to write mildly pornographic stories, even though DH hates it?

[KayHarkerIsPlayingWithMitchell]

In amongst trying to to general mumsy things, I write stories, many of which feature fictional characters doing incredibly rude things to one another.

Dh absolutely hates me writing anything much at all, unless it's the few little projects I have convinced him might bring me £50 royalties when I'm 40 or something.

He especially hates the fanfiction and the ones which include sexual situations, and tells me it's no different to me having an affair with someone.

I disagree, and am actually seriously considering trying to do something full length which includes sexual situations. Am I unreasonable to continue writing despite his wishes?

Will you be writing this from personal experience?
You dirty perve you.

How selfish of him to deny you something you like to do which actually pays money.

Ignore him and carry on with the writing.

Grrr... men like that make me want to scream.

TROLL TROLL

Your DH thinks writing about sexual situations is no different than having an affair??????

He IBU. YANBU.

It doesn't pay any money at all. It is a complete waste of time that does nothing except perhaps help me practice blocking character's movements accurately

Blocking them? As in fending off the hordes that would be tempting you into RL affairs otherwise? YANBU.

He needs to get a life of his own!

Take that carefully-constructed smutty sentence, you cad, you!

No blocking them like on a stage set - remember where a character's hand is so I don't suddenly have a disembodied hand doing something when it should already be fiddling with a button fly etc.

I'm not a troll, poopscoop. How very dare you.

YANBU but if you are a fan, you should ask this on a fan forum, not MumsNet.

Why can't I ask this on MN?

oh no sorry kay TROLLop

I am confused - why can't she ask this question on MN?

Absolutely you should carry on writing whatever you want to write. (Why doesn't he like you writing 'anything much at all' -- even the non-sexual stuff?)

lol at TROLLup.

He thinks it's a waste of time, and I should be going for bike rides or walks instead.

yeah what is wrong with asking it on MN eh??

You can ask on Mums Net if you want, but you will get an ill informed response in comparison to the one you would get on a fan forum. Fandoms have had a lot of time to think about and debate about why people write fanfic, including sexual fanfic, and what this means about women, media, sexuality and feminism. People in fandom will also have read the academic articles written about why women write fanfic. I suspect most people on MumsNet will not really be that familiar with the issues.

Can I just ask what fanfiction is please?

Fandoms ?????

WTF is that some kind of female contraceptive?

lol at poopscoop!

Your DH needs to get himself a hobby - do you think he is jealous of your talent? My DH would be made up if I did something like that.

Dh has hobbies - he likes sport. Which is fine, I don't mind a bit, and I've told him I'm happy for him to have his interests etc. But he says it's not the same, and that it would be the same if he was playing football to eye up the other players.

MillyR, I appreciate what you're saying, but this isn't about fanfic per se - it's more about a disagreement between myself and Dh.

What are you fanfic-ing about, Kay? "Maria tried to keep Abner Brown out of her Box of Delights" kind of thing...?

Tell him in a creative and and imaginative way to knob off and keep writing. An affair, lol. meh.

Roffle! That's about as truly disgusting an idea as I can imagine!

um, the Abner Brown suggestion, to be clear.