To be shocked and disgusted at DH and his strange sexual requests?

[CindyCrawfordsLeftLeg]

DH has been suggesting we should be a bit more adventurous in bed lately.

I'm up for that, dont mind trying different positions or a bit of role play etc

last night we shared a bottle of chablis and were both a bit 'tipsy', he got a bit amorous and we headed off to the bedroom

Things were getting a bit passionate and he then tells me he has a suprise for me, he opened up the bedside table and pulled out a box, i opened it up and to my horror, pulled out a strap on rubber penis

I was too shocked to speak, just sat there amazed, he then started explaining that he wanted me to use it on HIM but first i would have to 'loosen him up' with my tongue he called it 'rimming' [disgusted]

Needless to say we had a big row, after i called him weird and freaky, he slept on the sofa, got up early and went to the office, i am expecting him back soon, but i think this is the beginning of the end, i need time to think, he is not the man i thought he was

I think your hubby put alot of trust in you to feel he could ask you about this and you did agree to try new things.That doesn't mean trying anything that makes you uncomfortable but it does mean talking to him about it.
The poor bloke must be mortified!
Rimming is the most disgusting thing in the world and i would never do it,not even for my beloved.But if your hubby wants to be 'warmed up" maybe a little dildo/but plug type thing could start you both off on a much smaller scale.
Im sure you're mortified also,but you did tell him you were up for 'new stuff'
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Why not try an entire bottle of wine/person next time? I'd try chianti for you, but no red wine for him, it might make him runny.

CCLF, just ignore the rude stuff as you're also getting good advice e.g. surrofab.

surofab i find the idea of rimming discusting too, thankyou for not making fun of me

But it's not for real!!!!!

yeah, but she finds rimming rude, too.

It might not be, I did think everyone knew what cottaging is.

hey lefty ya bitch, i got the sock wit the hole in it again this morning

I will apologise to my dh when he is home as i see my reaction was a little harsh, i was just shocked, i cant understand why you all would find that unbelievable, you obviously have had more sexual experiences than me and probably with a LOT more partners, DH is my first and only

< gets up smiling in attemp to win the public over >

Any sex I had before my exDH was purely for educational purposes, and very tastefully done.

yes, only slags would know about rimming and pegging and cottaging.

because certainly prudes people who've not been around would find such behaviour shocking!

newsflash: my 14-year-old niece, who's definitely a virgin, knows what rimming and pegging and cottaging are. after all, she spends a lot of time of Bebo and FaceBook.

Can you please explain 'cottaging' and 'pegging' to me? i honestly havent heard of them before

Sure, try this.

cottaging made famous by George Michael - in public toilets. No idea about pegging

And "tagging", expat. That's all over facebook and the like. Disgraceful.

OKso no one should feel obliged to do anything sexual that revolts them, but there is nothing wrong with the things your partner wants to try. Men like having their bums stimulated as that's where the prostate gland is. Some women like anal play too even though women don't have prostates, because the whole anal-genital area is packed with sensitive nerve endings, after all.
Rimming (licking someone's anus) is TBH not the safest of sexual activities and can give you a stomach upset: however you can use a dental dam (or clingfilm) as a barrier and lick through that so he gets the sensations and you don't get anything you don't want on your tongue).
Are there things that you would like to try that you ahve never suggested to your partner? WHy not have a talk with him, apologise for over-reacting when he brought out the strap on and see whereabouts the two of you can compromise on getting your jollies.
BTW, a man wanting something up his arse isn't necessarily gay. A man is gay/bi if he wants to have sex with actual other men.

cindy please do not give up on your marriage just yet.
When he comes home tell him you have reconsidered and are willing to explore new things...tell him you are up for a bit of space docking that will excite him

Is that where you back onto their cock? [struggles to think of what it might be]

solid - there's a whole other category of Men Who Have Sex With Men who don't identify as gay because they only go for men when there are no women available. Apparently it's not uncommon amongst long-distance lorry drivers. One health authority resorted to leaving condoms in bird boxes at lay-bys...

No lets just say it involves, poop, a freezer and nothing to do with nasa

True, edam. Or refer to themselves as Men Who Have Sex with Other Men, but stress that they are not bi or gay.

I wasnt calling you 'slags' expat but you seem to know your stuff so obviously some of you have been about abit

Dh did seem to get quite turned on when we were watching Brokeback Mountain last night

two cowboys getting it on in a tent is hard to resist