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"all women dream of being a bride and having a fairytale wedding day"

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mrsblanc · 06/05/2009 00:47

or something similar was said on the (otherwise excellent )prog showing Claire from Steps losing weight for her wedding.

NO THEY BLOODY DON'T

OK I feel better now.
Sorry for swearing

OP posts:
TrillianAstra · 06/05/2009 12:45

Mmm, mojitos.

Tinker · 06/05/2009 12:45

I know thread will have moved on but re OP Me neither, just don't get it. That and going to Wedding Fayres.

tallulahbelly · 06/05/2009 12:47

No, but many do and a large number of them have unrealistic ideas about what marriage, rather than the big day, is about.

But on the bright side, women with those ideas will probably get to have more than one wedding day

LibrasBiscuitsOfFortune · 06/05/2009 12:48

"shisha smoking area" be aware that if you have lots of drunk non-smokers going "ohh I would like to try that" you might need some buckets for being sick into. Nice idea tho

BigBellasBeerBelly · 06/05/2009 12:49

I wonder if the fact the wedding is more important than finding the right man is the reason so many women ended up lumbered with total shits.

PinkTulips · 06/05/2009 12:49

i will be wearing a nice dress to elope in btw... not white and it won't cost more than a nice meal would though

Gateau · 06/05/2009 12:50

Had to laugh, or rather scoff when two of our very conventional neighbours said they were at a wedding but "it wasn't a proper wedding because there were no speeches."
I've only seen the pictures of theirs and
I know this is bitchy but her dress was hideous! It had some sort of furry collar thing - yuck! Looked very tacky to me.

Kathyis6incheshigh · 06/05/2009 12:51

LOL Tallulah.

bleh · 06/05/2009 12:53

I have noticed the fear of 30 creeping in: People wanting to get hitched ASAP being 30 is nearing the horizon, and that' just insane. You never know when you're going to meet the right person. Friends of my parents have just gotten married; he was widowed 7 years ago, was absolutely devastated, but then met his new wife about a year ago. She's early 60s, never been married, and my parents say they're like teenagers, so happy to have found someone.

Tinker I think the danger is more ME getting drunk merry and deciding "Ah yes, I will start smoking again" and then have to be nursed back to health (sadly, it's happened before) the next day, having smoked 20 cigarettes/whole shisha in an hour.

Bonneville · 06/05/2009 12:54

Bigbellas I am not a goth (too old unfortunately) but love the goth clothes and have been to the Goth weekend in Whitby. If I were younger I would have been one!

ThePhantomPlopper · 06/05/2009 12:59

We had small wedding, all the men wore their Navy uniforms, I wore a very simple dress and then we got pished in a fish grill place with a big balcony overlooking the sea in the middle of summer. Twas great.

I do not do princess and the speeches made me shudder. DH spent half an hour gushing about his best man and didn't mention me once. What an arse.

RamblingRosa · 06/05/2009 12:59

I'd like the dress but no interest in any other part of getting married. I just like nice dresses.

BigBellasBeerBelly · 06/05/2009 13:06

Was wondering bonneville as it came hot on the heels of the star wars themed weddings and had sudden horrible vision of people "dressing up" as goths for some poor sods wedding day!

My best matey goth friend wore a white meringue for her wedding though

Bonneville · 06/05/2009 13:14

Awwwww do they just wear conventional clothes for their weddings then?

PlumpRumpSoggyBaps · 06/05/2009 13:17

I've had two wedding days and both were great. In fact, both were attended by mostly the same guests although obviously, the grooms and their families changed.....

Some people have requested a third as apparently I 'give good weddings'. I'm not sure DH would approve of being swapped for another groom though.(and TBH, I quite like this one, so am planning to keep him.)

I do wish I'd bought a dress second time around though- my mum was SO keen to make one for me that I let her and it ended up two inches too short. (My fault, apparently, for wearing silly high heels instead of a sensible pair of flats.)

BigBellasBeerBelly · 06/05/2009 13:18

i think like anyone else they wear what they want! My friend was very beautiful and looked absolutely stunning...

BTW when i used to go to goth nights wedding attire for the women was a big thing - some full dresses and some short ones with suspenders etc under. Spattered fake blood optional

There are a lot of different goth styles - some are extremely high camp glam

Botbot · 06/05/2009 13:20

I'm with you all. I have never dreamed of a fairytale wedding, just as I am not particularly obsessed with shoes nor addicted to chocolate (along with all the other sexist generalisations the media chucks at us).

crokky · 06/05/2009 13:28

This thread is very funny. I never knew there were so many people like me who didn't want the "fairytale" wedding. I just wanted to get married, no fuss, bit of grub afterwards with parents and siblings and that's it. Was brilliant, would never change anything about it. Happy to attend other people's weddings if they want me to and happy for them to have the whole big white affair or whatever they want to do.

Bit thick to think that we all want the same thing!

pingviner · 06/05/2009 13:33

I do want a fairytale wedding, but more of an Angela Carter rewrite

paisleyleaf · 06/05/2009 13:34

I have to admit: the flashier the wedding - the more I question the motive for getting married.

I also know someone who is paying for their divorce and haven't paid off their wedding yet ...OUCH.

BalloonSlayer · 06/05/2009 13:35

Catsbumface PMSL at the putting lipstick on hens. The man did realise, I hope, that chickens don't have lips?

I presume he was lipsticking their wattles, which sounds like something you'd be hauled up before the magistrate for.

BalloonSlayer · 06/05/2009 13:35

Not wattles, their combs

Gawd, my chicken knowledge is not what it was...

Tickawicka · 06/05/2009 13:39

I know this is bad form to mention it, but I know someone on another board who is planning her wedding (they are already living together and have a baby). She is desperately short of money, in debt even, but still spending thousands.

Many of us have tried to convince her to scale down or even cancel it, but she says she has always dreamed as her day as a princess.

The latest plan was to get her DP to get a second job delivering pizzas at night to make more money.

So she gets to be a princess, and he gets to be a pizza delivery man. Hey ho.

BigBellasBeerBelly · 06/05/2009 13:42

Ticka maybe it's just that some normal people who aren't girly girly just can't and never will get it.

And women who have always been girly girls think it's us who are mad

The idea of bankrupting yourself just to have a "big day" is just crazy...

starkadder · 06/05/2009 15:22

Totally agree. That horrible saying, "it's my day!" is also ridiculous. Do women only get one day of their own??