To think my wife is being unreasonable

[SomeGuy]

We are going to Mexico next week (flights not yet booked, but about to be).

Flights on Monday cost £735 total for our family of 4

On Wednesday the cost is £895 for our family of 4.

DW is organiser of a monthly lunch meetup with her friends. There are usually about six women, with their children, and each brings food. The next meet-up is not at our place, but at the house of one of the other people involved, and is scheduled for next Tuesday.

She says we can't go on Monday, saving £160, because she has given her word that the lunch meet would take place on Tuesday, and she says they would probably cancel it if she doesn't come (even though it's at one of her friend's house, who quite frequently has a lunch with just one other person).

I think she is being unreasonable, because there is frequently one of the 6 that cannot make it, and there's not really a significant difference between 5 cooking for 5 and 6 cooking for 6.

It's not that we can't afford the extra £160, it just seems wrong to 'waste' it.

Shouldn't you go somewhere you both want to go, rather than deciding for her and then forcing her to go somewhere she is clearly not happy about. Whether you feel it is sensible reasoning or not, it bothers her. I think you should consider picking somewhere you will both be happy with.

my neighbours went to Mexico for their honeymoon at the end of April. They said the nearest case of swine flu was 1200 miles away from where they were s taying,so no chance of getting ill, BUT..... a lot of the temples and trips they hoped to do were cancelled/closed to reduce risks of contamination. So I would check whether you're still able to access them otherwise it would make the holiday a little pointless. Sorry. I'd happily jump on a plane there tho' lunch date be damned.

They've lifted the swine flu restrictions since April.

She is being unreasonable.
If she has a doctors appointment then there is noting you can do about it. At least yoou will still be able to go.
I wish I had a passport because I would be booking cheap flights to Mexico if I could.

Anyone looking for cheap flights to Mexico try:
flights.thomson.co.uk/en/index.html

Flying on 6th July from Bristol to Cancun
returning 13th or 20th

Price £183.98 return.

At least a dozen seats still available.

I've already booked the more expensive flights...

The airport for Dollywood is Knoxville: Opodo shows return flights the week before Christmas (12-19th Dec) for £370 per adult.

Or you could fly direct to Atlanta, 250mi drive via Interstate (or 200mi through the Great Smoky Mountains national park - great drive in the Autumn, not sure about December).

From what you say, it doesn't actually sound like she wants to go to Mexico. I guess you have to ask yourself what matters more - being 'right' about Mexico being no risk etc etc, or having a family holiday that you all enjoy and are relaxed when on.

fwiw, I'd personally have no problem going but if she does - is she even going to enjoy herself? Does she resent you for 'forcing' her to go to a place she'd rather not go to? Am I making a mountain out of a molehill?

SomeGuy - do you work for the Mexico tourism board?

yanbu.
i do love how people are inventing a soap opera in their head and that there must be something more to this (which there might well be) but i'll bet if it was a woman posting that dh wanted to waste 160pound by going a day later because he didn't want to miss his monthly night in the pub or poker game with old friends, no one would be attributing him with complex and sensitive motivations for such. we'd all just assume he wanted to see his mates and have a few beers, and the responses would be in accordance with this belief i.e. yanbu in the slightest pack his bags and tell him you leave on monday etc. ffs he can see his friends any time.

So you have booked your tickets?

Did you ask did she really want to go?

FWIW I think she was being unreasonable but again thats because I would be trying to save the £160
Hope you have a good holiday and your wife enjoys herself

Thanks MrVibrating, direct flights to Atlanta seem that numerous and are quite expensive, so a 1 stop to Knoxville is probably best.

You're wrong there, mayorquimby. If a woman was posting that she was forcing her husband to holiday in a place that he really didn't want to go, I'd say the exact same thing I've said here.

BTW, nothing is as bad as Benidorm.

We probably won't actually stay in Cancun, it's just the nearest/cheapest airport to quite a few places.

SomeGuy It looks like you can take a harem of women with you to Mexico from MN. I would do that! She can then go to lunch and have a
really drama and sympathy with friends over what a bastards you are. Oh! I'm getting into scriptwriter mod for Dallas. Can I have permission to write this into a chick lit book

YABU. She doesn't want to go to Mexico.

MayorQuimby - I think it's the Mexico=swineflu thing that is making poeple assume she has reasons rather than just being unreasonable, not the gender of the poster.

SIBU though. I wish I were going to Mexico. Screw the monthly lunch, I'm going on holiday!

She's ashamed of telling people she's going to Mexico?? What kind of circles do you mix in? We went to Devon!

YANBU.

Ok. SomeGuy is off to Dollywood?.... 'DW'? Come on people. There is no 'DW'.

Are you suggesting that Dollywood is ever so slightly camp?

I hate camping. That's why we're renting one of these: www.auntbug.com/sweetsurrender.html

Log cabins aren't in the least bit camp.

Merrylegs Bravo PMSL

its cheap because its hurricane season.

poshtottie: you can't get anywhere else in the Caribbean for £200, and it's hurricane season in the whole of the Caribbean....

Woah, pretty nice. Loving the hot tub.

You go, girlfriend!

Look, just because our digital radio is tuned to Gaydar, doesn't mean I'm into manlove. I listen purely for the non-stop dance choons.