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Original poster

to be shocked at 20 month old sitting in a pram feeding himself a jar of baby food on a bus?

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justneedsomesleep · 23/03/2009 18:08

Probably Miss Judgey pants here. But surely if he's capably feeding himself with a spoon, it shouldn't be a crappy jar of baby food! And on a bus while mum talking on her mobile phone!

Guessing he was a bout 20 months as older than my ds but prob not 2. Was a bit shocked at the self feeding on the bus,and crap nature of it....

....flame away.....
I'm ready for it..

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solowitch · 23/03/2009 18:09

Tis sooooooo common dahrleng!

sarah293 · 23/03/2009 18:10

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leonifay · 23/03/2009 18:10

my little brother wont let anyone else feed him, he has to do it himself, and if a jar is all he would eat, or if they had bought it while out as mum had forgotten food...

tomanykidstoname · 23/03/2009 18:12

i have too say my son is 20 month n i think he would look at me in disgust if i tried too feed him a jar of baby food never mind make him feed himself it but then a lot of people now just seem to feed their kids jars of food for convenience but it wouldve shocked me too

mum23monkeys · 23/03/2009 18:13

YANBU. Can't think of anything coherent to add. It goes against all my unarticulated principles of food and meal times.

FairyMum · 23/03/2009 18:15

So what?

alfiesmadmother · 23/03/2009 18:15

Yeah should have been a sausage roll at that age

RealityIsMyOnlyDelusion · 23/03/2009 18:15

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SkintColditz · 23/03/2009 18:15

YABU

You have no idea why he was feeding himself a jar of baby food while his mum was on the phone. Perhaps the mum's mother was dying in hospital and she was trying to arrange childcare. YOu don't know, so beak out.

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justneedsomesleep · 23/03/2009 18:16

i quite like it there!....thank you!

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girlandboy · 23/03/2009 18:17

Was there no FruitShoot to wash it down? Tut tut.

screamingabdab · 23/03/2009 18:18

Was he drinking a fruit shoot too?

Not all baby foods are crappy - many are very good. You don't know anything about this child - perhaps he has eating issues

psychomum5 · 23/03/2009 18:18

at least it wasn't a mcdonalds burger

it could have been worse..............it could have been juice in a bottle!!!

at least he was able to feed himself. that is fab in itself. and he might well have feeding issues, mine did and needed either my made food, or jars if we were caught short when out (severe allergies, and greggs just does not cater to allergies I have found).

and so what if she was on the phone. sometimes people need to take important phonecalls when out you know......

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justneedsomesleep · 23/03/2009 18:19

p.s mum was arguing on the phone about her current talk plan - no dying mother and jar was crappy - no substitute for say an apple or other fruit to tide him over until he got home....

i guess the most shocking was the apparent lack of care it seemed...

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steviesgirl · 23/03/2009 18:19

And.........better that than McDonald's or worse. If there wasn't a demand for baby food then it wouldn't be sold. If it was that crap it wouldn't be allowed.

If they were out and the child was hungry then what's the problem? Better than the child being miserable and having to wait to eat. It was none of your business.

screamingabdab · 23/03/2009 18:19

X-post girlandboy !

screamingabdab · 23/03/2009 18:20

Child could choke on an apple!

littlelamb · 23/03/2009 18:20

Well if you were surprised at that you'd positively have died at the sight of a heavily pregnant woman at baby clinic today giving her baby a swig of her red bull I couldn't believe my eyes

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Ivykaty44 · 23/03/2009 18:22

what is it that actually shocks you about this?

Is it:
a) the fact that dinner is being served on a moving bus?
b)that the baby/toddler is feeding himself
c) the food is from a jar?

Twims · 23/03/2009 18:23

So would it have been better if the toddler had been eating/sucking one of those Ella Organic pouches whilst their mother was on the phone?

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HerBeatitudeLittleBella · 23/03/2009 18:24

What's shocking about it?

I used to make mine sit in their pram and do the ironing. Used to yell at them if they didn't fold the clothes up properly.

FAQinglovely · 23/03/2009 18:24

not sure what to be most about - the fact you're shocked a 20 month old was feeding himself (DS3, nearly 22 months has been getting a fork from the drawer to feed himself for a couple of months now), or about your shock of him eating a jar of baby food.

psychomum5 · 23/03/2009 18:25

look, so what!

serioulsy, this is not bad parenting by any means. you have no idea what else is going on, and at least the child was having some food, so at some point had not been ignored as she would not be giving him food.

and so what about the jars. sometimes you need to go with what is best for that particular moment.

what would you have said had it been a choc bar, bag of crisps, a pepperami. there is far far far worse food choices out ther for children than a jar!!!

and yes, maybe fruit would have been better, but a short while ago on here there was a thread complaining about children having fruit unsupervised because of choking risks.

you know what, us mums just cannot fucking win with whatever choice we make these days.