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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

hm am i the only person who thinks this mumsnet is a tad bitchy? hm probably wrong thread topic but hey, seems i upset alot of people on here, am i the only one? or is this just how mumsnet works?

232 replies

welshbyrd · 09/04/2009 23:56

made a comment on a thread, and i have to say it wasnt worded the way i meant it, and oml it was chaos. When i first joined, i opened a thread, and most of the replies barr a few were quite unkind, hmmmmm is i the only one with this problem? or is it a mumsnet thing?

OP posts:
Ronaldinhio · 10/04/2009 13:25

hear, hear 2shoes

RustyBunny · 10/04/2009 13:26

I've just read the other thread I presume you're referring to, and can't see that people were being bitchy or nasty, just trying to reinforce the point that you seemed to be missing. It was straight talking maybe, but not bitching (the thought of lulumama being called a bitch is making me pmsl - maybe you are too new to MN to know her, but I believe she is the only poster on MN who has been deleted for being too nice... )

The only post that could have been taken as nasty was the one suggesting you were a troll, for which the poster concerned later apologised (an apology which you appear to have ignored by the way)

I think you got a lot of support and good advice on that thread & I'm glad you were able to sort your situation out.

Dillydaydreamer · 10/04/2009 13:27

As Tori32 I managed to enrage so many people with my thread that it ran out of space in 2 days!

LuluisgoingtobeanAunty · 10/04/2009 13:27

who called me a bitch!!!

yes, i was deleted for being too nice

tis a gift, i can't help it

FelineFine · 10/04/2009 13:29

Oh she called lulumama a bitch!

Welshbyrd who cannot seperate paragraphs, go away and come back with a new name.

Lurk for a bit. Get the feel of the place. You wouldn't just dive in and start talking in RL.

Don't call Lulumama a bitch I seen Lulumamas first posts when she first posted here, she does nothing but help people.

Go away and come back in a bit.

LuluisgoingtobeanAunty · 10/04/2009 13:30

before we get totally hysterical, did i get called a bitch?

ah, dilly, fancy a chat about early weaning, my dear

sarah293 · 10/04/2009 13:33

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn

RustyBunny · 10/04/2009 13:33

No, before I get flamed, she didn't actually call you a bitch lulu, but you were one of the posters on the thread giving her the advice that she objected to, so the implication was there - I did say the thought of lulu being called a bitch!

FelineFine · 10/04/2009 13:34

Oh Okay, glad that's cleared up.

I still think she needs a break and a nc.

LuluisgoingtobeanAunty · 10/04/2009 13:35

i see...

which thread was it? i have no memory

anyway, i should be resting my ankle, rather than lurkign on contentious threads , causing mayhem

Ronaldinhio · 10/04/2009 13:35

What on earth did you say that was too nice to remain in our nest?

FelineFine · 10/04/2009 13:36

I am away to a nice fluffy cat forum for a bit to read anout about cat birth. You would not believe how much it is like human birth, well in some ways.

If kitten does not come out breathing I have massage it with a cloth to stimulate breathing or swing it like a baseball or something.............

Anyway, enjoy!

LuluisgoingtobeanAunty · 10/04/2009 13:36

ah, that thread. i do remember now

i offered big squashy, bosomy group hugs, on a thread that had gone a bit, well, like thsi thread.

RustyBunny · 10/04/2009 13:36

I was going to ask about your ankle lulu - what did you do to it - did you trip over your iron?

LuluisgoingtobeanAunty · 10/04/2009 13:38

i fell off the kerb. no, i wasn;t drunk it's quite swollen and bruised, but on the mend, no ironing related injuries lately

amber32002 · 10/04/2009 14:03

"I imagine how id feel, in a world full of people walking, eating, going out with friends doing normal things, while i could just about wlk with sticks, or in a wheelchair. Its quality of life, many vets would put a animal down if it could not walk, eat properly, due to the animals quality of life etc etc"

'Scuse me whilst I find the smelling salts.

As people here may know, I have Asperger syndrome with dyspraxic elements, arthritis, and spinal scoliosis. There's tons of things I can't do, but there's tons of ways round nearly every problem - whether by people understanding and helping, or by adapting the environment, or by sheer determination and me learning patience and not expecting miracles from myself. And I'm married with a lovely ds and many equally lovely friends and a good job.

My life has in no way been defined by me grieving for what I can't do, though that's increasing with time. And I find what was said about the animals being put down if they were suffering like that to be absolutely in ths context. I really do.

I appreciate apologies have been made, and that's fine - I accept the apology - but goodness me I can understand why people were horrified.

LuluisgoingtobeanAunty · 10/04/2009 14:08

i think the comment was exceptionally clumsy, but trying to be empathetic in a very roundabout way.

it also demosntrates a massive lack of imagination and understanding of people who live with varying degrees of SN/LD etc....

it does not take into account that people in wheelchairs/on crutches etc can face the challenges of every day life and actually get through it

but i don't think it was meant as badly as it sounds , although it is a bald and rather stupid way of expressing things

i think it is a good opportunity to show and demonstrate how people with SN/LD etc can live normal, productive and fulfilling lives and show the OP that her sympathy is perhaps misplaced

although i can totally understand why it is offensive

ItsMargotBeaurEGGarde · 10/04/2009 14:09

The judging is out of control lately. There was a time, you say something flippant, and people would get that you it was tongue in cheek. Or, maybe that's what you would say/think/do on a bad day! Now, you can say nothing without somebody judgy leaping a mile down your throat to tear strips off you.

It's beginning to drive me mad.

Also, just two minutes ago I read some moronic comment from a 'tax payer' bitching to somebody who posted a reasonable question.

lou33 · 10/04/2009 15:13

riven, it's here

screamingabdab · 10/04/2009 15:14

Sorry to hijack, but no one has replied to my question in Behaviour/Development about Pen Again pens

I am feeling sad and forlorn. Can anyone help?

Love you all lots

Tortington · 10/04/2009 15:18

i agree with margot. its like jeremy kyle on here recently.

oh...and don't think about saying sorry...becuase it will be seen as a weakness, an admission of guilt and a further 478 post will ensue about what a twat you are.

only a very few people on mn who have any kind of decent upbringing will acknowledge an apology ( a true apology)

its all a bit 'street type' on hee recently.

Tortington · 10/04/2009 15:18

i agree with margot. its like jeremy kyle on here recently.

oh...and don't think about saying sorry...becuase it will be seen as a weakness, an admission of guilt and a further 478 post will ensue about what a twat you are.

only a very few people on mn who have any kind of decent upbringing will acknowledge an apology ( a true apology)

its all a bit 'street type' on hee recently.

screamingabdab · 10/04/2009 15:23

Shit, have just realised I have started a thread about a thread (although, technically, me talking to myself doesn't count as a thread does it?)

Peachy · 10/04/2009 15:32

I can't beleive you started this- ! And I even tried to understand your posting despite the a,mternal urge to flame....

I think you are a rather unusual person, OP

Peachy · 10/04/2009 15:36

'think i did state that i had probably posted this on the wrong thread topic, under AIBU.
'

so post elsewhere?

why post somewhere you knowsits not right?

yanbu mn can be bitch but your postwas thoughtless tosay the least amongstaroup of people who were discussing life with sn children

are you surprised?

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