To think my wife is being unreasonable

[SomeGuy]

We are going to Mexico next week (flights not yet booked, but about to be).

Flights on Monday cost £735 total for our family of 4

On Wednesday the cost is £895 for our family of 4.

DW is organiser of a monthly lunch meetup with her friends. There are usually about six women, with their children, and each brings food. The next meet-up is not at our place, but at the house of one of the other people involved, and is scheduled for next Tuesday.

She says we can't go on Monday, saving £160, because she has given her word that the lunch meet would take place on Tuesday, and she says they would probably cancel it if she doesn't come (even though it's at one of her friend's house, who quite frequently has a lunch with just one other person).

I think she is being unreasonable, because there is frequently one of the 6 that cannot make it, and there's not really a significant difference between 5 cooking for 5 and 6 cooking for 6.

It's not that we can't afford the extra £160, it just seems wrong to 'waste' it.

those are tiny ....you can not expect your wife to only have one of those....no way...now, that is where I would draw the line ...now you are being unreasonable

why not? I book the holiday, she does the packing. She's better at it than me.

But surely your 2 DC's would need a load of stuff for 2 weeks, as well as your DW....or am I just a chronic over packer?

And how come you are on Mumsnet all day?

lynette. you and me both ...there would be noooooooooo way that a little suitcase like that would do me or my Kids for a 2 week holiday....

Well I did ask if he was a SUG. He never answered. I have never packed for my dh in my life.

I tend to do both the booking AND the packing. He has booked online before, but he panics, asks a million questions and drives me nuts, so it's easier for me to do it.

As for the packing, if I let him do the kids they'd have no underwear and all scruffy, inappropriate clothes (i.e. jumpers for France in July). He packs 10mins before we are due to leave. I then have to add on another 10mins for him to get in the car, then get out to get something, get in the car, then get out to get something else, then get in the car, then get out to............................

we went to the States last year for 19 days taking 2x cabin baggae suitcases and 2xtrunkis.

it is possible (we being me, dh, dd1 (then 3.5) and dd2 (then 14 months))

we took 4x changes of clothes for everyone, and did washing freguently.

we are off Oz this year and will take same amount of luggage.

what on Earth do people need tha tthey have to take huge suitcases?

I 'work' from home, LS.

Re the luggage, they are 35 litres, 4 of those is 140 litres.

We've quite often gone on holiday with two large rucksacks, they are I think 70 litres each.

Wots a SUG?

I have no idea what a SUG is?

Stitched Up Gopher?

Swine Umbrage Great!

Smug Ugly Guy ???

or would that be Smugly Guy

Standard Useless Guy?

It's a 'Smug Unemployed Guy'

SomeGuy - I hope you are self-employed as otherwise you deserve the sack!

hf128219 - are you a slow reader?

Come to think of it, what are you doing on Mumsnet? Or any of us? What gives you the right to question or judge anyone just for being on Mumsnet?

Yes I am self-employed, I am accountable only to myself.

indeed...I am sure many people (me included) theoretically have better things/more important things/more pressing things than being on mumsnet, doesn't stop us

and to DW of course

also, erm, hfc...considering the amount of money Someguy and family have to spend....how could he be unemployed?????????

She probably thinks they are Scrounging Undesirable Geeks!

Rhubard - don't quite get your bit about being a slow reader.

Never mind dear, you just catch up when you can.