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to get really pissed off when asking for advice on here and being totally patronised every time

228 replies

onlywantsone · 17/02/2009 17:27

... seems to be occouring more

everytime I ask for some proper advice or peoples opinions - I just get "blah blah shouldnt do things that way nah nah nah I know best"

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CoteDAzur · 17/02/2009 18:55

expat - I have never hung around some stadium to 'score' anything. It's much more convenient to have home deliveries.

Btw, I've never (knowingly) took speed. But it looks like I might need some help after #2 comes out. If diet pills don't work, I might have to look up Dr Christian Troy.

CoteDAzur · 17/02/2009 18:57

No really. What does "a herbal form of speed" even mean?

RealityIsMyOnlyValentine · 17/02/2009 18:59

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BitOfFun · 17/02/2009 19:03

It means that it has the same physical effects as ephedrine/amphetamine. Also that you can get hooked, and have palpitations and anxiety. It is NOT good.

CoteDAzur · 17/02/2009 19:04

Like, in the way that coffee is a "herbal form of speed"?

Obviously it's not speed, not in any form. But they share stimulant properties.

foxytocin · 17/02/2009 19:04

chew coca leaves. that is a 'herbal form of speed' too, no?

BitOfFun · 17/02/2009 19:05

Like strong filter coffee, yes.

CoteDAzur · 17/02/2009 19:06

Sounds like coffee to me.

I used to have palpitations when I had a cigarette with espresso.

MiTochondrialEve · 17/02/2009 19:06

Well i think the OP has a point. It is supposed to be a support site.

BUt what's this about 'scoring'? Are we in Ecstacy Heights again?

PeachyHasABrokenKeyboardSorry · 17/02/2009 19:09

MN should have a sign on it warning people to steer cler if they're not giffted with a backbone and argumentative streak,plus a slant towards quite unusual parenting techniques that are good but rare (BLW etc)

I think all websites should actually: define their clientele.Save us on MN reoplying to snippy posters and save posters more suited to Other Sites from wasting their time here, tbbh. A p[lus for all.

Newbies welcome: as long as you take us for what we are. Mouthy, bright, snippy and damned supportive in an emergency.

PeachyHasABrokenKeyboardSorry · 17/02/2009 19:12

BTW OP sorry I missed your thread; have had ED myself and it can be terribly shit. I cant even dress shop alone these days or I come out with clothes three sizes too big, but at least lost the self ahrma spect years ago.

Flightattendant27 · 17/02/2009 19:14

Oh Golly. OWO - hope you're Ok after that.

You do look v slim and elegant and glam, in fact am quite envious - I weigh about the same as you, am same height, (in fact almost exactly both) and I think I'd be more attractive if I was about 8 and a half stone...just because I've been that weight a few times and felt nice iyswim. However it isn't happening atm!!

I think it will again when I am in a diff place psychologically, perhaps when I find a bloke, or get a job - I don't know. For the moment I guess I try to forget about those few pounds and keep busy. Doesn't always keep the demons away but I have to be quite firm with them.

(ex anorexic btw)

I think diet pills are a temp solution ie if you are getting wed and need to fit into a dress - I'm a bit scared of taking meds in any case, but they're an artificial solution I think and not worth the bother.

I have often felt v angry at being patronised (or perceiving it as that) when not eating properly, etc etc etc

I remember when I was first in my rapid decline, crying on the way to college as my mum had mentioned my weight and it had sent me into a spin - a friend caught up with me in the street, and I told her I wasn't anorexic, but was upset as mum thought I was. She didn't know what to say and spent the next few years avoiding me. Nobody understands unless they've been there.

Anyway hope you're alright.

PeachyHasABrokenKeyboardSorry · 17/02/2009 19:16

I wouldn't tke diet pills- ever, but I do ahve a friend slowly dying rfom anorexia who takes many so I am not clear visioned on that topic.

I do think you'lllose as much from a well cut and tailored frock as fromtaking pills in a panic,unless you'relooking at prolonged usage then I would just scream avoid.

Flightattendant27 · 17/02/2009 19:21

Off topic a bit, and not a comment aimed at anyone but this has reminded me of a lady I saw yesterday.
I see her around every so often, she is painfully thin, very skeletal.
I wonder how she has survived tbh, and am always conscious it could have been me who couldn't climb out of the hole I was in.

It's v scary and I always want to go and hug her or something, but afraid she would be offended or angry. It would make my day to see her looking slightly more healthy. Sadly she's been like it a long while afaik.

onlywantsone · 17/02/2009 19:23

meeeeeeeeeeeeeeh LO in bed I'm having a cuppa and a cigarette.

BTW I'm a little [shock[ at all this - esp as my spelling got picked up on in the first few posts on this thread, Im a fecking english student FFS...

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Flightattendant27 · 17/02/2009 19:28

there's a difference between eng student and pedant y'know..

onlywantsone · 17/02/2009 19:35

.... fags and cups of tee work every time

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PeachyHasABrokenKeyboardSorry · 17/02/2009 19:54

Dont worry OWS, my spelling on MNis awfuleven when my keyboard is OK and I never once gotpicked up on my spelling or grammar in 3 years of Uni LOL coz in RL it is perection.

MN is my time offpedantry.

PeachyHasABrokenKeyboardSorry · 17/02/2009 19:55

FA if she'sanything like my mate (5 ' 3", 5 stone 3 lbs) she is in complete denial.

GP told her if she passes out in solecare of kids one more time he will call in SS. She's still getting skinnier though. It's heartbreaking.

Flightattendant27 · 17/02/2009 20:00

Peachy that's so sad

Am liking concept of Perection btw

PeachyHasABrokenKeyboardSorry · 17/02/2009 20:02

(I did spot that but left it for effect PMSL)

Flightattendant27 · 17/02/2009 20:03

It's one of those words you feel could mean various things

which we shan't go into, probably for the best

MiTochondrialEve · 17/02/2009 20:31

But then again, anyone 8 stone who wants to lose another stone maybe needs a bit of a cyberslap. Sorry.

TheDevilWearsPrimark · 17/02/2009 20:37

cyberslap?
How cruel, no she needs real help. I really urge you to see your GP

CoteDAzur · 17/02/2009 20:43

So "Adios" is some plant extract with stimulant properties, like coffee. What is the big deal? I don't get what is so scary.