hm am i the only person who thinks this mumsnet is a tad bitchy? hm probably wrong thread topic but hey, seems i upset alot of people on here, am i the only one? or is this just how mumsnet works?

[welshbyrd]

made a comment on a thread, and i have to say it wasnt worded the way i meant it, and oml it was chaos. When i first joined, i opened a thread, and most of the replies barr a few were quite unkind, hmmmmm is i the only one with this problem? or is it a mumsnet thing?

::Gets hard hat & popcorn::

just you i think

What did you say???

(plumps up cushions and settles in....)

It's like life, you'll meet people you wouldn't want to touch with a barge pole ad others you will think have been part of your life forever. It's normally the AIBU threads that attract the more vocal members. Not everyone's like this, maybe the vocal ones stick out more then the ones who will stay up with you until the small wee hours with you because your child's ill or because you are lonely. These people, although remembered, don't make such an impact. Sad really.

Its a human thing? an internet forum thing? Its just like real life. Some people are interesting, most are not. Some people have a sense of humour, most do not.

But I do wonder why people put themselves thru it if they find it traumatising to have people they have never met and probably never will abuse them thru the medium of type...

How long have you been a member welsh?

It can be horrible here........but it's hard to leave when it all kicks off.

welshy - mumsnet is a good thing but do remember to preview you posts and think twice about hitting that button if you've been drinking.

Oh but drunk posts are always the best themoon66

Bollox - whydont my italics work when am pissed? eh??

i was sort of defending inderviduals who may consider a termination in extreme circumstances, and it was worded in a way, that made me sound like i was against people having disabled children. But it wasnt how i meant it, the majourity of the people understood what i meant, but a few were quite nasty, even though i had repeatedly typed i was sorry and i hadnt meant it in the way it may have sounded

wish i was drunk though themoon, im 37 weeks pregnant, drunk night shall be soon here though

There's people on here who are either very sensitive or out for an argument. Just ignore. They should listen when you appologise, life's a learning curve, as it is on here. Don't take it personally, alot tend to go nuts over the school holidays aswell. Too much time/children. It will all be forgotten very soon. I'll jump in and piss them off to take the heat off if you want.

aw welshy look at it again in the morning and you'll be okay.

Good thing about MN is you get forgiven and everyone moves on dead quick.

If you press someone's button about a sensitive issue then they won't care about understanding what you said or what you wish you'd put more carefully, they will just pile in and put the boot in. but that is their problem. you can't take it personally, because how can it be personal if they dont know you?

The anonymity gives people freedom to be much ruder than they would ever dare in real life.

It can feel very nasty but as long as you are holding to opinions you believe in, not just trying to be tediously controversial, just keep going.

See, told you.

don't let it get to you, sometimes it can get a bit nasty or judgy especially on an evening when bored housewives are getting pissed people are relaxing when the kids are in bed.

pick yourself up, brush yourself off and move to another thread. Some threads are very very emotive and posts can get very heated and hurtful.

You apologised for upsetting anyone even though it wasn't your intention. You have done all you can, some people just get the bit between their teeth and run with it. Do not take it personally.

Here, have a drink on me

it's a gang thing, you have to be jumped in

then you can never leave

Lol take everything with a big pinch of salt, every now and then Mumsnet probably saves/chances somebody's life and then it's brilliant.

Not everyone's an evil bitch person. I've been ill and some lovely people have given me support. Remember the nice ones, make voodoo dolls out of the annoying bastards. Just remember that it's like life, a mixed bag, mostly nice and helpful. Honest!

I got flamed on one of my first posts, very stressful and I still dwell on it now. (please don't flame me for this!)

if you're not used to mn it's easy to post in the wrong place or not use the right language. also it does seem that people won't always read a whole thread, and so your apology or further explanations can fall on deaf ears (so to speak).

Having said that, even whilst being flamed i got some great responses from a handful of individuals who read the whole of my post.

don't worry about it, and don't let it stop you from using mn for the wealth of experience and humour on tap daily.