to write mildly pornographic stories, even though DH hates it?

[KayHarkerIsPlayingWithMitchell]

In amongst trying to to general mumsy things, I write stories, many of which feature fictional characters doing incredibly rude things to one another.

Dh absolutely hates me writing anything much at all, unless it's the few little projects I have convinced him might bring me £50 royalties when I'm 40 or something.

He especially hates the fanfiction and the ones which include sexual situations, and tells me it's no different to me having an affair with someone.

I disagree, and am actually seriously considering trying to do something full length which includes sexual situations. Am I unreasonable to continue writing despite his wishes?

I could easily be way off base with this but what the hell:

I always thought the thing fanfiction is best at is allowing the writers a place to explore ideas. I was always surprised when I read back stuff I wrote at how much of it channelled what was going on in my RL (in a totally off the wall way obviously!) so I would worry that if you sacrificed your stories when you obviously still have things to say that you're loosing that creative outlet. It's not on IMO - it's not something 'worth' sacrificing, because what other outlet would you have?

This may sound even more silly but - if you were a painter and your DH asked you never to paint again because he didn't like the subject matter - I think you would find it easier to say no because painting isn't something that's viewed negatively/considered illicit by a fair chunk of the population. I would suspect that this is where some of your gut feeling that you should give it up and that he might be right is coming from.

could we please have an example of your writing? So we can, um, judge for ourselves

oo, hello, I thought this would die a death, sorry, haven't been near the computer all day.

You've all been really encouraging. Fwiw, had my marriage started out on a sensible footing, this wouldn't be an issue, I'd just write whatever I want to and wouldn't be particularly conflicted over it.

It's just that coming from a place where I've been a mouse, sometimes I really don't know if I'm crossing a line that shouldn't be crossed, and this has been really helpful to me, in terms of sorting that out.

LEMAGAIN, I can't link to it, that'd be shameless pimping of my stories

Can I pimp your stories Kay?

roffle, if you really want to.

I love Leaving the Beach

Did you ever find the Martha/Ten one that got deleted? I'd love to read it again.

"remember where a character's hand is so I don't suddenly have a disembodied hand doing something when it should already be fiddling with a button fly etc..."

Eeeeek! Knowing KayH's David Tennant obsession as I do, my mind is finding this a lot dirtier than some people on here would! DT/DW Fans will know what I mean...

"This hand... is a wankin' hand!"

Maybe that's why Jack kept it....

And just think what "hermaphrodite hexapod" Alpha Centauri could get up to in that regard...

Wondering why RTD never revived that alien....

Trust you to lower the tone UQD.

Oh, wait...

Rusty, the first part of the exceptionally rude Martha/Ten story is still there on my Livejournal. I'm afraid the longer version is gone forever.

Oh, I must have a look for it - I always find livejournal hard to navigate which is probably why I've never found it; I always seem to keep going round in circles.....

LJ is a nightmare to navigate. I only use it because it's what everyone else does, and I am a lemming. But as I know my way around, this is the smut you're looking for. Although that is without a doubt my rudest, because it's got the C-word in, which I usually try my utmost to avoid, actually. But this was a very early attempt. Oh, god, I'm just making it worse, aren't I...

Thanks

I loved that Mitchell/Annie story, thank you so much!!

You MUST MUST MUST carry on, you have areal talent, you should send for the info pack mentioned above and think of it as a career move.

When I worked in a library one of my colleagues was starting off with Mills And Boon; we did lots of plot ideas and sex scene suggestions, it was a riot and she was able to leave the library and take up writing full time.

Good luck..carry on writing xx

I clicked on this thread by accident and have just read your storiesthey're beautifully written, atmospheric and well-plottedyou must continue. Did you write part three of the last Rose/Ten story? Or is she still unconscious somewhere in a parallel universe?

Um, yes, I did write the next chapter after Rose fainted, it just coincided with the last time I agreed to Dh's request to stop writing completely and I never posted it.

Bloody hell, I am totally reaping some karmic embarrassment for posting this thread now, you've all been ridiculously nice.

I'm not being nice. I'm telling you the truth! You have original ideas, your characters speak with authentic voices, and the narrative flows beautifully. It would be great to read part three if you ever get around to posting it.

I don't know you at all (I rarely stray from the special needs board, if I post at all) so forgive me for being presumptuous, but is there any chance that you are using your DH's attitude as a reason not to put more time and effort into your work?

Sometimes we fear success for reasons that aren't clear to us...in my own case, I often say I never have time to write, due to the demands of children and DH, but to be honest, they don't prevent me from getting ideas down--it's me, frightened of the feelings that come up when the work starts to flow. I waste time lurking on here or generally staring into space, and end up just about managing to get the paid work done, and never 'have enough time' to do the stuff I really want to do, ie my own writing.

Arabica, thanks, that's a really helpful suggestion, actually. I know I certainly used to have that attitude about some of the other things in the relationship, and let the submission thing mask my own fears.

I hadn't connected it to the writing at all, but I'm not especially confident about it, so yes, I think I probably have allowed myself to make more of his objections than otherwise because it did rather take the focus off my own lack of confidence. Going to ponder on that for a bit.