to be shocked at 20 month old sitting in a pram feeding himself a jar of baby food on a bus?

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Probably Miss Judgey pants here. But surely if he's capably feeding himself with a spoon, it shouldn't be a crappy jar of baby food! And on a bus while mum talking on her mobile phone!

Guessing he was a bout 20 months as older than my ds but prob not 2. Was a bit shocked at the self feeding on the bus,and crap nature of it....

....flame away.....
I'm ready for it..

the food was crap not the mother.
'apparent ' lack of care - not knowing for sure, but yes it didn't look like she was bothering.

Would no-one else have done a double take?

Last time i'm posting here.

This is the most absurd thread I have read so far on MN.

I just do not understand why this jar on bus scenario would bother anyone.

'Would no-one else have done a double take? '

No, frankly.

Northernlurker hear hear

God know what anyone would make of the more memorable "snapshots" of my life with my DSs eg heavily pregnant woman stands by as 2 year old runs headlong into a wall during a tantrum

as stated already - jars - while not organic lentils, are not the work of the devil

how was she apparently not caring? Surely not caring would have been letting the kid go hungry?

It does not have to be the last time you post.

Please don't take the debate to heart, its not personal. You asked if you were being unreasonable, and the general consensus is that you are.

I'm with Riven - I'd have listened in on the phone call too

I may have taken a second look but probably because the child looked cute rather than an "OMG that poor child" type view.

So when you said you were ready for the flaming...

I think that 20 months is a bit old for baby food tbh, and if they had stopped to buy the jar then why didn't they get a sandwich or piece of fruit?

My DSs cousin was still being fed jars, at home by her lazy parents who didn't want to do anything with her until she was at least 3, i think it is lazy parenting, how hard is it to do a small sandwich to take out with you?

If i am going to be out anywhere near DSs lunch time i take either some fruit, or some dried fruit, and a sandwich, if we get back before lunch then he can eat it then.

I don't mind if people use jars for babies, but come on, 20 months???

Nope no double take here - just as I dont raise my eyebrows when middleclass mums at the school gates declaim proudly that they feed their dcs their tea in various car parks because of the ridiculous number of after school activities...oh no wait I do get all judgey about that...

In all seriousness it can take ages to get home/around by bus and you never know where you're going to get stuck or held up.

And theres normally no judging on here but heartfelt advice if someone comes on and says 'I've tried everything but my 20 month old will only eat jarred food'.

I've often eaten on buses and survived.
My children fed themselves from an early age, I was proud of them for doing it - am I now to assume that anyone seeing them would think I didn't care?
And tbh a jar is positively healthy compared to some of the things I've seen children given to eat when out and about -
I did once post that I'd seen a mum in the come out of B&M Bargains with a Blue Panda Pop which she then stood and decanted into the childs bottle before giving it to him..

And the children whose buggies are covered in flaky greasy pastry from the pasties and sausage rolls that are given to them to munch on unassisted - and omg if their mothers have forward facing buggies then they can't even stare at the child as it eats.

The human race is doooooooomed. Dooooooomed I tell you

But it might have been a desert, and the baby had had lunch earlier, we don't know.....

Oh my god....

HOW do you know it wasn't all she had with her? HOW do you know that the baby doesn't have eating problems?

This is beyond absurd now.
The judgements being made about someone who is not here is appalling.

i agree with the op she posted on here a question and we have both just had abuse back! im sorry but maybe everyone needs too start doing more double takes and being more bothered about what they see and there might not be so much happening too kids

a bus? in the desert? pmsl screamingabdab

dessert

MsSpentYouth - I gave dd3 (23 months) one of those organix fruit pots for dessert yesterday instead of a yoghurt. They can be fed to babies too - does this in your view make me a lazy parent?

OP - no I wouldn't have looked twice -'child fed on bus' - it's hardly headline news is it?

my DS3 likes to pull his sandwiches to pieces and throw them on the floor, before picking the filling out and eating it sperately, then picking the bread off the floor and eating that - so out of the question for on the bus

tomanykidstoname are you being serious?!

You both made extremely judgemental comments. Thats not posting a question. And the OP said she was prepared to be flamed, though she obviously wasn't.

Maybe people like you should stop worrying about what other people feed their children, and when, when you know nothing of the situation or circumstances.

FFS. Actually beyond belief that people can be this up themselves.

Tomanykids - you seriously need to go lie down or something - are you equating a child eating on a bus with abuse?