to be jealous that my best friend has just had a.........

[becky00]

baby girl?

I have 2 lovely DS and would love a DD. I find it so hard as I keep being asked if I would like a girl etc as I am very girly, like it was something you can just buy in a shop!

I know its stupid but when I found out BF had a girl today I felt jealous.

This thread has actually brought to light something i have noticed. When i had my dd, i used to get spopped all the time when out, especially in the supermarket when she was a baby. People used to just love her and tbh i was quite overwhelmed by it.

I go to the supermarket with my 6 week old ds without my dd as it's easier. No one stops to Ooo and Arr, i don't even hear people saying "Ahh look at that little baby etc..." I am very underwhelmed this time. With my dd not being with me, people wouldn't know he isn't my first baby.

I realise from this thread now that he probably gets no attention when we are out and about because he is a boy. People just seem to coo over little girls

I used a baby carrier lots with DS and got a lot of coos and aahs where I live. Mind you people are very chatty where I live!

MrsSparkle, I find that Mums of boys are much more likely to coo over baby boys than Mums of girls.
I do find lots of people coo at ds4. But they are usually saying "Aw, isn't she lovely!"

MsSparkle,
It can't be true, I experienced lots of cooing and nice comments with all my boys. In fact my last baby was three last December and he still frequently attracts comments and smiles !
It's still early days for you, it's just coincidental you happened to move around people like me who think ' oooh, a newborn', 'cute baby' etc but am actually too shy to say anything, though I might smile at the baby.Or people are just too busy with their lives or too grumpy and down ( credit crunch ? ).
Or maybe there's been a baby boom recently in your area and when people come across you and your little boy they've already done enough cooing for the day....
But I do certainly find that people coo more when your child wears a particularly cute outfit that makes him stand out and look particularly gorgeous. An extra cute hat always did a trick in my boy's case.I remember when he was about 5 months old, he had this really lovely blue outfit with stitched on puppy applique, with matching hat and booties, it was from Babies R Us, they sell some gorgeous stuff for boys. I was stopped countless times !
And as blackrock said, try to put him in a baby carrier, especially when he can face forward and see what happens then ! My husband just loved to carry our boy like this, I was quite amused how he revelled in those proud daddy moments.
I think your post made me want to make a bit more effort to overcome my shyness and say nice things , I do love seeing babies around, any babies, boys , girls, those you can't tell. By the way, I'm not generally shy, just not great at small talk with strangers.

whitecoffeenosugar, i have actually been feeling quite sensitive about it. With my ds being my second child, i feel like i have been left to just get on with it. When my dd was a tiny baby i had countless visitors, phone calls, people cooing at her in the street/shops. With ds it's the total oppisite. I have had only a handful of visitors, no phone calls, the grandparents barely notice him and haven't bought him a gift (dd was showered with gifts from the grandparents.) I have been very underwhelmed this time and at times felt very alone. I thought maybe this was because he is my 2nd but now i am starting to think it's because he is a boy?

No, it's definitely second-child syndrome in that case! I think people do just let you get on with it because they assumeyou're oan old pro by now! Also they assume that you already have loads of "stuff" so are less flaithualach with the gifts!

Sorry, forgot I was on MN for a minute!
Flaithualach = Irish for generous!

DS gets cooed over almost every time we go out, even now he's 18 months.

I think a lot of it might be to do with him spending lots of time in the sling so he can make eye contact with people. He's also blond - for some reason that seems to get the old ladies commenting - and, and I think this is the main factor, a HUGE flirt who beams at everyone...

My DS is almost 2 and still gets lots of attention when we're out. I've noticed that I tend to notice little boys boys more too, having one of my own.

I said I only wanted a girl before I had kids. (A son's your son till he meets a wife, your daughter's your daughter all your life)I thought a boy would just bugger off, never phone and let you fester in an old people's home.

Then I got a boy. And I love him soooo much, but hoped for a girl second time. Another boy. I couldn't love him more, but part of me thought - blimey, I'll have to do that again now, whereas I might not have felt that if I had got a girl. But then again, I probably would, and I wouldn't swap either of them for all the girls ever.

I do sometimes worry I might end up pinging out about 7 boys and never getting a girl. But then odds are one of my 7 boys would look after me in my doteage, no?

Well, with 7 there'd be a reasonably good chance of getting a gay one, which would be ideal, really! All the girliness without the PMT!

i have a dd who is gorgeous in every way but such a tom boy so you even if you fell pregnant with a girl doesn't neccessarily mean you end up with a girlie girl

At least you’re honest! Do you still feel this way?

No we don’t!!!!!! And I have spent years telling MIL that. Please don’t make her mistake and repeatedly say how much you wished you’d had a girls - in front of your two sons. It does not end well. One of these days I might be brave enough to spell out to her why she does not have a great relationship with BIL. She seems oblivious. But SIL is very much aware that BIL was a ‘disappointment’ from the moment he was born.

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