"all women dream of being a bride and having a fairytale wedding day"

[mrsblanc]

or something similar was said on the (otherwise excellent )prog showing Claire from Steps losing weight for her wedding.

NO THEY BLOODY DON'T

OK I feel better now.
Sorry for swearing

Meant to add, we tied the knot alone for a couple of reasons: I did not have the inclination to organise a wedding for about two years and debate tedious minute details like name settings with my very bored husband-to-be, I could not justify the ludicrous amount of money a big wedding costs,even when my parents wanted to foot the bill, I don't like being the centre of attention and I loathe and detest small talk.
"Oh, isn't your dress gorgeous; you're a beautiful bride.
"Thank you so much for coming. Ermm...."

I hate the assumption that all women dream of the same thing. What utter bollox.

I have never wanted a fairytale wedding day and have never dreamt of being a bride.

When DP & I eventually get married, I want to look and feel like a princess for a day, but we don't want to get married in a church, we want it to be cheap, simple and lovely and one big party TBH

Gateau am with you on the subject of small talk. I got away with that one by pretending to be rushing somewhere all day and hiding in the loo

I just find it strange that any normal person would spend years and years fantasising about one day of their lives which won't even happen if they never meet a bloke they want to marry.

Surely fantasising about meeting a wonderful man and settling down is a more sensible fantasy? (If that's you cup of tea!).

How can organising the wedding be more important than finding the right partner?

doesnt appeal to me in the slightest.

We've been engaged for 5 years and i cant see us getting married any time too as the wedding I want and the wedding everyone ( df included) else wants me to have are MILES apart.

I just want to be married then have a big party with lots of food and alcohol..

The thought of being centre of atention for the day brings me out in hives and i'd much rather have a new kitchen than a 'wedding' any day of the week.

Worzsel, sounds harsh, but it's YOUR day. It doesn't matter what anyone else wants or thinks. And it's just ONE day; they'll soon get used to whatever you decide.

"why princess? I want to be a bloddy queen"

Apparently someone had a dream last week that I was an alien queen bent on taking over earth - now that would be a cool dressing-up opportunity

I also like belh's plan: "getting married is the perfect excuse to try and get as many of them in one room at a time and have a great big whopping party, with lots of food and drinks, crazy dancing, flowers, me in a fabulous dress, exchanging vows"

I do love it when I see newspaper reports about Star Wars weddings, Shrek weddings etc.
Worzel maybe you could have a Worzel Gummage wedding

I wanted to feel like a film star for the day but it wasn't a life long dream. Just how I felt at the time. Not bothered about princesses. I wore a short dress and killer heels, had bridesmaids dressed in whatever they liked and felt fantastic. Truly a joyous day.

oooh star wars wedding now that does appeal to me. Today I am a space princess and you will all come dressed as Wookies as it is my special day.

A relative had 'star wars' played in the church. They thought it was so original and had never been done before!

Despite having the works (and loving it) I was never someone who dreamt for years about a huge wedding. Definitely never played at being a bride when I was little, I wanted to be a mermaid, a nurse and a car designer. I did however love dressing up (in anything - not particularly princess stuff), and I think that definitely carried over to my wedding - a chance to dress up and have fun!

I think a lot of types get lumped together and its assumed if you have a huge wedding you are also the stereotypical bridezilla, and only care about "catching your man" and other such rubbish. Some people just want a great big celebration which is not something to judge them on any more than if they eloped to Gretna Green.

I would.

But only if it was completely taken out of my hands by a wedding planner and a very generous willing to pay for everything rich long lost relative.

The only person i would like to invite from my extended family though would be my sister.
So there would be tumbleweed running across the churchyard lol.

Happily it aint gonna happen so

Shrek wedding
AIBU to think this is truly sweet and romantic? The bride does actually look like Princess Fiona.

Aw that shrek couple look so happy!

(ROFL that "the idea came to her" because he looks like Shrek!)

I absolutely hate OTT weddings - well most of them - BUT I would really really love to be invited to a Goth wedding.

I will plan your OTT beautiful wedding Stercus - I love planning events, just can't afford to do them myself.

I've never wanted a big wedding. The thought of being centre of attention for a day fills me with fear.

I can't decide I keep flipping between having a casual small wedding with the reception as a BBQ in somebodies garden, and wanting a big (but still casual - screw speeches, unless they are made by impromptu drunk people) deal.

Either way I want the dress. I have been a tomboy most of my life and have discovered a latent love of pretty dresses! It doesn't mean I have dreamt of my wedding my whole life. Haven't thought about it that much tbh.

Saving up the money for it will take a while though... Oh well!

Great, great thread. I always thought I was weird, having no interest whatsoever in shuffling around looking like one of those toilet-roll-cover-dolls for the day, under mass scrutiny and in huge debt. We've not got round to getting married but if we do it'll be a meringue-free day.

Thank you for the reassurance

I used to dream about it yes. And then I woke up screaming and bathed in sweat!

Silly nonsense that shouldn't be encouraged

Having said all that we did have a quite 'big' wedding in the end and it was fun, but it wasn't the best day of my life, I didn't think I was a princess, and the comfort of my guests was way more important than my dress or flowers.

Are you a goth bonneville or do you just want to look at them in their wedding attire?

Thanks Trillian. I was thinking of having a shisha smoking area outside for chilling out, lots and lots of mojitoes ... DP just needs to propose. Small detail