to think my SIL is a "chav" for wanting to buy her wedding dress from BHS?

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of course it's none of my business and im sure i should just mind my own but, really? BHS?

you should get off them and let them out

I think you may be right twofalls.

god I hate the word chav
if you're objection to bhs is that thousands of other people will war the same dress, then that means you look down upon anyone who buys a dress on the high street
was yours made just for you?
Mine was from Monsoon and twas lovely

crossed posts, ah you're not married? okay, amybe a teeny bit of SIL getting married and being the star of the show?

My dress was off the peg, I suppose. Aren't most peoples? The majority do not have an individual dress made.
So I assume that most womans dress's DO INFACT look the same as 1000's of other womans.

You are being a bitch for even judging her in your own head never mind coming on MN and proclaiming your disgust. Shame on you. Wouldn't want you for a SIL.

In that case, I would probably try steer clear of wedding talk with them because EVERYTHING she does is going to wind you up

Nobody even notices the dress after perhaps the first five minutes. Weddings are all about getting pissed and pulling, imho.

A chav? or on a budget?

I bought my dress in the Monsoon sale. I would've looked in BHS if they'd been doing their wedding line back then.

I couldn't afford Vera Wang, sorry.

god no im not jealous in the slightest.

personally i'd rather go to Oxfam and get a vintage dress and get it altered to fit.

she doesn't MN so she wont be seeing this. she did at once stage - she was so vile you all hounded her out so trust me, it's not her thats the unlucky one to be the SIL.

In fact i have offered all sorts of help to them both and am indeed a very good Sil to her.

i have very good friends whom i love dearly, does that mean i can't query some of their decisions? I haven't spoken to her about it but when i do i shall point out the various other places she could buy an equally proced dress.
if she still loves the one from BHS then i will be happy for her, its just that i think she hasn't really put much thought into it and will regret it later.

but then Dp wants to get married in vegas in an Elvis suit, so i have bigger battles to fight

Oh Ruby - im maid of honour apparantly. but only if i buy my own dress. i wonder where i could buy a replica of number 2 on that list? its beautifull!

I think this is more about the SIL than BHS

Maybe she tried on hundreds of dresses, and the BHS one happens to be the one that fits perfectly and gave her the aaaaaa feeling?

DON'T GO TO THE WEDDING! You'll will ruin it!

Don't you think the Elvis thing hs ben done, done and done again? A bit tired now.
Don;t understznd why your are so BOTHERED about your SIL's wedding, whether you like her or not. Find yourself something important to think about.

Haven't read the whole thread but you sound like a ghastly snob, OP.

Now steady on. No need to be nasty to OP.

im not bothered by it. i certainly won't be nlosing any sleep over it. it was just when i was told i thought "but why"

i know its none of my business, i said that in the OP.

TBH if she arrived in jeans and t shirt i woudln't be bothered.

they have 2 children together already and they just seem to have decided on a whim to get married. there has been no planning or thinking about it, its just a case of why not.

IMHO i think they will regret not putting a little more effort into it.

And yes gateau - i do think Elvis has been done to death and have no intentions of dressing as Priscilla. hence my bigger battle!

I'd say YABU. BHS and Debenhams do some lovely dresses. I got married in Belgium where you have to get legally married in the town hall before you can do the church thing. Because they were on different days I got a BHS dress in the sale (£50) for the first event (with only about 10 people present) I personalised it with a sash and everyone thought it was lovely. My 'big' church dress was a sale one (ex catwalk model) and 'only' £300, which is a lot less that a lot of people spend on their dress. Again an off the peg one made of polyester, but it looked good and it gave me all that extra cash to spend on the food and drink I just felt that with 2 dcs I couldn't really justify spending over £1000 on a dress I'd wear only once in my life.

Oh and chav wouldn't be exactly what I call someone buying stuff at BHS

I see issues.... Poor SIL.

I see you'd go for a vintage dress from a 2nd hand shop. Tried than: you have no idea how expensive vintage dresses are! The only dresses that ever end up in charity shops near me are horrible 80's style things with big fluffy sleever or loads of pearls and glittery bits sewn onto them.

I am wearing a BHS dress in the office today.

www.bhs.co.uk/mall/productpage.cfm/bhsstore/34877/217405 this one]]

I think it is rather nice, perhaps a touch plain, but the last word you could use to describe it is "chavy".

the best weddings are the ones where the bride dosn' get stressed out looking for the 'perfect' dress and planning it for years imo