To be a bit annoyed that my cleaner made herself a cuppa?

[kwaker5]

Have had a cleaner for about 8 weeks. On first visit I offered her a cuppa as I was having one but she declined and said she always brought her own drinks with her [pointed to cool bag].

I usually let her in and clear off with the DCs while she's there but last week I came back a bit earlier than normal and noticed she'd made herself a brew.

I'm not really pissed off but it's niggling at me. Isn't there and unwritten rule that they shouldn't go in your cupboards/drawers?

Obviously, OP is so distraught by the namecalling she's ran away forever. Or maybe she realised she'd unintentionally kicked up a bit of a s**tstorm and decided not to bother.
As I think the latter is more likely, I wouldn't get too upset.

expat yes I have all these people to help how brilliant is that?!

I organise a cleaner to do some of the house work and I have an au pair who works alongside me so that I can spend more quality time with individual children and go to more exciting places because I have an extra pair of hands.

Brillant, as I said

iceagethree you don't sound pompous in the slightest.

You sound very sane, very measured and very reasonable. More than be said for some.

This thread is funny

Oh, I grew up in a home with helpers myself, at the least a cleaner and gardener. My parents still have a cleaner and gardener.

At several points in time we also had a nanny, a driver and a cook.

My parents, however, welcomed everyone to help themselves to coffee and tea in the kitchen.

Still do.

My mother always had better things to do that keep tabs on how many cuppas her staff drank over the course of the day, and a punchcard machine would have looked totally out of place with the rest of her decor.

that's good then. Whatever works for each individual

so this threads was about OP perceived meaness and bad manners in begrudging a mere cup of tea and it spiralled into a bad tempered name calling debacle

priceless

AIBU how it can digress from hands orf my twinnings to name calling and huffing

Scottishmummy- YABU. We should all be nicer. My silly self included

it didn't spiral into a name calling debacle

it was started off that way by a lot of mean-minded, high- minded point-scoring holier than thous

kitty and i lifted it to a point where people began to make helpful contributions

and yet still people think about a teabag -- utterly pathetic

and good heavens -- i've lowered the tone again with my dreadful abuse

who cares

mtr you can have the last word again.. the words treacle and wading come to mind

ah semantics of how said name calling debacle arrived at.

most illuminating

now i am off for a wee cuppa

ps kitty, sorry, i should have said thanks for kind words

but i don't think anyone is reading our posts with a view to anything other than pointscoring

you could say that the world is round and you would be disagreed with at this point

just to prove my point

PMSL @ iceage & kitty "lifting thread to a point where people began to make helpful contributions"

Hoenestly, and you called some of us pompous! Oh, the irony

See, this thread has restored my faith the MN will remain true to itself post DM-gate

you are all very odd

just weird, it's like talking to, I don't know, it's like talking to people with fingers in their ears going la la la

i've said several times, this is a good point, that's a good point, was i pompous, etc, like you would in a conversation with normal people

but anybody on the "other side" seems completely incapable of this

as if you think it's weakness, or lack of confidence? maybe that's what you think

well i did say i should be nicer...
but then you all but accused me of thinking the world is square. which, despite my rudimentary grasp of geography, i know to be false.

iceage love, you, kitty and stuffit all have a very opposing viewpoint to the majority of posters on this thread. You of course are entitled to that opinion. However, I am surprised that you act so surprised to be challenged on that viewpoint when you see that (rightly or wrongly) youe views are in the minority.

In the latter part of this thread I do not believe that anyone has done any more name calling or point scoring that you yourself have done.

As much as we'd love MN to actually mirror a cosy chat with friends in our sitting room (or would we?!), it ain't, and you are going to come across much worse than this.

this thread is classic AIBU,insults,huffs,alleged slights

for all the nay sayers & MN will never be same again postDM i recommend you peruse the Cuppa tea thread

same ole same ole

nearly as good as a precious moments nursery thread for the huffs and puffs and how very dare you

classic

this thread is classic AIBU,insults,huffs,alleged slights

for all the nay sayers & MN will never be same again postDM i recommend you peruse the Cuppa tea thread

same ole same ole

nearly as good as a precious moments nursery thread for the huffs and puffs and how very dare you

classic

"love!"

rofl at your whole post non gratis

"you of course are entitled to your opinion"

why thanks love

what is that, some kind of judgement you're handing down?

i'm not surprised at people disagreeing with me, why do you think that?

yes i've called people high minded and point scoring and holier than thous and pompous

but only because i know that those disagreeing with me don't mind a bit of name-calling, they think it's ok, I probably haven't gone far enough for their tastes

Iceage, I am so pleased you got the entire sentiment of my post.

I have no desire to endear myself to you

PMSL
are you seriously suggesting nongratis and myself would like you to hurl abuse at us?

iceage, it's always the way on MN. If you go against the herd you get a bashing. Don't let it stop you though, it hasn't stopped me
Also don't expect a good proportion of people to actually read the posts properly, that's also always the way.

Ah kitty, your views are always sooo inspiring I look forward to meeting you on another thread again soon

Elie, I rather think she is!

kitteh haz cheezburger?