hm am i the only person who thinks this mumsnet is a tad bitchy? hm probably wrong thread topic but hey, seems i upset alot of people on here, am i the only one? or is this just how mumsnet works?

[welshbyrd]

made a comment on a thread, and i have to say it wasnt worded the way i meant it, and oml it was chaos. When i first joined, i opened a thread, and most of the replies barr a few were quite unkind, hmmmmm is i the only one with this problem? or is it a mumsnet thing?

You're right supersky but you have to be picky abut where you post anecdotal evidence

If someone is aking for eg abut ASD and language I feel fine to use my own experiences but if someone wants to know what age to wean their baby- well mine may wwell ahve thrived when weaned at a younger age but the suggested age is six months and the research evidence points there; anecdotal evidence that ds2 was fine weaned at 4 mnths is not a great idea IMO as it completely removes the fact that ds1 weaned at that age too and what the heck has a load of food issues (topic pulled at complete random to illustrate- sorry if I accidentally upset anyone!).

Now, what I have learned is MN speak which says 'current guidelines isued by WHO suggest a weaning age of 6 months, and whilst my experience with ds2 was that ealrier weaning was fine, chidlren vary and it's hard to predict who willa nd won't be at risk so best to only consider early weaning on the advice of a Paediatrician'.

Which actually is pretty good advice anyway.

IYSWIM.

But it shouldnt be a surprise that MN ahs a few bitchy people on it; it really is a community and doesn't every community have a few? Don't the vast majority have some innus anyway? MN takes away amsks and people post without thinking often or realising the effect of their posts. A good rule of thumb acquired over years (first stint here was 2001) is to assume that every person you could possibly offend with your statemnt is on here and has had a bad day. If you still beleive in what yu want to post enough for that to be OK, go for it. If not, there's a lot to be said for walking away.

Peachy that's good advice!

Well put Peachy. Perhaps MNHQ could adopt the warning 'A good rule of thumb acquired over years (first stint here was 2001) is to assume that every person you could possibly offend with your statement is on here and has had a bad day'

Probably late coming into the conversation as always but hey.

Yes, I'm afraid it does get quite heated here. It would be just too perfect otherwise though.
Just stick to posting on threads about how to bake fairy cakes or how to get banana stains out your dd's new £50 Boden dress .

lol...never boogie it's your duty as a MN to at least piss of 10 people with your post..

Yes. When I first joined I was accused of being a troll and the vitriol was astonishing. Many people who post are unable to deal with a different point of view without resorting to profanity and aggression.
However, it is interesting to read about other people's approach to parenthood. In real life often you are exposed to a narrow social circle. In that respect MN is an eye opener.

You can't take the bitch out of a woman - and this site's pretty much made up of them, so I think you have to hold tight when you post opinions on here and expect a backlash if they are controversial.

If only we could all synchronise our bloody periods on here and throw in a full moon, at least there would be a once monthly mumsnet fight club.