hm am i the only person who thinks this mumsnet is a tad bitchy? hm probably wrong thread topic but hey, seems i upset alot of people on here, am i the only one? or is this just how mumsnet works?

[welshbyrd]

made a comment on a thread, and i have to say it wasnt worded the way i meant it, and oml it was chaos. When i first joined, i opened a thread, and most of the replies barr a few were quite unkind, hmmmmm is i the only one with this problem? or is it a mumsnet thing?

Sorry peachy, tbh ive stayed away from original thread, coz no matter how i try and explain, it aint getting through to some

Im just amazed that people would really beleive that a 37 week pregnant mum of 2 would really think something awful as that.And have such nasty thoughts towards babies, never mind disabled babies.

I did see the original post and originally interpreted it in the same way as 2shoes and others - because the 'quality of life' part was the only one that had 'I' in it, so even if that's not what you meant, I don't think you can complain that people took it that way.

2shoes you seem determined to make welsh the bad guy she has explained over and over again and yet you don't seem to want to read her posts. The bit posted IS OUT OF CONTEXT, a context welsh has tried to explain again and again.

you wern't talking about babies. as you can see from what HB copied you were talking about children, babies don't have wheelchairs or walking frames.
you also made the coent about healthy children.
so lets shake hands and walk away.

'Im just amazed that people would really beleive that a 37 week pregnant mum of 2 would really think something awful as that.And have such nasty thoughts towards babies, never mind disabled babies. '

But as we all worked hard to explain we come across exactly that bigotry regularly

So really, its not ahrd for us to read that at all. Indeed it's pretty damned normal IME. TRy standing in a shop whsilt your ASD child beats you; you'll learn about judgement then!

LibrasJusticeLeagueofBiscuits people always apologise after. I accept her apology but not her being a victim.

2shoes, this thread wasnt just about my comment and peoples response to me, it was also regarding me making a thread a few weeks ago asking advice about myself and partner, and on there 80% of the comments were nasty

Just so happens, whoever from the other thread had come across this thread, and assumed i was typing about the bad comment thread, and it has all kicked off again

WElsh, are you a Welsh speaker btw? Just owndered- more out of interest than anything (boys learning Welsh but am an immigrant myself)

I give up tbh
I am off to eat chocolate.
mn never changes.(although for onnce mn hq did delete the offensive post which is a step forward)

welsh, sounds like you will have to get over it and move on

I am personally still smarting from a bashing I received over the course of the last few days

I will get over it, I have just stayed away from here a bit and you will find this is such a fast-moving site it will soon be forgotten

but not if you bring it up on another thread

i had totally forgotten about your other thread, until rusty reminded me of it. so i think people were taking you as they found you on the thread

the facts are this:

you said something re quality of life for people with SN/LD

you did not mean it offensively, but it came across taht way to a lot of people

those people were hurt by what you said

you are all going to be going round in circles, the best thign to do, whether you agree or not, is hold your hands up to the offence you caused, you have made your apology, and now you need to leave it be

lots of people make all sorts of horrific comments, whether meant or otherwise, when pregnant or not, the fact is regardless of your pregnancy, you have offended people, intentionally or not

so just leave it be, would be my advice

Woh did they 2shoes? Wonders will never cease!

Yes WB, change your name,use apragraphs and nobody will ever now tis you.

Sorry to harp on about the paragraphs bit but there's a biiiiig pendantry thang on here, it will get thrown at you sadly.

Welshbyrd, I still really think that you've got the wrong end of the stick about that previous thread - to say 80% of the posts were 'nasty' is just untrue - there was the odd 'grow up' comment, but it was pretty mild, and nothing like 80%. Most people were concerned that you were going to get into trouble and were giving you good advice.

OOOh I remember that thread now WB, it all comes flooding back.

TBH I think most people were worried about you. Tough love. I don't think I posted but I read it through- may have done after you resolved it to say well done IIRC.

Perhaps it'd be wise to settle yourself in more gardually? Post about a bit mroe first, geta few friends?

there is no point rehashing it all, if welshbyrd still feels she got a hard time! the thread was mostly motivated by concern that the OP could be prosecuted and that her DP was not supportive enough.

anyway, a sign of maturity is taking advice on board, taking it on the chin and learning from it. even if you don;t agree it is always valuable to get constructive criticism

i would really let it go now

i know rusty, but it was may 1st ever thred

And the second time i give my opinion, im attcked again, because it was misleading to some

And peachy yes my 1st language is welsh
well done for your children learning a second language, even better that its welsh

maybe you need to take a long hard look at how you express yourself and add a disclaimer that english is not your first language?

if people keep taking you the wrong way, you do have to accept some responsibility for how you come across, rather than all the responsibility on those people who get the wrong end of the stick

it is hard on the internet, no-one can see you , no-one knows you are pregnant , no-one can see your expression or hear your tone of voice, so you ahve to measure your written words carefully before you use them

P.s did learn from my 1st ever post.

It kicked mine and my partners ass into gear, and we are doing really good now

was nice getting it all sorted ready for bump to arrive

well, that is great. you clearly took soemthing positive away from it

anyway, if this is a bitchy site unable to appreciate the wisdom of your words....why do you continue to argue on and on about them here?

It is obvious that you are not going to get the sympathy you feel you deserve.

Whether you like it or not you have hurt and upset some people and instead of leaving it at that you started this thread asking for sympathy generally for the way you have been treated on mn.

Why not take the advice of the people on the thread and leave it now?
T'will all be forgotten once we have a decent SAHM thread

dull xpost

Well, we live in Wales now, LOL- curriculum

There a few Welsh Speakers on here y'know, if you ever want them for a chat put a call out for them.

Get yourself in an ante / postnatal thread if you're not already, best intro to MN lite there is.

great minds, ronaldinho....

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you look hot in those bunny ears !