To expect my DP would pop into the supermarket on his way home?

[AmIWhatAndWhy]

We go shopping together on Saturdays. By Friday we generally have nothing in, I don't drive and am sahm to two toddlers.

I asked him if he'd pop into the supermarket (it's next door to the train sttion on is way home) and he said no way.

It happens all the time. he refuses and I end up buying food, coffee, nappies etc from local shops which is almost twice the price.

He suggested I go out shopping after he gets in, a 20 minute walk in rain, and I'd have to wait until the DC were settled first.

I could explode.

Amiwhatandwhy - I find with stuff like getting pjs on, bath, etc you have to spell it out for them, my dh wouldnt bother unless i asked.

why don't you do online groceries shopping,they carry it in for you too.work out how much nappies etc you need to last until sat

buy adequate in, buy one get one free offers, nappy offers but imo,online grocery shopping is the way to go.we do all groceries on line,pick up few items after work if needed

If your dh is aware of your financial situation and as concerned as you are order a really nice takeaway tonight just for you.

It may be the best tenner you ever spent when he notices you frittering away the money cos he couldn't be arsed. Bet you only have to do it once

He is being a serious arse.

I also think it's not on that he wouldn't bother to get DC's ready - have to ask them to do things for thier own children!!??!! Ruby's right about the training programme

He is being a complete twat.

DH quite frequently pops to shops on the way home if we need anything. It's on his way and no hardship.

Is ridiculous that he has suggested you go when he gets home. Am also concerned that he would not bathe/put children to bed if you did go. Is he any use?

I made him go and he's phoned whilst moaning and groaning around the aisles.

I need to find it funny really.

I will definitely look into online shopping, at least for the staples, we've done it before but never regularly.

You should add spotty paint to your list of things for him to get, see how long it takes him!!

He got very confused about bulbs. He kept telling me all he could see were bullet bulbs!?

It is funny - a groan grown man fussing into his phone around the aisles!! He'll feel like a right wally later, I bet

We online shop and it saves us money as we stick to a list. It also eliminates the row about why I have to do the shopping

We get it on a tues/weds/thurs from Sainsbury's, free delivery if you spend over £100.

He sounds like a tosser. I am sorry I have nothing more constructive to say, but men who treat their wives like this make me want to arrghhhhhhhhhhhhh.

Well, my DP always asks on his way home if we need anything!

Alternatively, you could wait until he gets in, and say, 'you don't mind taking over for a bit while I dash out?'

What a selfish bugger.

No one likes going to the supermarket, but sometimes you have to.

I find it depressing reading so many threads about men who are so lacking that they won't do a kind thing for their partners.

Amiwhat - Oh well at least he went in the end, albeit after a moan and groan, he went and thats the important thing

So whats for dinner tonight?

GRRR my dh does this. Refuses to call into the shops on his way home from work because 'you have had all day to go'.

Clearly he has never tried shopping with a five year old and an over excited 19 month old alone before. And he works opposite a supermarket.

I just declare that unless he goes there won't be any dinner and that usually changes his mind.

could you not have gone down that shop yourself some time today?

I don't like going on my way back from work either tbh

I'm knackered after work

if you're at home all day, why can't you just pop to the shops and get some bits and pieces (rather than a big shop) or learn how to drive or something...

but if you are SAHM in all day,doing the domestic shopping is actually within your remit!so why cant you do it

does dh come home with spreadsheets and documents for you to do.nope because that isn't your job.if you have time to gass on MN you have time to pop to shop

if the division of labour is you sahm he work,it is your responsibility to get shopping in

I agree with Scottishmummy's sentiment if it is in your remit.

However if I had 2 toddlers to take round the shops it is one job dh would be doing on top of his office job as it's a nightmare in this weather going to the shops.

Get it off your remit and onto Ocado's or dh's but do most other things round the house.

Agree with the internet shop thing.
Also agree he is being a bit orf not doing it.

I am another non-driver though and my dh does the weekly shop. He can't stand the thought of us spending double the money by me doing it locally and likes to pick his own bananas - oo-er missus

Also, when you are this skint, doing the weekly shop is a night out...

To you lot suggesting she should have walked to the shops today with 2 kids....have you not looked outside and seen the weather????

C'mon ScottishMum give the girl a break, this really is not much to ask of your partner is it? He doesn't want to do it for purely selfish reasons. Ditto getting kids ready for bed - this is a shared task imho. Get him trained asap.

Just what I was thinking kitsmummy!! I am also a nondriving sahm I do my weekly shop online. However dh is getting milk on his way home from work even though he isn't finishing until 9.25 tonight. Noway could I have pushed a pushchair through this snow. Probably wouldn't have gone further than our back gate or even door without getting stuck. Totally impossible. However dh with all his faults didn't think twice to agreeing and often picks up bits and pieces for me if I ask. Why not its called being kind and helpful imo.

Crikey some of you are being a bit harsh!

YANBU of course he should go to the friggin supermarket.

Isn't being together about give and take? The supermarket is on his way home and it's 3 things FGS. Refusing is just downright out of order.

I often ring DH and ask him to pick up a few bits - today it was bog roll and branston pickle. He is happy to oblige, after all he does use bog roll (I hope). At the moment I have been a bit rubbish with the shopping as I can't push the pushchair through the snow, and as he is out anyway he is happy to do it.

If I had a DH who said "shopping is within your remit" and that was that i would be divorcing. Well I wouldn't have married him in the first place.

And incidentally, if DH does need a hand with anything to do with work, I am happy to help. Isn't helping each other out kind of fundamental to a relationship.