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AIBU?

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Original poster

to get really pissed off when asking for advice on here and being totally patronised every time

228 replies

onlywantsone · 17/02/2009 17:27

... seems to be occouring more

everytime I ask for some proper advice or peoples opinions - I just get "blah blah shouldnt do things that way nah nah nah I know best"

OP posts:
MrsMattie · 17/02/2009 17:28

I'm really sick of people moaning about MN.

Can you all just log the fuck off if you aren't happy with it?

rubyslippers · 17/02/2009 17:29

agree with MrsM

NAB09 · 17/02/2009 17:30

What do complainers think they will achieve by moaning?

WhatFreshHellIsThis · 17/02/2009 17:30

I tend to ignore the patronising/smug posts and respond to the nice ones only.

Hassled · 17/02/2009 17:30

Occurring is spelt like this. That's my top spelling advice for you.

RandomStranger · 17/02/2009 17:31

yy grow a thicker skin

Can you link to a thread in question so that we can sympathise point and laugh at you

motherlovebone · 17/02/2009 17:31

i agree with hassled

laweaselmys · 17/02/2009 17:32

When you ask for advice you will get opinion - this is all anyone can give you. On here or in RL.

So I'm frankly confused.

Original poster
onlywantsone · 17/02/2009 17:32

Wow, thank you so much - your kindness is amazing.

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TheFallenMadonna · 17/02/2009 17:32

I think it's about how you post - not you personally, don't know you from Adam - rather than what you post.

Especially if you are new.

Probably not fair, but there you go.

MorrisZapp · 17/02/2009 17:32

Sorry, I missed the bit where you employed us all to give you advice?

It's a free forum and if you want to air your issues you'll get a cross section of opinion.

Bit of a nerve demanding a better service from people who don't have to answer you at all.

If you don't want people's opinions then don't ask.

RandomStranger · 17/02/2009 17:33

Cmon linky linky linky gwan

NAB09 · 17/02/2009 17:33

How could we give a kind response to your OP?

kormachameleon · 17/02/2009 17:33

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

MrsMattie · 17/02/2009 17:34

Well, really.

Generalised whining about MN just gets on my tits.

Who?What?Where? Give us specifics or stop bleating.

chegirl · 17/02/2009 17:38

MN does get a bit of getting used to. It doesnt tend to go in for the 'aww hun, bit hugs' type of stuff that many forums do. The advice given tends to be pretty straightforward and fiercely intelligent. I think there is a place for both types of forum and you need to choose which one suits you best at any particular time.

Yes MN can be a pretty brutal place at times. But I do appriceate the lack of bullshit (although I am scared of my spelling being mocked and pointed at

Flightattendant27 · 17/02/2009 17:38

Onlywantsone - i wish you would point to where you feel you've been patronised?

I only remember your thread about the depo shot which I and many others tried to help you on. I don't get where you're coming from, you usually make a lot of sense, please can you give an example so we can make informed judgement?

thefortbuilder · 17/02/2009 17:38

o'h COME ON if you post asking for advice everyone will tell you their opinion - that's what it is for goodness sake.

Of course I'm going to think my way is best, that's why I do it.

If you have a problem with a post or a poster in particular take it up with them, don't post some vague AIBU question, where you will probably flounce if we don't agree with you anyway.

and i agree with kormachameleon and everyone else who has given me fantastic advice and the benefit of their wisdom over the years.

diedandgonetodevon · 17/02/2009 17:39

Sorry- note to self, just give plattitudes and hugs not the advice asked for incase the OP gets upset...

Don't ask if you don't want to hear others opinions

Original poster
onlywantsone · 17/02/2009 17:39

"if someone offends you, take it up with them on the thread in question"

I thought women on here were supposed to offer help and support and not behave like a complete bitch.

OP posts:
MrsMattie · 17/02/2009 17:40

You make a big sweeping statement about MN-ers being patronising. Who's the bitch?

Flightattendant27 · 17/02/2009 17:40

How is that comment bitchy?

Seriously I am failing to understand here. What and whom are you talking about OWO? I thought you were quite sensible especially only being 21 but you are not making sense today.

Flightattendant27 · 17/02/2009 17:41

MrsM I x posted with you there.

Not sure who OP is calling bitchy?

Original poster
onlywantsone · 17/02/2009 17:42

fine, I give in ignore me

I was refering to asking if adios worked, was just fed up with the same people always telling me what I was doing wasnt the right thing to do.

Obv this is the wrong place to talk about it.

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MorrisZapp · 17/02/2009 17:42

Would being a complete bitch involve agreeing with something you've said yourself by any chance?

ie:

You: 'My DH is a tosser. (list of reasons)'

Us: 'Blimey, he does sound like a total tosser with a side serving of twat'.

You: 'How dare you speak like that about the man I love. (great dad, lovely most of the time etc etc).

Cos those threads do my head in.