AIBU to want to take my degree certificate to the bank?

[DrTrillianAstra]

And make them change all my details to Dr Trillian?

(not Dr Trillian of course, actually Dr Realname, but you know what I mean )

Or is it too unbelievably poncey?

I'm a medical doctor and outside the surgery I use Mrs not Dr. it feels weird to be referred to by my profession and I'm quite happy to be Mrs.

PMSL FioFio... trust me, I'm a Dr...

Why is it offensive to point out education? It's not competitive, as you seem to think it is - I don't think I'm better than anyone because I have a PhD. Some people enjoy learning, study further and get PhDs. Others become lawyers and get flashy cars or whatever - why should anyone be offended by any of this?

I also can't see how you don't get the gender thing: men don't have their marital status pointed out by their titles, women usually do. Some of us don't like that. And for someone who has kept their maiden name, getting called Mrs Maiden Name or Miss is inaccurate. Much simpler to use Dr if it applies.

the dolly - I have to say that your comments are incredibly irritating. Just that kind of pc stuff that makes me mad. And I am a pretty mild person usually.

Go for it Dr Trillian. Well done.

by the way, with ref to above comment - I wish I was one of those lawyers identified by a flashy car. I am incognito (perhaps that will make the dolly happier??) and don't usually bother flashing my not very exciting LLB around.

Sorry - very crude generalisation. You hear of them occasionally, the lawyers with the flashy cars. My secret thwarted ambition.

IME, the people who are most irked by degree letters and titles etc. are those who wasted the opportunities they were given.

I agree with the lack of internships thing being criminal. That and removing opportunities like grammar schools, free tertiary education etc. It's like the current generation that is in power and benefitted from all these things did so, and then pulled the ladder up behind them to protect their position. My friend's DF is a very senior and well-respected judge. Came from a very deprived background, managed to make his way into a grammar school, got scholarship to Oxbridge, and progressed from there. Those kinds of opportunities are being eroded.

PracticalCat- Ms not good enough for you? Far better to use Dr and then no one will know you're right clever, oops but they will won't they, but it doesn't mean you think you're better than/cleverer than them.

They assume you're divorced. Or else they don't get it. Maybe you're in a more clued up society, but when I say Ms, I get "huh?". And I just don't like it. Like using the word partner - just doesn't work for me.

And as for the rest of your message, your chip, your shoulder. I can't be bothered.

No chip, just well educated but modest .

"it's like wearing your Cambridge Uni sweatshirt when you're 40."

Nah, only the tourists wear those.

"flaunt ones educational prowess in a society with such disparate educational opportunities."

State school (non-selective): free
University: paid for with loan
PhD: funding from Medical Research Council

Perhaps I should be flaunting my educational achievements as proof of what can be done even without private schooling or tutors, in order to enocourage others.

I like the analogy of 'Miss or Mrs? Actually Dr' with 'Sue or Sarah? Actually Jane'. It's true. It's what it is.

Despite having taken my leave I have a residual irritation that I am supposed to pretend I didn't do my PhD!
I went to a "bog-standard" comprehensive, received a full grant for my undergraduate degree due to low parental income, worked for minimum wage whilst self-funding my masters, and worked full-time as a teacher whilst self-funding my PhD (simultaneously being pregnant twice and having DD. Thesis submitted 4 days before DS was born, viva at 10 weeks).

Do I think I am better than anyone else - hell no - am I proud to use my "title" because I am proud of my own hard-work - yes. It is not immodest to celebrate your achievements whilst also admitting your shortcomings.

I don't think anyone has suggested that you need to pretend you haven't done it

PhD in Biochemistry PracticalCat.

But I have another degree in Psychology too. Get me!

Oooh, get you FallenMadonna!

You should feel proud of yourself- definitely call yourself by your deserved title!

On a different note, my mother called me the other day to say she was updating all of her children's details with the solicitor, so please could I tell her what letters I have after my name. I actually laughed out loud (which totally offended her, incidently ) I would NEVER put letters after my name, and told her so. She was quite about it and couldn't understand why not. I was just as I think that is the hight of ponciness... no?!

Use it I say, and bloody well done on all your hard work!

we have vapid media which encourage us to "celebrate" schleb tittle tattle as if any of that shite matters.it doesnt

a piece of of riginal research and hard graft does merit celebration.it really does

essentially how one choses to use and denote professional titles,and academic achievements is a wholly personal decision.some folk are happy and proud to have every guide badge and standard grade embossed on headed paper - ok not quite but you get the jist

others are happy in knowledge of what has been attained but not necessarily disclose outwith work or circumstances that require to do so

Bleh - well said.

I would far rather my daughters were lauded for their academic achievements than the size of their norks.

lol...i thought this would be about arguing over bank charges...

I think dolly is just stirring. Either that or she is very emotionally mixed up when it comes to education.