One aspect of sisterhood makes me somewhat relieved that I have all boys as opposed to more than one girl. It stems from personal experience. I'm one of two girls.My sister is two years younger. We have a mixed relationship,one moment getting on great,next ( now )not speaking. I have always struggled with negative emotions towards anything that my sister does that resembles, copies my life ( being SAHM for example). She does not do it on purpose, these things are coincidental but I just can't help feeling annoyed about it, like it threatens my own identity or something. I know it's unreasonable but please don't judge me, I don't act on these feelings, but they are just there, this resentment i feel at times, I hate it but can't make it go away. One explanation could be that although I'm perfectly happy to be a sahm and it is my free choice and works best for our family, I feel that some people ( family,acquaintances) judge my decision and
it's fine by me but coupled with my sister choosing to stay home and I do believe that we're judged that there is something wrong with our family, the way we've been brought up as opposed to my own thought trough decision.We both supported by our working husbands by the way.
It's not just sahm issue, the list goes on.
On the other hand my husband's relationship with his brother is sooo much simpler, loving,down to earth, practical, they never fall out, always there for each other.
Now , I digressed from what i really wanted to write, what really puts me off idea of two or more girls. Life is as it is, people are very judgy and some quite blunt with it. Girls are always judged on their looks. I happen to be, according to lots of people throughout my life, quite attractive ( haven't uploaded any pics so no point clicking my nickname )and my sister has been considerably less blessed in this department. I HATE it. I mean tbh being seen as all right ( I'm far from a bombshell by the way ! just quite pretty apparently) is obviously nice and in my experience helps in life but how I wish my sister was more on par. She is a really nice person,very feminine, looks after herself but since we were little there were always people who felt compelled to comment ( not to her face luckily) how much prettier I was/am. Many of my girl friends said it to me , I suppose meaning to pay me a compliment but to me it just felt like an insult to my sister, it hurt and I wanted to punch them( never did).The comments were not subtle, I remember one girl saying ' you're millions times better looking than you sister My husband said something similar to this......My sister's boyfriends( some) were less direct but still annoying by keeping on what a pretty sister she has. She sometimes mentions it herself, as a matter of fact, that I'm prettier and I hate that too, as I'm embarrassed and deny it.
My sister , too , has issues, like she believes our mum thinks more highly of me, regards me as a better mother to my children, more patient and is generally less critical of me (I do believe she loves us the same though ) My sister is quite philosophical about it but hurts to some extent.
Please, forgive such a winding post but I'm trying to explain well the whole situation, this world of constant comparisons between sisters. Do any of you have similar experiences ?