I want to look great. I dont want to be all lank and floppy and leaking from multiple areas.

Your clothes dont fit and your makeup slides off your haggard face.

Not for me.

i think it's the kind of thing likely to set back your recovery rather than aid it. no way. i'm not doing anything for about 2 weeks after the next one's born.

on what basis do you assert a night out can impede post-birth healing? references please

I hope her maternity pads were more effective than mine then; I can't imagine a mine skirt would be a good look otherwise .

hope she partied and gave some of the tutters a good ole run for their money

jesus wept,if she wants to go out
is able
why not

I wouldn't of done, but don't think there is anything wrong with going out soon after giving birth. As long as baby is well looked after.

i would have scared people(especially with dc3 with catheter in for 10 days).

i was a walking zombie.

I had a minor nervous breakdown having to leave ds2 in SCBU at 4 days old as i'd been discharged and he hadn't.... the feeling of not having my baby by me was god awful... i was shuffling around shops twitching and wanting to burst into tears as i felt like i was missing a limb.

Perfectly ok leaving him now though after a few months but i simply can't imagine wanting to go out 4 days post natally and leave baby so far away.

I know everyone is differant but..... 4 days? Mini skirt? Thigh highs?

How sad that she doesn't seem to be enjoying that lovely snuggly time with her little newborn. I'm so sad that i'll never experiance it again, i can't imagine not wanting to experiance it.

It seems it is acceptable for a new dad to go out and wet the baby's head, but different rules apply if a new mum wants a night out.

no it isn't sad!you are projecting your expectation of 4 days post birth

sad is actually some people inability to think out the box.and see whilst you may not hve wanted to/been able to. the mum in question felt able and did

For bloody hell sake, FAIR PLAY!!!!! You celebrate, if you can wear those clothes and (fit in them) have fun, do it. Some mums have post natal depression and are feeling crap! as long as you are assured you can still come home and be a top mum...(Def: on that confusing) enjoy yourself. But look after baby, and let everyone know your feeling great and baby number one. Doing the odd one off, is one thing, so no harm, reg....not on really.

That is precisely what is so puzzling.
Nothing to do with being able to, but why would a new mum want to leave her baby.?

why not?this isnt abandonment,it is a time limited social event

Well, having given birth on Wednesday morning, I can safely say no. No way. Under no circumstances.

I havent read the thread but I do know of someone who had a baby (2 weeks early)at 7am and was out drinking at 4pm the same day.

Baby left with grandma.

Made me shudder.

Oh and if I even had so much as a sniff of alcohol at the moment, I'm sure I would be unconscious!

Congratulations Ceolas. Baby Boy or Girl? Even being on MN is a great achievement.Well Done.

ive just remembered that when dd was about 2 weeks old i did try to go out for a bit(my mum was desperate to babysit-i didnt know....)my boobs leaked everywhere and i was so hormonal that i went home after an hour.and just smelling alcohol on others was enough to have me flying!