To expect my DP would pop into the supermarket on his way home?

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We go shopping together on Saturdays. By Friday we generally have nothing in, I don't drive and am sahm to two toddlers.

I asked him if he'd pop into the supermarket (it's next door to the train sttion on is way home) and he said no way.

It happens all the time. he refuses and I end up buying food, coffee, nappies etc from local shops which is almost twice the price.

He suggested I go out shopping after he gets in, a 20 minute walk in rain, and I'd have to wait until the DC were settled first.

I could explode.

It is sooo much easier to pop into the shop without having to drag take 2 kids with you.

When I did the commuting thing and DP had the kids during the day, I was happy enough to get what was needed.

And, tum, you're making an awful lot of judegments about the op's dh. Putting his feet up, making his wife hile and cook.

I do believe that after some grumbling, this particular dh has conceded and is wandering around aisles as we type. SO maybe he's not such a Victorian Dad.

Yeah and one would sort out the kids while the other shopped - if it hadnt already been done on the way home. That's what would happen if things were equal.

Cripes things move quickly on here

YANBU - he's a selfish arse.

Threads like this make me really really appreciate my dh. And on that note, I shall now go and cook him some tea......

oh yes

thsat was to izy

he didn't though did he

he went and did the shop and moaned and groaned. Probably exactly what I would have done. And I would have been resentful when I got home and narky too but probably would have had a drink and put my feet up and then calmed down.

But this wasn't a small shop. This was a big shop. So big that the OP admitted she wouldn't have been able to carry it back.

I think you sometimes need to see things from other people's perspectives. I'm saying after a hard day's work when you haven't seen your kids all day, especially on a Friday night, all you want to do is get home and put your feet up.

Having to go bloody shopping when you have a partner who stays at home would piss me off because I'd hope they would manage to do it during the week tbh.

"He suggested I go out shopping after he gets in, a 20 minute walk in rain, and I'd have to wait until the DC were settled first."

I don't think I've made any assumptions. She was putting the kids to bed first, then going out and getting the food, then carrying it home. OK maybe he was going to cook but OP has also said she doesn't think he's hungry anyway having been out for a massive long lunch while at work so doubtful...

uuuhhhh???
I can't believe some people on this thread.
popping into the shop after work is a pita and it's a SAHM remit??? No... popping into the shops with toddlers in the snow,when you can't drive and you can only do it today because you have so little money you have to wait for tax credits is a Pita.
and I've checked with dh
your dh is a lazy arse OP. Sorry.

"I made him go and he's phoned whilst moaning and groaning around the aisles."

You heard the op's perception of her dh and you heard what he actually ended up doing.

it's really not popping. Shall I give some more popping examples?

he went to the shops

jeez talk about man bashing

Fox, OP said the reason she ran out of things was because she couldn't carry a whole weeks shop with the buggy etc.

Not that the bits she needed she couldn't carry.

Why are you assuming that none of the people saying he should have gone have experience of working and then going shopping themselves? I will pop into the shop on the way home from work if we need anything, it cuts both ways...

she admitted it was a big shop! Too big to carry. That's not popping in. That's proper shopping.

YANBU at all! I cant believe there are people out there who think you are! As was mentioned earlier anyone seen the weather out there today? My dh wouldnt think twice about getting a few bits for me and wouldn't dream about letting me go out in the cold and dark!

The guy grumbled, was abit of an arse, then he did his duty. SOunds very normal, whether this was a working man or working woman.

yes but I'm someone who wouldn't want to so I'm giving you the benefit of my great 'doesn't like shopping on the way back from work' wisdom

he did it marla, so where's your issue with him? I would have moaned about doing it too but would have done it. I don't think not wanting to do it is a crime deserving of what he's been called on here.

yes, I'm someone who wouldn't want to, too.

Doesn't make me a total nob. I'm just a bit of an arse sometimes, that's all.

It was actually a v. short list, something for supper and some nappies and lightbulbs.

I would class that as "popping" and better for him to do it when the shop is next to the station, on his way home, than for the OP to head out when he gets home.

I am (mostly) a SAHM (some freelance) and I would be horrified if it were suggested that I am wholly responsible for domestic duties/shopping. Generally do it, but sometimes miss things or it occurs to me/dh that more is needed and he will get on way home.