To feel a bit put out at friends telling me, at the end of my impromptu visit, that they 'like to be telephoned before anyone pops in'?

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I'd understand if we'd turned up planning to stay for hours. But DS and I were in the area, and it would have seemed rude not to pop in for 10 minutes, IYSWIM. So we did, and they welcomed us in, and we chatted for 10 minutes in the garden - and then they said, "We prefer visitors to call before they pop in." They were washing up when we arrived.

Anyhow, I feel like a dog with its tail between its legs. I don't mind (in fact, rather like) friends descending on us for brief, impromptu visits - but that's me, I suppose. Were we being unreasonable to just pop in for a few minutes, unannounced?

LOL Very true. Glaswegians don't do brief visits. Though a two hour stay might be considered a brief visit here.

DP and I are also currently involved in TTC shagging, so visitors are particuarly unwelcome at the moment.

I always call first tbh . I even call my best friend who i've known since we were 4!

My neighbour sometimes pops over for a chat and coffee, but I don't really like it , but would never say , as it's not that often

Thunderduck I'll be round in 5

Ok if I bring DD and DH and my parents, isn't it. And we haven't eaten yet...

Thunderduck just be grateful you don't have your PIL 3 doors away. I'm very close to shouting through the letterbox " If you want a bloody grandchild fuck off"

thing is folk expect to be feed watered,entertained on a pop-in

so no i dont do pop in's
and dont like em either
cant be arsed having to be chatty when i want to drink wine and slob oot

LMAO@Sleepyeyes. That would drive me crazy.I'd build a barricade.

All round to thunderduck's?

LOL. I could possibly make an exception for you Bella as you make me laugh so much. But dp will be in charge of the feeding and watering.

Right good. I'll bring a boxful of optional cockroaches so your DP can have a look and see if he thinks they're up to scratch for the big day

I suppose a box of maggots would be out of the question? The really squishy ones?..looks hopeful.

Well bloody hell I'm nearly outside your house now, and where do you expect me to find good squishy show maggots at this time on a bank holiday monday? Eh, eh?

Damn woman but you're fussy.

I should never have given you warning I was coming...

You know I'm worth it.

Can't stand people popping in. DH's family do it every chance they get, and despite it only being a "quick visit" they sit there until dinner has to be offered - so then I need to go to the shop and panic buy!
The way they said it was a bit rude but can you imagine if they started an AIBU? "Stop being a wimp and just tell her!"

I would just put it down to experience. They probably felt awkward having to say something and I suppose thought it was better to invite you in and say something than to do so on the doorstep.

and starts to rustle up show maggots, placing them in box and arranging them in size order, and dressing them as miniature brides and grooms.

The last time I had an unannounced visitor it was the vicar , 3weeks after the birth of dc2, so the rush of visitors was over. I had just changed an explosive nappy, dc1 was grizzly hungry, toys and washing waiting to be sorted were everywhere and I think I was in my pjs - oh the shame!

well that was rude of them!!

I am one of those tho that LOVE people dropping in. but then, I am also one of those who hate people knocking my door.....I tell all my friends to just walk in and shout 'hello'

or maybe I am odd??

Tea meet computer screen. Thanks Bella. Expect a computer cleaning bill in the post soon.

Heated, you had a 3wo and therefore are forgiven everything. You were out of bed and had obviously done washing and got out toys for dc1 - brownie points

I have a friend who just took it upon herself to 'pop in' when ever she was in the area and it really got on my nerves.I do like to be phoned or text for these impromptu visits,gives me chance to run the hoover round or politely decline.
x

Oh thanks Stealth for the absolution, the memory can still make me blush! Share your pain on having ILs who pop-in unannounced.

I think the way you say "but this has never come up before" is quite telling. Perhaps they're sick to death of you just turning up and they could take no more of it. That's why the hubby was so rude.

or then again, I agree with whoever said they'd probably just had a massive row (about the washing up???!!) and then you turned up. He probably snapped. And then they had another massive row after you left because she was so mad with him for being rude to you.

Bet you anything.

OOOOOh - me & DH have just had a row about this very thing.

I have given him an ultimatum that unless he asks his mother to phone first, before she decides to invade our privacy by calling round, when she had expressly been told that we were having a rare childfree day off together and we had plans to spend it on our own, and that no, it didn't suit to see her . . .deep breath . . . . .simmer . . . . I will be asking her - and that neither of them will be happy if / when that happens.

I love it when people pop in. I have at least three or four unexpected guests a week. If they pop in near a meal time, I force feed them offer them dinner.

I am a popper-in-er too, and I don't think anyone's ever been annoyed when I've done it. Although I do have a friend with OCD, and I'd always give her advance warning.

I guess it's just what you're used to - my friends and I have always done it.