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Original poster

to be shocked at 20 month old sitting in a pram feeding himself a jar of baby food on a bus?

515 replies

justneedsomesleep · 23/03/2009 18:08

Probably Miss Judgey pants here. But surely if he's capably feeding himself with a spoon, it shouldn't be a crappy jar of baby food! And on a bus while mum talking on her mobile phone!

Guessing he was a bout 20 months as older than my ds but prob not 2. Was a bit shocked at the self feeding on the bus,and crap nature of it....

....flame away.....
I'm ready for it..

OP posts:
FAQinglovely · 23/03/2009 19:02

my DS3 sat on a bus and finished off his sausage roll (sorry to disappoint it wasn't a greggs one - was the baker opposite greggs as they weren't as busy ) the other day, I didn't help him.

He'd had breakfast at home, we'd done the school run and then the stuff I needed to do had taken longer than I expected - he was hungry - I fancied a bacon roll - so bought him a sausage roll - he loved it

DSM · 23/03/2009 19:03

What in earth makes you think it was unimportant?

This is ridiculous.

And IMO, a 20mo that is capable of feeding himself, should be left to do so. The mother was right there next to him, FFS.

MommyHasaHeadache · 23/03/2009 19:03

LOL I'm laughing at the image I have in my head of this little person eating out of a jar with a sppon by himself!

Phoenix4725 · 23/03/2009 19:03

hmm ds feed himself on bus,train, where ever hes hungry and cant see him either,its that or see how many eardrums he can shatter ,scurries of to check contents of freezer sorry kids its fish ,chips and mushy peas for te a tomorrow but its ok i got pot noodles in cupboard

StealthPolarBear · 23/03/2009 19:03

I didn't realise that FAQ. Maybe MN could formalise it as a polite request not to use it.

Original poster
justneedsomesleep · 23/03/2009 19:04

i am shocked at some vehement replies - a lot of you are more up in arms than I was.

i asked was i being unreasonable to be shocked at a 20 month old sitting in a pram feeding himself while on a bus?

the rest of you have went on to fill in the blanks that the mother was crap/interact all the time.

I was shocked - never seen it before! Jeez!
Snacks like raisins and other little things sure but not this ...

i read aibu posts and this is why i normally never post here...it's like chinese whispers gone bad.

OP posts:
StealthPolarBear · 23/03/2009 19:04

I don't mean to the OP - just in general

Grumpyoldcaaaaaaaa · 23/03/2009 19:05

Eh?

StealthPolarBear · 23/03/2009 19:05

sorry, thought toomanykids was the OP!

FAQinglovely · 23/03/2009 19:05

and how do you know her curent talk plan wasn't important - if she has no landline then her current talk plan if her providers have screwed up could actually be quite important.

DSM · 23/03/2009 19:06

You actually used the words 'crap' and 'crappy' in the OP.

Your referred to the mothers 'apparent lack of care', and 'not bothering her arse'.

Not chinese whispers, its what you said.

tomanykidstoname · 23/03/2009 19:07

i quite agree with you justneedsomesleep i only said i agreed with u and ended up getting all this

Grumpyoldcaaaaaaaa · 23/03/2009 19:07

Stealth - my 'Eh?' was at the OP, I didn't quite get her point.

You I understood perfectly

FAQinglovely · 23/03/2009 19:07

Stealth - well I assume that screen readers can't cope with text speak..........could be wrong - WannaBe is the one you need to ask (as she uses one iirc).

tomanykidstoname · 23/03/2009 19:08

no phone call is more important than your child

TheFallenMadonna · 23/03/2009 19:08

I genuinely don't understand why there is such a gulf between eating a box of raisins and eating a jar of food. Is it because he was using a spoon? Would a sandwich have upset you?

Ineedmorechocolatenow · 23/03/2009 19:09

Who cares what this woman was doing on the bus? Are you pissed off at the jar, the fact that they were on a bus, or the fact that she was on the phone? Or all three?

Jeez, I let my 2 yr old DS nibble on a flapjack round town while he was in the buggy.... shock.. horror.. gasp!!! I may even have been paying attention to something else at the time, like paying in a cheque at the bank.....

You must be one of those perfect parents I keep reading about, but have yet to meet

YABVU

Northernlurker · 23/03/2009 19:09

tomanykidstoname - if you are saying in your nickname that yu have more children than you can name then it should actually be 'too' - but if you're making some sort of almost poetical statement like 'to many kids, to name' then tomanykidstoname is fine.

This whole ignoring the child thing - she was sitting right by him wasn't she? On the same bus? So imo perfectly poised to intervene but also able to multi-task? You don't have to talk to your children all the time you know.

I'm upstairs right now and mine are downstairs eating CRISPS. I've also been at work all day, take them to MacDonalds every so often and weaned them all at least in part on jars. So do you want to judge me - or do you just prefer being smug about women who don't you're judging them and can't answer back?

DSM · 23/03/2009 19:10

'no phone call is more important that your child'?

Are you kidding? She didn't abandon her child to make a call for goodness sake, she didn't put a phonecall before her child?! This is absolutely crazy.

Her child was happily eating a jar of food designed for a baby. FFS.

pispirispis · 23/03/2009 19:10

I'm sure my dd's sandwich crammed into her mouth would have definitely upset you!

Portofino · 23/03/2009 19:11

I am constantly amazed on here that other mothers of young children don't have enough to worry about without criticising others. What on earth is wrong with jars of baby food anyway. If he had been swigging from a can of special brew, now that is something to get upset about.

RealityIsMyOnlyDelusion · 23/03/2009 19:11

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StealthPolarBear · 23/03/2009 19:12

No FAQ, I work with computers and websites (horrible things!) and that would make sense, I'd just never thought about it in those terms before.

tomanykidstoname · 23/03/2009 19:12

yet again i didnt start this thread i just agreed with the op n i seem to be getting the backlash

FAQinglovely · 23/03/2009 19:12

"no phone call is more important than your child "

oh right - so when am I supposed to make my phonecalls then as most places close at 5/5.30? And all are closed by the time I get my dS1 into bed.....