to get really pissed off when asking for advice on here and being totally patronised every time

[onlywantsone]

... seems to be occouring more

everytime I ask for some proper advice or peoples opinions - I just get "blah blah shouldnt do things that way nah nah nah I know best"

what is adios?

onlywantsone - that response was a considered response to your question from that poster.

You are totally over-reacting now.

Think adios is a diet pill.

Apologies for my relationships rant. But tbh why are you taking adios? Sensible diet and exercise etc...

Heh heh...

Just say goodbye if adios doesn't work

I don't understand
What was your question and who was patronising back to you? Link please.

You are throwing your question out into cyberspace when you post here. It is an open forum. A lovely regular may reply, or a drunk, or a troll, or someone who trhinks you are asking a stupid question.
You are not talking to the WI. It is random.

But link so people can soothe your brow.

OWO now i'm even more confused - looked on your adios thread - you have 2 responses and one of them is giving you pretty sensible advice.

I really fail to understand the issue here, unless you will enlighten us on other previous patronising opinions or advice you've had previously.

I really can't see anything patronising about the reply you got there, the poster was just giving her opinion, and offering some suggestions about what might work - did you want her to say she thought it was fine if she really didn't?

Kormachameleon, can you please come over here when you've got a moment?

Im not taking it just wanted to know if it worked or not

oh, and btw I feel like a mug. Are you sure there is no empathatic hugs going for free around here?

This thread? Surely there must be another or you are being ridiculously oversensitive.

Tee hee

I'm lost and confused with this thread, but just wanted to say:

'...a total tosser with a side serving of twat'.

Love your turn of phrase, MorrisZapp!

onlywantsone

I think you are feeling a bit fed up because you know Adios is rubbish but you wanted people to tell you it is great and will work.

I think you are really shooting the messenger.

BTW people suggesting it is a bad idea probably care more that you care for your health than that you loose a few pounds. If that is being a bitch then shoot me.

Here you mean?

Oh I don't think that's too patronising. Basically she was trying to give you the benefit of her friend's experience, perhaps the advice came across wrong but I'm sure she didn't mean to patronise you. And you did ask!! And a lot of people do consider weight loss pills to be a bit 'too good to be true' therefore anyone asking whether they work or not might be considered naive? I don't know.

Most of us won't know anything about you before we answer a question. Perhaps you feel generally patronised being a young mum and it affects your perception of perfectly ordinary responses from others? I don't know.

HTH x

loads gun

mners are incredibly helpful and supportive. however if you want someone to agree with everything you say and stroke your hair may i suggest you try a different forum. we are entitled to opinions of our own and dont have to tiptoe around your feelings. i have been flamed a few times (and done some flaming myself) noone died, we all recovered from it. if you dont like it, shut the door on your way out!

{empathic hugs}

My pleasure MrsM, anything to raise a smile.

Adios for now

Ah, I know it is hard to lose weight, and upsetting when somebody says, exercise more and eat less. Ta-Da! Like it's that easy.... But it wasn't patronising or bitchy and if you were looking for support it was the wrong question really, rather than the answers... if that makes sense.

Also, isn't "patronising" quite subjective thing? Once you add in the lack of emotion and tone on a forum it is quite hard to really tell if someone is being patronising or argumentative or anything else. It is always a good idea to seek clarification on a post you find a bit .

Oh, and growing a thicker skin always helps

You look v skinny on your profile btw

are you sure you want to lose weight?
(dear?)

don't bother your pretty little head etc etc etc

ok, so Ive hyper sensitive - and acted like a right tosser with side order of twat (or by the way that depicts my x perfectly)

I'm sorry. I love MN, have been here for years now...

Diet pills are a waste of time and money; they are manufactured to make drug companies rich; they may cause serious side effects, health problems and even death to those stupid enough to take them.

There, and I didn't patronise you once.