hm am i the only person who thinks this mumsnet is a tad bitchy? hm probably wrong thread topic but hey, seems i upset alot of people on here, am i the only one? or is this just how mumsnet works?

[welshbyrd]

made a comment on a thread, and i have to say it wasnt worded the way i meant it, and oml it was chaos. When i first joined, i opened a thread, and most of the replies barr a few were quite unkind, hmmmmm is i the only one with this problem? or is it a mumsnet thing?

I think one of the best things about MN can also be it's worst.

It is sharp and funny and brutal which is hilarious if you are part of it or watching and devestating if you are the target.

I get a bit scared because my spelling and grammer are a bit crap and I dread getting pulled up just because someone wants to have a pop.

TBH to OP. In whatever way your origninal post was meant you are pretty lucky to be left in one cyperpiece. You got Mumsnutted because your post was very offensive. Even on the 'aww hun sending hugs' forums you would have been mashed up.

I am glad you didnt mean it in the way it appeared but you really cant blame others for being outraged bitchy. I think I would have been a wee bit murderous bitchy myself if I had seen it. Also threads move very quickly sometimes and 'sorry' can get missed and posts crossed.

Move on. I am sure MNs can hold grudges but I havent seen it as yet.

welshbyrd said that "I imagine how id feel, in a world full of people walking, eating, going out with friends doing normal things, while i could just about
wlk with sticks, or in a wheelchair. Its quality of life, many vets would put a animal down if it could not walk, eat properly, due to the animals quality
of life etc etc"

How is that not her opinion?

The rest of the post is irelevant. The part of that post was her opinion, and to suggest that a vet would put an animal down who had the kinds of disabilities children do is offensive in the extreme.

She did apologize further down the thread and tbh I think it should have been left there, but the fact she started this thread invalidates any apology IMO and clearly shows that she doesn't even see the offensiveness of what she said.

When you offend someoneone you apologize and move on. You don't rehash the whole sorry thing in order to get people back on your side - you accept that you were in the wrong and learn from it.

Yes of course mn can be bitchy. But in this instance the response to your post was well deserved. so yabu.

mwah

sorry to hear about your ankle

I would wave twigs or other approved new agey remedies about it if we were sharing a wine now

che my lovely that is an excellent post!!

I've not been here long and I enjoy the fact that posters are direct.

I've asked for opinions in a couple of areas of my life where I'm not sure I'm acting in the best way, and have ben grateful to hear the "YABU" as well as the "YANBU".

If I want loads of people to just agree with me and hug me, then I may as well line up DD's teddies and vent my spleen at them.

Actually that sounds quite therapeutic...

Oo ta.

Wannabe - exactly! it was the only bit of the thread that kept saying 'I' - so it was natural to assume that was her opinion.

The rest of the post that I so cruelly failed to copy and paste was full of shite anyway - some crap about special mothers and their disabled kids smiling up at them.

I think as many others have said it would be wise for welshbyrd to namechange, remove foot from mouth and in future engage brain before typing.

actually, there is no need to namechange IMO

things are soon forgotten and it is possible to redeem yourself

I know I'm often a dick but then I pretend it never happened and start another day

a great philosphy, ronaldinho

thanking thee

i shall go and search your posts for evidence of dickishness... not seen any as i recall

and reality is, if you upset people on one particular thread there are so many other threads on mn that it's not likely to be remembered.

Whereas if you start another thread drawing attention to it people are more likely to associate you with it iyswim.

lulu you truly are lovely, how have we kept you here?
Are you trapped in the mn ether?

i like it here. there is a lovely feeling of community , yes, there can be some nastiness, but so many threads where someone is desperate and people pile in with help, advice and support.

it is nice to feel part of that.

and to be able to talk about birthy stuff lots

i am not always nice. ask my children

overuse of the word nice in that post i think!!

It's the internet - the general mass of humanity.

Just as in everyday life, not everyone will think or feel the same and people will have differnt ways of expressing themselves. If you post stuff here you lay yourself open to that and make yourself fair game IMHO.

If you're like me, it won't bother you. Some sensitive souls, however, may not be able to hack it.

Takes a bit iof getting used to is all.

I was scared away fist time; someone disputed my info (that I know to be correct LOL) on a BF thread and got funny, I ran.... came back after a break for a bit, left when PC went...... finally stuck it out in 2004.

You just have to give it time.

If it was on a breastfeeding thread, maybe you should make allowances

Sorry? No it asnt anything like that..... someone asked me a why (not in any way an opinion thing, someone simply asked IIRC why babies cluster feed in the evenings, I explained and somebody else told me I was wrong, I wasnt but I neither was I sure enough of myself to argue then; now I would simply refer to research data.

BF / FF debates can go tits u but as I have done both I try to stick to middle ground as much as possible.

mn can be bitchy, always was and always will be....some people just can't get a point across without getting bitchy....i just ignore it..

Like Peach said you have really got to be thick-skinned sometimes and it takes time to build the bitch resistance level ...I have come and gone many times because the level of lame and bitchy convo was too high..lol..now i couldn't give a rats nads!

Think you are right welshbyrd. I only joined the other day. Find the forum site great, however some people are very opinionated and express themselves very bitchily to other members. I have noticed this in some threads. Some are out for an argument from what I can see. As previous posters have mentioned, us welshy's have to be thicker skinned and let it pass over us.

what i can't stand is the general opinion that personal experience counts for nothing. You go on a thread and say, This is what happened to me/this is what I saw the other day......... and the next thing you know, there's someone on your back shouting at you for scientific proof. As if anyone would be like that in RL!!

God yes it can be quite hideous here. I have taken pastings, all of us have at some point. A few years back when they first happened they really got to me, would eat at me for days. Now I just get mildly riled . I treat each day as if yesterday didn't happen ( Actually I can't remember it anyway).