to be fed up with everyone we meet going on about how tall my DD is?

[mugwumpy]

literally every mother we meet goes on constantly about how tall or huge or big my DD is. She is 19 months and wears age 2-3 clothes and yes she is tall but shes also very good looking (fact not biast mother!!) and has beautiful long blonde ringlets so its hardly like theres nothing else to say about her... Sometimes I just feel like people are so fucking bitchy and feel very defensive. I dont go round pointing out how short/bald/ugly/scruffy etc other peoples kids are but maybe I should....?

So she's tall for her age, there are many worse things to be. I think you need to calm down, I don't think anyone is saying it is a negative thing.

My DS was 2 in September and we need to buy his 3 - 4 clothes now, DD is the same 5 and in 7-8 tops. The bigger problem I find is people thnking they are older and judging their behaviour based on them being 2/3 years older than they are.

Why would you take "being tall" as an insult? I don't think it is an insult in the slightest.

Why do you assume they are knocking your dd? It's just something for people to say - they are admiring your dd. And being tall is noticeable.

I've had this with ds for 5.5 years now and no-one has ever implied it's a bad thing.

(Am sure you are generally biased because you are her mother but also that you are damn right about her being gorgeous!)

I think being tall is great, its just the way people say it, one woman the other day was saying "oh look, even her head is huge, its much bigger than soandso's" thats where I'm coming from.....

mugwumpy bigger head bigger brain, they're just jealous.

If they've said your DD is a complete minger then, no, YANBU.

But if they've just commented on her height then, yes, YABVU.

Your examples of what you don't say to others (short/bald/ugly/scruffy) are unkind negative things to say. Saying someone is tall does not come into that category, IMO.

Ds age 3 is tall for his age. People comment.
It does not bother me. What is wrong with being tall?

He is also cute and gorgeous with a twinkle in his eye that seems to get him out of trouble with most people apart from me.

People comment on the first thing they notice, height tends to be it.

It does not bother me. The only concern I have is when people think he is older than he is, and expect appropriate behaviour. I'm constantly having to say "he only just turned 3" to explain.
Now if they said he was ugly, I would disembowel them.

I can't see anything wrong with being tall!

Well I think yanbu. I have a tall dd too, and it gets very wearing having people comment all the time. Being tall is not always intended as a compliment - being dainty and petite and elfine are far more desirable as a general rule when it comes to little girls (not what I think, just what the media and society in general thinks imo). My mother was (is) tall and grew up with a dreadful complex about it. Many tall women try to make themselves smaller (not all, many) by not wearing heels or even hunching to look smaller. I worry about dd picking up on the comments. She is perfect to me. I would hate her to notice everyone banging on about how TALL she is and start to feel self concious.

It's different for a boy.

Both my DSes are tall. I often got annoyed when people said "ooh look he's so huge". I got told once as well that he was a freak.. I also got told that "What's he doing running aorund playing why's he not at school", or "God look how enormous that child is". When DS1 was 4 he was the height of a 6 year old. He's almost 11 and wears 13 year old clothes. As he got older and understood what people were saying he got very upset by it. Especially the day he asked me what a freak was

SO I do see where you are coming from.

Both my dd and my ds2 were very tall for their age. Ds2 had and still has very thick dark hair too which also made him look a lot older than he was. The only problem I had was, like ShannaraTiger says, people assuming they were older than they were and expecting them to act accordingly. But even this was a huge issuetbh

I certainly never consider it an insult when people comment how tall they are. It's not really the same as someone saying your child is ugly is it? Some of the tallest women in the world are the most beautiful given that most models are required to be tall.
I can't understand why you feel some one commenting on your daughter's height is being "fucking bitchy" so sorry on this one YABU.

I have grown up all my life with people commenting on my height - as I have always ben shorter than avergae and I am still only 5 feet tall.

It really hasn't bothered me. It is not something negative, just an observation.

When people meet a baby or child they often feel like they need to comment on something, so often the most obvious things are said. It doesn't mean they aare being mean.

How tall is your dd?

Sorry should have said NOT a huge issue tbh

That'll teach me to read what I've written before I click "post" won't it?

get your point madmentalbint, probably not comparative things to say, but point is they are all different and I would never dream of pointing out that maybe someones toddler has no hair yet etc, I always try to complement someones child as I think its nice to be that way. some people mean it nicely and some dont and they re the ones that piss me off!!

thankyou Saltire and alice the camel you get where I'm coming from,..

I agree with Alice, my DD was the tallest in her class for a long while and did get very self-conscious about it. I tried lots of morale-boosting things such as 'models have to be very tall' etc but nothing helped and she did develop hunched shoulders and always tried to shrink down to make herself look smaller. Comments on her height made to her face (which were frequent, and probably intended to be a compliment, or at least just a comment, certainly not an insult!) made her glower and hide behind me.

But I only cared for HER sake, because it bothered her, and your DD is too young to notice. When she's older, work on positive reinforcements for being tall, such as the models thing, but she may well NOT end up being tall - by the time she was 13 my DD was no longer one of the taller ones but perfectly average.

In short (lol) - don't let it get to you, it's not intended to be an insult, probably a compliment, if anything. It seems to be one of those phrases that just trot off people's tongues without thinking.

I am taller than average and would like to be even taller-I can't see why it bothers you.

Surely tallness is a fact? Not like prettiness/ugliness which is subjective. So what is there to be offended about, unless you're particularly hung up on it yourself?

I'm tall. Can I be offended you think people should not mention tallness, like it is something bad?

Seriously, if your daughter is unusually tall, people will comment on it, fact of life. Be proud of her tallness! Teach her to be proud of it too! Or she will end up in flat shoes forever - think Nicole Kidman during the Tom Cruise years. And she is gorgeous AND tall.

(And I believe you have to be above 5'10" to be a catwalk model donchaknow.)

There will always be nice people.

There will always be nasty people.

There will always be people who feel they have to make a comment but it comes out all wrong.

Tis the way of the world.

lockets added later ugly comment not comparative, also i dont and never would think of height as a negative thing,I am a very proud and lucky mother, my gripe is with how people talk to/about her.