to think that no men really, truly do like and appreciate a fat woman?

[fedupintheoffice]

I mean, why would they?

I'm a 21 stone, size 28. I haven't had a boyfriend for nearly 2 years. I find that men are really grossed out by my flabs. What man in his right mind would choose someone like me when they can have a slim, toned beauty.

Also- there is no woman that all men fancy, just as there is no bloke. FACT. you will meet so,memen that don't fancy you, and if you like them it can be disheartening.

But that's going to work for everyone. My ultimate turn off is Brad Pitt, and I can't stick that whole Matt Damon / Matthew Wosserface 'I spend considereably much mroe time in the bathroom than yow' type of men.

I like geeky, and opinionated. DH ahs gone fron super-skinny (8st at 5'10") to rather chubby in the decade we've been together and it ahsn't affected how sexy I find him one jot. OTOH if he started to stand in front a mirriow worryinga bout his wrinkles I might be worried!

Hmm I think that people are deluding themselves if they don't think that GENERALLY men prefer slim women - our culture DOES NOT celebrate bigger women in any way. Women are massively affected by that. Men are too.

I've noticed that ALL the 'rich, successul' men I know have the skinniest wives.

Mamazon you fit more into the 'curvy' category because your body is well proportioned - unfortunately I've not assessed you properly completely starkers or anything, so I've no idea if you are 'fat' or not, but if you are, well - most overweight women don't carry their weight with such perfect proportion. I think if you are overweight but fill out with a perfect hourglass, then you are going to be pretty damn attractive - but very very few people do that. Most end up with parts that are very fat and parts that are not so fat - I think that discrepancy is what can be a physical turn-off, actually. You are jaw-droppingly stunning, you should really have your own temple or something

I really don't know what type of woman men feel attracted to , or most men even.

I read recently in a German magazine so I don't know if this is based on a survey made only in Germany, that men apparently most definitely do prefer curvy women to slim women. Now HOW curvy I don't know either. Certainly many men do seem to like very slim women so really I can't fathom the whole thing.

Got to feel good about yourself generally though to send out vibes that attract other people. I've met some fairly hefty looking women who draw people's eyes to them in a positive way. I would say posture is always important, whatever your build.

Oh and I just like funny men with massive pensions

don't care what they weigh

MP your cheque is in the post

Well said morningpaper. And Mamazon I do think it's slightly different for you as you are ludicrously pretty and you don't look like a big fat person. You obviously carry your weight exceptionally well.

Peachy - you're a fox with that new hairdo! You've inspired me to make an appointment for my unruly thick mop!

I'm a size 18 and 5 foot 2 and have always had a problem with the way I look until I met DH. He can't keep his hands off me and even when I was bigger than this still couldn't. We got together when I was bigger and I've been steadily loosing weight and it's not made a difference to how he feels about me as it's me he loves. Except to complain that my boobs have shrunk.

It's nice not feeling self consious about my body and I think because DH has been larger in the past he understands how it can knock your confidence and always does what he can to build mine.

The good men are out there, it doesn't matter what size you are! One of my best friends is very large and her bloke adores her. I think it's more the attitude you have about yourself. Project confidence and ease about your body, find yourself sexy and other people will too.

Terrible grammar sorry. Busy at work and naughtily posting.

do you think? I don't have great bone structure or whatever it is that they say models need. I have a massive nose and manky teeth.

do you think im really super fantastically pretty and therefore it doesn't matter tha
t im the size of a tank or do you think maybe, just maybe people dont notice im a fatty because i don't sit there with my head down in a pose that cries "don't look at me in fat"?

oh and yeah peachy that hairdo is fantastic! your looking HOT

oh and yeah peachy that hairdo is fantastic! your looking HOT

KingRolo clearly someone thought you were "pullable" because you have the great DH. I don't pull when I go out either, this is mostly because when I go out these days I am sitting with a bunch of other 30ish women laughing loudly.

Mamazon, trust me you look good

OK so why are you attractive Mamazon...

Well, I think it is a lot of things Mamazon - it was a few months ago that I saw you but if I remember correctly - firstly, you are REALLY tall, so even if you were a hideous moose, everyone would stare at you and think "Blimey, she's REALLY tall", so there you are, just walked in the room, and ALREADY you are commanding everyone's attention

Now most really tall women do that flat-shoe humped-back thing which is v. unattractive, but you don't do any of that - you will be standing tall wearing fuck-me shoes, looking everyone straight in the eye

So there we are, all staring at you, and then we realise that you've got this AMAZING glossy hair which swishes around like a shampoo advert, and beautiful skin, and a perfect cute nose, and strikingly beautiful eyes, and a pouty rosebud soft mouth - and by this stage time is slowing down and we are all falling in love with you - and massive zingy killer breasts which are conveniently just at face-height, so now we are all thinking of walking straight into them and living in your bosoms forever - and a slim waist leading down to - MAMA - swinging hips and an arse full of promise and then legs legs legs that very few people have had the pleasure of seeing in their full glory and those who have will probably die with the image of those legs swimming in front of their eyes as they take their last breath and are zoomed into paradise

and by this time we are all drooling and have fallen massively in love with you and are glancing around the room wondering which lucky bastard gets to take YOU home

and all this before you have even opened your mouth

You see, you had us when you pushed open the door

morningpaper does she complete you?

I want to be Mamazon.

I want tyo be Mamazon. MP must have me mistaken

You can tell your a writer ......but none the less i shall pront that off, laminate it and stick it on the fridge.

could you do one of those for everyone on here MP. they couldn't fail to think they are fabulous after that!

Phew MP!
(Mops brow, goes for cold shower)

I know of one. He left his large wife for an even larger woman and is very happy.

Mamazon - I've just seen your photos. i half fancy you myself. Of course you're going to pull!

Yes MP, we all would like to be "Morning-Papered".
(cleans fridge door ready for her description)

And FWIW I am told that I have a very good figure but never get chatted up (or not that I'm aware of ). So being 'fat' isn't anything like the whole picture.

Actually I think you could start with the OP, MP, we've all got a bit lost in Mamazon's charms!

Not sure I agree about the hourglass thing being especially attractive - my vital stats are 40/29/40 - as hourglassy as you can get, but out-of-proportion cos of massive boobs (30J). The make me look matronly, and yes, men do look, but only in a OMIGOD! kind of way, not necessarily cos they fancy me.

Do however, agree that self-confidence is the most attractive thing. And time spent on self is a great boost, I've found.

I bet the OP feels soooo much better now knowing how fantastic Mamazon is.