To expect my DP would pop into the supermarket on his way home?

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We go shopping together on Saturdays. By Friday we generally have nothing in, I don't drive and am sahm to two toddlers.

I asked him if he'd pop into the supermarket (it's next door to the train sttion on is way home) and he said no way.

It happens all the time. he refuses and I end up buying food, coffee, nappies etc from local shops which is almost twice the price.

He suggested I go out shopping after he gets in, a 20 minute walk in rain, and I'd have to wait until the DC were settled first.

I could explode.

Look.

She can't carry a full weekly shop.

She usually pops out in the week to top up.

She couldn't pop out in the week because of buggy/snow.

DH passes supermarket on way home.

She says can he get some stuff.

He says no.

WTF???

lol marla

that sounds like hard work actually (for you). Sorry to hear about your dh's work. Actually, it is so so shite when you are deeply unhappy at work (your dh I mean). Can understand why you are doing what you are doing but be careful you don't tire yourself out too much in the process.

he did it though tum

maybe he just likes moaning about going

I am probably right MariaSinger.

About everything.

I am fence sitting.

YANBU because he should be willing to pop into a shop, especially if it's on his way home. Marriage/partnership is all about sharing the load.

But then why can't you take toddlers shopping? I know it's not easy but if you never/rarely take them they won't learn how to behave. If you know you will run out of nappies/wipes/coffee/food for dinner then get yourself organised and go out in the day or book an online shop. And the entire country is not covered in feet of snow - many areas have no bad weather at all so no reason not to pop to the shop yourself. Cold and wet? Dress accordingly.

I imagine he is pissed off not because he has to go to the shop but because you appear to have made little effort to organise yourselves. It's the principle of the thing.

In that case he can be promoted from utterly selfish fuckwit to miserable whingeing git

oh marla, it's so easy to fall into that rut (of just doing maintenance all the time). Actually I salute you because it took us till our kids were in full time school to realise we had got into that rut. And why shouldn't you have a cleaner? Nowt wrong with that. Still loads of other house stuff to do as I'm sure you know!

lolol tum

A lie-in compensates for a lot marla. Worth it's weight in gold I reckon. Things all seem so insurmountable when you are worn out...

I remember going out for meals. And drinking and shagging all day and night...

Also getting dressed up a bit for work and going and doing that and earning good money and generally swanning around.

Nowadays it's all flat shoes and flabby tummies and MN...

I know.

You know what makes me laugh? Is thinking that before kids, there were days when I described myself as tired. TIRED. What was I thinking? I didn't discover the meaning of the word till I had children.

I too look back and think, oh all that time...where did it go!

And I look at my children and think how did they get to be 7 and 8! My eldest has only got 2 more school years left at primary school (after this one). Where did those years go?

It's like being on a roundabout parenthood. You get on, it starts going fast and you can't get off. But every now and then, you have to slow it down to get some perspective! Took me years and years to realise that!

My dh often stops at the supermarket on his way home from work and that's after an hour and a halfs drive.

He likes going shopping

oh shagging all day and night

I am a bit confused by those who think a DH getting the kids ready for bed is a chore. DH works FT and if he is home in time he always wants to do bedtime. He always baths DD and does PJs and stories as it is the only time he gets with her alone.

He also stops at the Supermarket if I need him to.

OP I think you need to look at this on line shopping comparison site. You put in your usual supermarket and type in your shop. It compares prices at all the big shops and even suggests better deals that have saved us loads of money. If you are a SAHM it may be easy to get the really cheap or even free delivery slots. That would leave you and DH to enjoy a Saturday stroll around the market for the veggies etc without worrying about lugging nappies home.

I think you need to talk to him, have some answers to his moans and groans (like on line shopping) and point out he needs to be willing to pop in occasionally, especially in weather like this!

A weekend away with DH would be fab.

Some of my friends have already done it with children same age as mine. But DD (18mo) will only sleep in her own bed and GPs unwilling to have her for a whole night let alone a weekend...

never mind she is a good sleeper so I count myself lucky

lol marla

they were just biding their time till you had kids

lol at the kittens woke me up