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To expect my DP would pop into the supermarket on his way home?

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AmIWhatAndWhy · 06/02/2009 17:18

We go shopping together on Saturdays. By Friday we generally have nothing in, I don't drive and am sahm to two toddlers.

I asked him if he'd pop into the supermarket (it's next door to the train sttion on is way home) and he said no way.

It happens all the time. he refuses and I end up buying food, coffee, nappies etc from local shops which is almost twice the price.

He suggested I go out shopping after he gets in, a 20 minute walk in rain, and I'd have to wait until the DC were settled first.

I could explode.

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lulabellarama · 06/02/2009 17:19

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poopscoop · 06/02/2009 17:20

yanbu at all! Feed yourself and dc before he gets in then let him starve and when he moans, remind him you did ask him to pop in for a few bits.

DanJARMouse · 06/02/2009 17:20

sounds like a tosser to me!

not helpful i know, but he has responsibilities and needs to wake up and smell the coffee

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AmIWhatAndWhy · 06/02/2009 17:21

He never has one, he just doesn't want to. I'd understand if he'd had a hard day at work but he had a late start today because of a meeting, which included a lavish lunch.

No doubt he just can't be bothered and is full himself so will be happy with a sandwich.

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AmIWhatAndWhy · 06/02/2009 17:22

The DC have just had leftover shepherds pie from earlier in the week with peas. We have literally nothing in I can eat.

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claw3 · 06/02/2009 17:23

Could you not just buy more nappies, coffee, food when you go shopping on a Saturday?

scienceteacher · 06/02/2009 17:23

I don't think my hubby would be happy doing a big shop on his way home from work.

Is your nappy use so unpredicatable that you can't buy enough for at least a week?

How about online shopping?

HecateQueenOfGhosts · 06/02/2009 17:23

If you are always running short, and have to buy more on the friday, then would it not make sense to buy a little more on the saturday to last you until the next saturday?

I know that's no use to you tonight but tomorrow when you go shopping - buy more then next Friday you won't have this problem!

HecateQueenOfGhosts · 06/02/2009 17:24

X-post with claw

Minxie1977 · 06/02/2009 17:24

My DH hates going to the supermarket but there is NO WAY he would ever REFUSE to help me out. What are his reasons for refusing, before we all call him a tosser

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AmIWhatAndWhy · 06/02/2009 17:26

We physically can't carry it back, though I sometimes top up the shop during the week when Ds is in preschool so it's just me and Dd. With the snow and ice this week we haven't.

I'm not sure why it's such a big ask I didn't want him to do a full shop just something for dinner, nappies, wipes and a few lightbulbs as most of ours have gone at once today.

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Minxie1977 · 06/02/2009 17:26

How about ordering yourself a lovely takeaway

TheCrackFox · 06/02/2009 17:26

YANBU, but if he wants to waste his money by shopping at overpriced convenience stores because he is too lazy to pop to the supermarket then that is his look out.

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AmIWhatAndWhy · 06/02/2009 17:27

We didn't have the money for nappies until today when tax credits came in. It's that tight for us right now. Hence I hate paying £4 for 12 at a local shop.

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AmIWhatAndWhy · 06/02/2009 17:28

I should really stop moaning to you, but thanks for listening.

I'll ring him again and tell him he really has to.

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GossipMonger · 06/02/2009 17:28

Why not think about online shopping?

I would hate it if my DH did this. It wont kill him will it?

When he gets in tell him you are going to the supermarket and he has to bath the kids and sort the kitchen out for when you get back.

that'll learn him!!

HecateQueenOfGhosts · 06/02/2009 17:29

What about just doing your shopping online in future? Much easier. Tesco, Asda, Sainsbury and Waitrose do it, so lots of choice.

Yes. Takeaway for ONE.

He is being a selfish bugger, tbh.

Oh and if you do have to go to shop tonight, get ready NOW! Have your coat and shoes on and go out the door as he comes in it. If he won't go to the supermarket he can bloody well be left to settle the kids!!!

HecateQueenOfGhosts · 06/02/2009 17:30

now x posted with Gossip.

I have nothing original to say, ever, I shall just put a sock in it!

MrsGrahamBell · 06/02/2009 17:30

YANBU, but you are not helping yourself, are you?
Like others have suggested, if u are always short on Fri - buy more on Sat! (including ingredients for a nice supper for you, if left over shepjerds pie is ok for Dc but not you...)
And as for tonight - why not go out yourself and leave him to settle the DC - why do you have to wait for them to settle? Sorry , but ift sounds like you would rather be a martyr...

Peachy · 06/02/2009 17:32

Definitely go with minxie's idea if you can afford it.

He's being a PITA. Has he perchance got it in his heaqd that you don't do anything and he works? I know dh seems to think that on occasion and needs setting straight (ten minutes with all 4 generally does it LOL). It sounds as if he has it all neatly outlined in his head: Earner- him; domestic- you.

The thing is yu don't get to sleep with domestics and they require days off - you may find your answer there....

Clure · 06/02/2009 17:33

What a git

Minxie1977 · 06/02/2009 17:35

LOL Peachy

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AmIWhatAndWhy · 06/02/2009 17:35

MrsGrahamBell . I separated portions when we made it to freeze for the DC for easy dinner. Do you think given what I said about our finances I'd have a problem with leftovers?

I think online shopping will be a good idea, we have done it before, but I prefer to go instore and to the market etc at the same time.

I do know if I went out (walking in the rain) I'd get home to find them all in front of the tv, no bath, no PJ's. That's how it is. I'm no martyr.

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AmIWhatAndWhy · 06/02/2009 17:36

Peachy thanks for making me smile.

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