to think my SIL is a "chav" for wanting to buy her wedding dress from BHS?

[Mamazon]

of course it's none of my business and im sure i should just mind my own but, really? BHS?

praps she intends to tinker with it to make it special...

i think almost all wedding dresses are mingin.

blinks I agree.
The whole wedding charade makes me want to boak!

I've always thought that the most
sophisticated people are the ones who know it doesn't matter where something is from as long as it looks good.
If she thought 'that'll do' I applaud her lack of vanity and assume she's going to focus on the meaning of her vows and having a fantastic party with friends and family.

Agree blinks
wedding dresses are pretty tasteless on the whole and the plainer the better in most cases, too many frills and brocade look cheap to me, each to their own of course.
Can't be arsed getting married, the whole thing seems like a stress and a fuss.

thumbwitch that is exactly the point! good post.

i bought mine second hand on ebay. cost me 30 quid.
couldnt afford a big wedding, only spent 500 quid on ours.
im not a chav.
and ive seen those dresses in BHS i would have LOVED to have had one, they are beautiful, even the bridesmaids dresses.

you are being an unreasonable snob

Here's mine.

£50 quid in the Monsoon sale, from £250. Had to get it drycleaned first as it had been tried on a fair bit. But it's silk crepe, a little beading, and was v. comfy and unfussy to wear. I still think it was nicer than dresses I've seen that were £700 odd, and shiny, sparkly and huge. I dunno - marriage is about the, well, marriage, surely, rather than being The Bride. I just don't think there's any point her spending hundreds more on a dress when she's found one she likes, just because it's from a shop with a slightly downmarket reputation. I think she's being sensible. And if she's anything like me, she's cutting back there so she can have fantastic food and really good wine, so you benefit, too.

Qally...

Thats the same as my Wedding dress, mine only £30 quid in the sale though!!

What good taste we have!

See, taste and common sense. Aren't our husbands lucky!

(Thirty?! I was robbed!)

Qally that is NICE!
But you would have looked beautiful in a bin bag

"Chav, Chava or Charva is a slang derogatory term applied to certain young people in the United Kingdom. The stereotypical image of a chav is a white aggressive teen or young adult, of working class background, who wears branded sports and casual clothing (baseball caps are also common) who often fights and engages in petty criminality and are often assumed to be unemployed or in a low paid job."

Doesn't sound like your sister.

YABU

sadly turk that does pretty much describe my SIL.

In that case YANBU

I would have thought that a 'chav' would want a dress with D&G emblazoned across the front of her dress or be a Jordan/Kerry K/WAG wannabe.

Perhaps she's just being pragmatic.

Yes.

yes.

The chavviest wedding of all time was David and Victoria Beckham. I can't see VB buying her dress at BHS.

And, as you said, it's none of your business. I hope for your sake she's not TTC and lurking.

If you had to write such a nasty post, you should at least have put it in Chat. It'll hang around in AIBU forever like an unexploded landmine. Your DB will not be impressed if your SIL ever stumbles upon it.

yunno, the OP has the makings of a SIL from hell. the kind people come on MN to whinge about.

Qally & girly that looks exactly like my beautiful monsoon dress for my wedding to my fabulous gorgeous 2nd DH. As it was my second wedding (and his) we didn't want a lot of fuss and the main thing is, we chose the right partners, it wasn't about the dress. I love it and chose it because it wasn't too OTT and I may be able to wear it again eg to a ball/dance. Think mine cost around £150 though.
For my first wedding 16 years ago I had a ridiculously stupid expensive meringue dress which I hated (mother chose it) and IICR it cost around £800 and that was a stupid amount of money then, let alone now. Not only did I choose the wrong dress but also the wrong husband.
What matters is SIL and her DH are happy, have a lovely day, a lovely life together and don't get in debt for one day.

My wedding dress was from BHS, as were my bridesmaids' dresses, all of our shoes, my veil and all of our tiaras. I think we all looked great. Why spend a fortune when you're happy with something that doesn't cost a fortune? Our tiaras were in the sale reduced to £3 each, so I didn't think, no I won't buy them, they don't cost enough, I bought spares in case any got broken (we got married in the Dominican Republic, so had to travel out there with all the bridal stuff).

DH's wedding suit cost more, but he's worn it lots of times. I've worn my dress twice (wedding and reception in UK). Makes perfect sense to me.

Get over yourself. Sounds like you are just spoiling for a fight.

YABVU

YABU my dear! Nowt wrong with BHS. Not got the best reputation for some reason but who cares?

It sounds sensible not to spend a fortune on a dress you will never wear again.

Maybe she knew roughly what she wanted and they happened to have it or something similar and she decided it was best to buy it there rather in the 'proper' bridal shop where it would be much more expensive?

ah Qally it is a lovely dress, but as you are ravishingly beautiful, young and gorgeously svelte you aren't the best person to make the point
look at you! look at your dh! look at the backdrop! no-one was looking at the dress love, sorry to disappoint you.

mamazon is neither a troll nor is she spoiling for a fight ....most have said she is BU and she has taken that in good humour....

Qually you look gorgeous in your dress but i think you would look gorgeous in any dress

mamazon...i do think yabu and maybe chav was the wrong choice of words. As long as they have a good day and a happy marriage then surely that is all that matters X

I like the BHS dresses, mine cost £850 7 years ago and whilst I loved it, it was a wedding dress, worn for one day (well, I also lent it to my friend). My tiara was in the sale at Debenhams and my shoes came from Next (I really wanted expensive shoes but could find none to match). I had a wonderful time, have some great pictures and, most importantly, have a gorgeous husband and happy marriage. Now I wouldn't even consider spending that much on a dress, but it was pre-dc with 2 incomes so OK.

BHS have always done good bridesmaid dresses, great that they've expanded their range.

And Qually, you looked amazing, but then, as everyone says you'd have looked great in anything