to ask our weddin g guests to pay for their meal?

[bratnav]

Because DP and I genuinely have no cash, we got a great deal (£15 per head for 3 courses) and we are only inviting close family & friends to the wedding. We did specify that this would be INSTEAD of any wedding presents.

(We are getting married now as I am PG, so we brought it forward).

Oh, the reason I ask is that everyone we have verbally invited was very cool with it, but my Mother has kicked off about it

Oooh, good tip Highlander, thanks for that

bratnav- you must be getting excited about the wedding day , its so close!- im sure everyone will have a fab time and i wouldnt mind paying £15 for a friends day!(£15 for a meal anywhere is bloody cheap ! ).

I think it's a great idea. Go for it. Wish I'd thought of it.

ooh can I come to the hen night?!!

Fuck, I have just put my RL married name on haven't I???

Arrrrgh, MNHQ where are you????

Well, thread has moved on, tis pointless to add my opinion on op's post...so...I will just wish you all a lovely day Enjoy!

Tbh, sometimes I think people put so much into their wedding day they forget that really it is only a means to an end, and it's marriage that is important and that they should concentrate on having a great and happy married life

do tell about your dress...I love hearing about wedding dresses

Fairlady - black velvet medieval style with gold edging, big sleeves, square neckline etc. I think there is a link further down this thread.

oh, must try to find the link...sounds very divine

I can't believe I've never found that one and been looking at Medieval dresses 10x that cost! Glad I've not started buying yet

Found the link....it's gorgeous....

Thanks

Oh, just had to post! my best mate in the universe had this dilemma. arranged fab reception at 2 o'clock in the afternoon at an italian. we carefully worked out who we could ask to contribute and who we couldn't. some of us bestest mates got some funds together for booze for the toast(and restaurant kindly turned blind eye to this being brought with us as we were the only ones there. we gathered contributions in advance so it was all paid for upfront. This was followed by a big drink up in pub next door. This was all well within £15 per head and was one of the most enjoyable weddings i have ever been to. Why? because they were getting married for all the right reasons and that makes a HUGE difference. also, the people who went wanted to for all the right reasons. You have a FANTASTIC day...people will remember it for all the right reasons and so will you!

Thanks risingstar, sounds like your friend had a fab day