To be shocked and disgusted at DH and his strange sexual requests?

[CindyCrawfordsLeftLeg]

DH has been suggesting we should be a bit more adventurous in bed lately.

I'm up for that, dont mind trying different positions or a bit of role play etc

last night we shared a bottle of chablis and were both a bit 'tipsy', he got a bit amorous and we headed off to the bedroom

Things were getting a bit passionate and he then tells me he has a suprise for me, he opened up the bedside table and pulled out a box, i opened it up and to my horror, pulled out a strap on rubber penis

I was too shocked to speak, just sat there amazed, he then started explaining that he wanted me to use it on HIM but first i would have to 'loosen him up' with my tongue he called it 'rimming' [disgusted]

Needless to say we had a big row, after i called him weird and freaky, he slept on the sofa, got up early and went to the office, i am expecting him back soon, but i think this is the beginning of the end, i need time to think, he is not the man i thought he was

I really don't get why some women on here are so uptight about experimenting, or the suggestions that their partners may make. You only need to laugh about it, and say no thanks. It's not a big deal

cause it makes u wonder if he is gay and is he gettin fucked up the bum elsewhere urghhh

I'm far from uptight. I used to go out with a bloke that had a thing about womens boots.... he wanted me to buy him a pair that he could wear. I said I would as long as I didn't see him in them.

But this went as far as him buying the dildo..... hardly a wee suggestion. I'd wonder what else I didn't know about his preferences.
AND I can think of nothing less attractive than seeing your man on all 4s being fked up the ass.....

You're right about that, Toothy, bet that dildo's the size of Texas .

you just have to laugh it off and not worry so much, i think that makes it worse if you panic and make more out of it than you need to. if you have a lot to drink, it's easy to come out with something out of the blue (a strap-on for example).

or you could play his game and say 'how about a threesome'? bit girl-on-girl action and let him watch. then see what his reaction is.

ahfeckit - they weren't drunk... and he'd bought the dildo already though.
I'd have images of him surfing the net for freaky sex toys and fetish gear, the mouse in one hand... his cock in the other lol.
I wouldn't go as far as to end the marriage, but it would certainly raise a few questions in my mind!

Ha Expat.... have you been looking in my bedside drawers?

Aren't those strap on dildos for gay women?

ending the marriage would be a tad drastic, he was only interested in spicing things up but it wasn't taken very well by his other half. These things sometimes happen. I'm sure they'll sort stuff out.

any sex can use a strap-on. i dont' have personal experience of it myself, but seen plenty porn, you certainly get your eyes opened..

Divorce him OP

It would disgust me too, i mean rogering your own dh is just not natural, me thinks he has been spending too much time with the starshit truckers

were they semi naked when you caught them play wrestling?

< snigger >

I have just checked with the Vatican. As long as you DON'T use a condom, it's perfectly acceptable, the pope tells me.

I'm confused as to why so many of you assumed this wasn't a real post.

What do you all mean by 'one of those' mners?? when referring to bum sex???? Is it a them and us situation, iss it frowned upon or what?

Ah singyswife.

You are obviously one of those MNers...

I would only worry if he asks you to put on a cap with Eddie stobart lorries on it and talk to him in a geezer type voice while you do it!!

Actually, seriously - my DP does like a bit of stimulation in that department. He is the most ungay person i know.

Thank you cindy glad you liked my efforts

Well I quite like fucking men up the arse with a strap on. (With their enthusiastic consent, of course). But I don't like having anything up my bum, personally.
TBH bumsex is pretty tame when it comes to Unusual Stuff, and as long as all partners involved like the idea, nothing wrong with it at all. Just be sensible ie anything that goes up anyone's bum should have a wide base or be firmly attached to someone/something large. Otherwise it will be you giving the local A&E dept another good story for their Xmas party.

could be worse .. he could have asked you to electrecute his bals.. whilt brandishing some wires and a car battery!

Would rather carry out electrocution that rim a hairy arsed trucker

'I'm confused as to why so many of you assumed this wasn't a real post'

Me too toothy, me too

< falls about laughing >

LOL

I've just consulted my dp and he said he'd leave that kind of exploration until his 50yr old 'check-up'.

I better find that receipt....